That invitation? Id probably go planning to pay for myself but I'll be honest - a pizza party? The host should pick up the damn tab.
I really don't mind paying when it comes to a real sit down/ nice dinner. But pizza? Come on.
This is really strange logic to me. I understand that pizza is cheap so it is easier for the honoree to pick up the tab. But on the other hand, essentially you're saying that it is fine for the birthday boy/girl to invite you to a restaurant not of your choosing (and not necessarily of your taste) where the meal will cost, say, $75 per person, and then expect you to pay your own way, but it is not okay to expect guests to chip in $10 each for pizza and beer?
Yeah, it's strange. I get it. I don't mind having to pay my way, though, and I understand that at a "order your own meal" place, it can get to be too expensive for one person to pay for it all. I like to eat out, though, and i like to see friends. So - paying wouldn't bother me.
I wouldn't be pissed to pay for my own pizza - but I guess I just see that it's so inexpensive that to try and divvy it up among the guests just feels cheap.
I just don't like the "come to a restaurant, celebrate my birthday, buy your own food and drinks, and oh yeah where's my gift?"
Yeah, we don't do gifts. Does that make it any better? The birthday is really just an excuse for everyone to get together and go out to eat. Text message invitation. Birthday person also pays their own way.
This will be interesting come his birthday party in a few weeks.
I always expect to pay my own meal but since the wording was like this, wasn't sure if it was covered. To be fair, I do think that pizzas and soft drinks for 15 people will be around $175 total if the host paid. I guess we will see.
I would expect to pay for mine and part of the birthday person's meal. Out of curiosity for those that expect their meal to be covered- how would you word an invite that conveyed the host expected you to pay your way?
I wouldn't. I'm guessing for people who would expect it to be covered, we always expect/hope it will be covered. Based on personal experience I have some friends who would cover a party like this and some who would expect people to pay for them. I'm obviously the former.
Anything with an invitation should be covered by the host, IMO. A quick phone call or text message would be more casual and more like a "hey, want to grab dinner together?" kind of vibe.
We have paid for pizza and soda for everyone a couple of times for DH's birthday.
Normally with my friends everyone pays their own meals for birthdays. We never go anywhere fancy though. Last friend was a Venezuelan place at $10 a plate.
Post by emilyinchile on Jul 24, 2014 12:32:39 GMT -5
Hmm, I said based on the wording - which seemed to me like it was trying to be a nice way of saying "come out with us, but we're not saying that we invite you for dinner in the sense that we'll pay for it" - that I'd expect to pay my own way, but I skimmed that large pizzas were $17. I was thinking more the kind of pizza place where each one is personal sized and thin crust, not like big pizzas and beers. That makes splitting more difficult since presumably people will eat different amounts and different toppings of shared pizzas rather than each ordering their own and having separate checks, so I hope they just pay for everyone or get a bunch of pizzas to start off and then let people order additional stuff separately if they want.
I went to a 40th birthday party of a friend - the husband invited me via email and wanted to celebrate his beautiful wife's birthday at their favorite restaurant where they have a relationship with the chef/owner. Couple has plenty of discretionary income. We had to preorder menu selections since it was a large group.
Not only did we have to pay, we had to throw down more money just to be able to leave the table (not enough people put in their fair share). I was pissed.
The only time I had a birthday at a restaurant, Mr. Insom paid for it. It wasn't my idea - it was a surprise. I'd never have a birthday at a restaurant because then I'd have to pay for everyone and I'm cheap. lol