Welcome! I told your story at least twice over the past several days!!
I agree that time will be the best help with the nanny.
As for the "ask me anything" part--were you actively seeking to have children when this all came up (the first time), or was this all a surprise?
Congrats on your newest addition
We knew we would eventually adopt. Doctors say I can't have children of my own, so adoption was always our plan. (I wanted to adopt, even before I knew I couldn't have kids) We were not looking to adopt quite so quickly.
I had told family that we would take the girls if it ever came to it. They spent a lot of time with us. Their mom would drop them off and disappear for long periods of time. I hated seeing the life they were in.
It took a long time for CPS to finally step in. The girls were in temporary care for a very short time after being removed from their home, and we were the first call for a permanent foster placement. There is no chance of returning to their mom. So, we are in the waiting period before the adoption can be finalized.
I wouldn't change a thing. =)
Such a great story. I'm so happy for you (and for them!!)
Post by sunnysideup488 on Jul 28, 2014 12:32:39 GMT -5
I will try leaving the room. Maybe walk around the block and see if me not being nearby will help.
I did mention the perfume. (We have a good relationship, so I wasn't worried about mentioning it) she volunteered to go home and shower and change. She REALLY wants C to let her hold her. Haha.
Congrats I think what you are doing is amazing. Is there any reason think there may be something medical going on, birth trauma or possible withdrawal?
Congrats I think what you are doing is amazing. Is there any reason think there may be something medical going on, birth trauma or possible withdrawal?
They are concerned about Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Mom had been drinking when she showed up in labor. I'm not sure if there is a test that looks into that or not? It may have been done if it exists. We haven't received her full medical record yet. Maybe that is causing part of it.
I had been lurk-reading your C saga on MM, I'm so glad you decided to join us here! You're an incredible woman, my hat is off to you. You're doing a great job with these kids. I think C just needs more time with the nanny. She was just born, newborns often don't like anyone KWIM. She just needs time to settle into her life. Congrats on the new addition!
I also saw (and cried over) your posts on MM. It makes me so happy that Charlotte will have a stable home and loving arms. She and your other girls are VERY fortunate and I am so grateful to you and your H for opening your home and hearts.
I bet it's the perfume. Say that your pedi mentioned that they are sensitive to it and would she be willing to try without for a couple of days?
I remember you mentioning on MM that you didn't have anything for a baby. Has there been a collection set up or are there specific things that we can help get you set up with?
I also saw (and cried over) your posts on MM. It makes me so happy that Charlotte will have a stable home and loving arms. She and your other girls are VERY fortunate and I am so grateful to you and your H for opening your home and hearts.
I bet it's the perfume. Say that your pedi mentioned that they are sensitive to it and would she be willing to try without for a couple of days?
I remember you mentioning on MM that you didn't have anything for a baby. Has there been a collection set up or are there specific things that we can help get you set up with?
My mother in law's church brought a ton of baby stuff over for us on Saturday. We are pretty set for a while. But thank you!
Post by whitepicketfence on Jul 28, 2014 15:54:08 GMT -5
I've been following your posts on MM and just wanted to say congrats on your growing family! These kids are so lucky to have you and your DH in their lives.
Post by scribellesam on Jul 28, 2014 15:59:17 GMT -5
Welcome! I've been following your story a little bit on MM and I was so excited to hear about your new surprise baby girl!
I'm afraid I don't have much of use to suggest re: the nanny issue. Hopefully as she gets used to the nanny she'll feel more safe around her and enjoy being held more.
Post by londoncalling on Jul 28, 2014 17:38:37 GMT -5
Welcome and congrats!
My friend volunteers in our NICU as a baby cuddler and they have the volunteers wear a vest that mom launders and wears when she's there. So I agree with trying the smell component.
I will try leaving the room. Maybe walk around the block and see if me not being nearby will help.
I did mention the perfume. (We have a good relationship, so I wasn't worried about mentioning it) she volunteered to go home and shower and change. She REALLY wants C to let her hold her. Haha.
So did your nanny leave on Friday to two little girls, then come into work Monday to three little girls?! Because I'm sure the look on her face must have been priceless
I will try leaving the room. Maybe walk around the block and see if me not being nearby will help.
I did mention the perfume. (We have a good relationship, so I wasn't worried about mentioning it) she volunteered to go home and shower and change. She REALLY wants C to let her hold her. Haha.
So did your nanny leave on Friday to two little girls, then come into work Monday to three little girls?! Because I'm sure the look on her face must have been priceless
She left Friday to two girls. But I did let her know that she would be coming to three on Monday. She was pretty shocked. Haha. But she gets a pay increase on top of baby snuggles, so that is nice for her. =)