@starry, I'm sensitive about red-shirting posts because inevitably the late-born smarty-pants (or moms of them) show up to say that they did fine. Well, my kid struggled! If I had just held him in my womb 5 more days (and given birth to a 10lb child, lol), I could've avoided it! (He's fine now, though.)
If it makes you feel better, red shirting makes me so nervous. DS was born on 09/12 and our cut-off is 10/1. I have no idea what to do about it. He's not yet two and this issue stresses me out. People have already asked me what we are going to do and I don't have any answer. My gut is to send him and if he needs help, just get him a tutor, but I don't know. I really wish red shirting wasn't an option. It's the bell curve. Someone has to be the oldest, youngest, tallest, shortest, etc. and there is nothing wrong with that. Sigh... it makes my head spin.
I have an August 13th baby and a Sept 1st cut off.
Recently a friend who's kids are 10 months older, so born in October, pointed out that J will be in the same class as her kids if they go to the same school.
I seriously can't stop thinking about how much younger he seems than them.
I know the difference lessens a bit with age but, right now, it seems like he'd be at a big disadvantage as the youngest in the class.
I think J will be in school the same year as karinothing toddler. This always blows my mind as she seems SO MUCH YOUNGER than her son right now.
Redshirting is one of the reasons (in addition to me needing a break and baby number two coming) that we have enrolled H in preschool at the age of 2. Since I SAH, he has never been in a setting with his peers without me and if he is going to be one of the younger kids, I want him to be comfortable in a classroom setting. I'm also super grateful that he's tall and people might now realise he'll be one of the youngest. It just blows my mind that he might go to school with kids that did red shirt and they might be 12/14 months older than he is.
I have an August 13th baby and a Sept 1st cut off.
Recently a friend who's kids are 10 months older, so born in October, pointed out that J will be in the same class as her kids if they go to the same school.
I seriously can't stop thinking about how much younger he seems than them.
I know the difference lessens a bit with age but, right now, it seems like he'd be at a big disadvantage as the youngest in the class.
I think J will be in school the same year as karinothing toddler. This always blows my mind as she seems SO MUCH YOUNGER than her son right now.
Will she? DS will start when he is just shy of 6. So I guess that is Fall of 2017? Man that seems far away and close at the same time.
Anyway, I think the difference between young kids at this age is HUGE compared to kids that are a little bit older.
I have an August 13th baby and a Sept 1st cut off.
Recently a friend who's kids are 10 months older, so born in October, pointed out that J will be in the same class as her kids if they go to the same school.
I seriously can't stop thinking about how much younger he seems than them.
I know the difference lessens a bit with age but, right now, it seems like he'd be at a big disadvantage as the youngest in the class.
I think J will be in school the same year as karinothing toddler. This always blows my mind as she seems SO MUCH YOUNGER than her son right now.
And if I redshirt hazel, she could go to school with her;)
I went out for drinks with some people I volunteer with last night. I only had 2 beers over the course of 3 hours, but I am soooooo hung over today. Ugh. I feel old. And hanging with them made me really miss working there.
I just had the floor dropped from me at work. I thought this promotion was going to be a good thing, but apparently it's just a nicer paycheck. I'm just waiting for more bad news at this point. I wish DH would be up for re-locating.
DH and I were both on the younger sides of our class and it worked just fine for us. DD is on the other side and will turn 6 a couple of months into K (projecting forward a few years here), which seems odd to us since we were 5 and I didn't turn 6 until the summer before 1st (late June birthday). That said, I'm a fan of kids being allowed to be in the class they actually belong in - those who aren't ready can stay back and those who are more than ready can go early. I see no problem with kids being different ages from others in their class, as long as it's appropriate for them. Of course, when you think too hard about it, you realize that some kids are going to be intellectually a couple of grades ahead but socially not ready to move forward and vice versa, and that's when the whole school system falls apart. I generally think the whole schooling process should be much more individualized (flexible really) to allow kids to learn at different paces and interact with different age kids. This view may have been influenced by the fact that I ended up being homeschooled for most of my childhood (starting in 2nd grade) - but I don't believe that homeschooling is a general solution.
I finished off a bag of DD's vanilla cupcake goldfish yesterday and then pretended the cleaning lady hid them somewhere weird when DD asked about them. I meant to go to the store and buy more before she came home from camp, but didn't get a chance...
Basically to me it isn't so helpful to be like GLAD I DON'T HAVE TO MAKE THE CHOICE, my child was born in October. I mean I would be happy for that too, no need to share IMO.
Move to New York. The cut-off is in December. DD has lots of friends with fall birthdays and it made zero difference in kindergarten last year.
ETA: I read your post wrong. So you would rather keep her back? Okay, KOKO. I honestly don't have a dog in the redshirting fight. I am young for my grade (December bday with December cut-off). DH is way, way old for his grade (August birthday whose mother decided to hold him back when the cut-off was 4 days after his birthday). We just grew up thinking whatever our parents did was normal. It was only an issue when we were dating in college and I was 2 years ahead of him, but wanted all of my friends to know that we were the same age.
And if I redshirt hazel, she could go to school with her;)
Noooo lol. I am trying to think of Js peers if she gets red shirted.
I do get being concerned. I'm actually less worried the older dd1 gets. I can't tell who is 6 mos older/younger anymore. As an 8/24 birthday myself, I have faith
My FIL came over this morning and completely cleaned my kitchen and vacuumed the main floor. He also played with Nods and told us how adorable the new baby is. I love living near family that will raise my kids and help us around the house when we have a newborn.
That is so sweet! Great family is the best. While I was in the hospital after delivering DS, I made an offhand comment to my parents of "now we get to go home to our dirty house." My parents let themselves in and cleaned the WHOLE HOUSE, top to bottom. We were shocked when we got home. Best present ever.
I saw a pic DH took of me over memorial day weekend and was like "do I really look that fat?" and he honestly said that's what you look like. Not mean, just yes sweetie, the picture is right.
And yet, even with weaning I can't get the weight to come off.
With you here. I thought nursing would be magical for weight loss, nope. Surely weaning will be, nope! Left to my own sweat and calorie counting, which sucks!