Hypothetical.. If you saw someone sending their kid to..

[lucky513]

no because probably a lot has changed since I went there

I went to the same catholic school as my dad and he got hit with the ruler I did not

[sugarbear]

Well, are you familiar with the school, today?

[themysteriouswife]

Nope, Unless I had a recent experience. Even then I would be hesitant. I hate when people try to tell me what to do or not do with my child's education. Hearing from an old friend who knows little about my child would send me over.

[Deleted]

Nope. Not my kid=not my place to comment on where they are educated.

[Captain Serious]

Jul 22, 2014 22:36:45 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

Nope, Unless I had a recent experience. Even then I would be hesitant. I hate when people try to tell me what to do or not do with my child's education. Hearing from an old friend who knows little about my child would send me over.

Exactly this, especially if they has no first-hand knowledge of the school now.

[Captain Serious]

A lot can change in 2 or 3 decades.

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Jul 22, 2014 22:38:46 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Jul 22, 2014 22:32:08 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

no because probably a lot has changed since I went there

I went to the same catholic school as my dad and he got hit with the ruler I did not

OK, this I see, absolutely.

Though, ours was less physical and more emotional.

I guess, a part of my hesitation, is that a lot of very religious people sent their children to our academy.. and they came out atheist or agnostic.  She is religious herself.  I think the academy a half mile away is more welcoming and has more kids that graduate that accept the Christian faith.

Now, I'm not arguing whether that is right or wrong in itself.  Just, the place that I went to, actively turned people off from Christianity.  Where our rival was much more loving.  Does that make sense?

Who is to say that this school is the only place where said child is spiritually fed. She may be involved in her church and youth groups and whatever else. I feel like you want to come from a caring place, but its not really your place.

I'm sorry that you had that experience at a school that was supposed to foster spiritual and intellectual growth. That's pretty messed up.

[sparkythelawyer]

I would assume the parents had their reasons and leave it alone.

[lime]

No, given how much time has passed.

[flamingeaux]

If she starts talking about her daughter having a similar experience to yours, I might say something then, so she can start seeing how she wants to deal with the problem. As in is it just a few teachers causing the problems or is it something to do with the school as a whole. But unless she says something, I would just assume that things have changed, as teachers and administrators move around/retire.

[sugarbear]

Jul 22, 2014 22:44:18 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Jul 22, 2014 22:34:41 GMT -5 sugarbear said:

Well, are you familiar with the school, today?

Jul 22, 2014 22:36:45 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

Nope, Unless I had a recent experience. Even then I would be hesitant. I hate when people try to tell me what to do or not do with my child's education. Hearing from an old friend who knows little about my child would send me over.

I am not, except I am still friends with some current, well loved teachers.

And, I don't mean extreme like all day preaching from a bible.  I mean extreme like, as it's a private school, you agree to pay for Spring Camp whether your kid goes or not.  And, if they do go, it's 2-3 hour church sessions each night where they call you up in front of everyone and refuse to let you return to your seat unless you "give yourself over to God" and speak in tongues.  And on the 3rd day, they woke us at 4 AM and bused us to Mt Si and gave each group of 8 a six foot, lightweight wooden cross that we had to take turns carrying up the mountain (4 miles of trails, nothing hard, but still).

That's what I mean.

I think I thought you went to a different school.

This sounds awful, but are they intentional about telling new families about the student experience? I mean, do you think your friend doesn't know?

[sherbanator]

I am really curious which school this is.

[RoxMonster]

I would not unless they specifically asked for opinions on the school. Then, I would be honest with them.

[papie]

No. I am 36, it was a looooong time ago.

[Deleted]

No.

[themoneytree]

I'll be the dissenting voice. I would want to know if it were my kid and someone had a shitty experience there. I wouldn't necessarily write it off as an option, but I would ask more questions and seek out other reviews.

[goonfest]

As an adult, I realized a popular Catholic retreat that I went on as a high school senior was emotionally manipulative and a bit cult-like. I didn't say anything when my younger cousin went through it last year. It's not my place. I would have said something if there was physical danger.