I love my younger brother. He's fun and even though he made me talk about jury nullification for 45 minutes on his birthday, I think he's great. We're 5.5 years apart so we haven't always been at life stages where we had a ton in common, and we're very different people, but I wouldn't trade him for anything.
I'm happy for L that she's going to have a younger brother, like I did. I had visions of her having a sister just like the movies, but I've come to remember how much I loved having a brother and hope she does too. I have no idea what it's like to be a boy with an older sister, but I hope O likes it. Ha ha.
I have a younger (by fifteen months) brother. I am ambivalent. We were close as kids, not so much as teenagers, then close again in our twenties. Now not so much. I feel like he forgot to grow up and he tends to be an ass. But he is pretty good with my kids and with us, just an ass in the rest of his life.
Eta: just saw the options. I am happy I have a brother, I guess. I always wanted a sister.
This is my brother exactly. I wouldn't trust him to borrow my car, but I'd trust him with my kiddos' lives. I rarely ever talk to him and I roll my eyes about him all the time, but I'm glad he's there. I also have a step sister. We were never close as kids or teens (she had some step mother/real mother/fitting in/weekend rules/typical step kid issues), but we're very close as adults. It is interesting to see how we each relate to my mom.
When we were on the fence about #2, I thought a lot about all this. My kids are six years apart, so they won't be close as kids. They just won't have many common interests. They're also not likely to fight over toys and such too often - lol. But life is long and I like that they will always have each other.
I have one brother and would have loved to have more siblings. DH has one brother and three half sisters and I absolutely love getting together with his family. My immediate family is very quiet by comparison.
I am a SS. I have a younger sister (16 months), she's one of my best friends and one of the few people who has a compatible sense of humor to mine I just couldn't imagine not having her to laugh and be silly with. I have a half brother who is 16 years older than me (I'm 24, he's 40) and we just don't get along.
Post by fivechickens on Jul 29, 2014 6:40:16 GMT -5
I have an older brother and a much younger half sister.
My brother and I don't have much of a relationship. He keeps to himself a lot and doesn't communicate with anyone unless we initiate. I tried to after our mom died but life happened and we got busy. I love him, he is my brother, but I wish he made an effort with keeping in touch with us. So I feel like an only child at time but don't wish I was.
My half sister (same dad) is 22 years younger than me and lives Virginia. My dad and I are not close and as a result my sister and I aren't close. We are FB friends and I see a lot of similarites in our personalities which is kind of cool (and annoying, ha!). My dad has been shitty to her in the past and it pisses me off.
Post by Tootsieroll on Jul 29, 2014 6:51:58 GMT -5
I got the best of both worlds. I was an only until my sister was born when I was 14, then my brother at 18. They are 11 and 7 now and they are my buddies! I can't imagine not having them and hope we continue to get closer. I loved the one on one time with my parents when I was little, but I always really wanted siblings. I'd post a picture, but you know, not a safe place. Just trust me that we are really adorable.
I'm an only, and I was okay with it as a kid. I had lots of cousins and friends. Now, I wish I had siblings. I see how close my cousins and friends are with their siblings, and it's tough.
SS here. I have an oldest half sister who I honestly think we'd be better off without. She's insanely jealous, selfish, and manipulative. She's my dad's daughter, and thinks that all of his time/resources/etc belong to her. My dad does NOT play favorites, but you can't convince her of that. She treats my dad like crap and makes him feel like a bad father. She's also stolen the identity of my 2nd half sister and ran up all kinds of debt. She wasn't even sorry, and I think she'd do it again to any of us given the chance. We're 12 years apart in age, and she views me as spoiled, the favorite, and "perfect". I'm guessing its a typical response between the oldest and the youngest - plus some divorced kid guilt. She teaches her kids that my parents are rich (they aren't) but only spend the money on me and my other sister (they don't).
There's 4 years between me and the middle sister (mom's daughter). She and I grew up together and most of the time saw ourselves as only 2 kids in the family (oldest sister lived with her mom and wanted nothing to do with dad for a long time). Like most siblings growing up we went through phases where we got along and others where we fought a lot. We have very different personalities and that makes it hard to talk to each other sometimes. We don't talk/email/text a ton, but we know we've got each other's back. She lives about 1,000 miles from me and we've never gotten along better.
I'm an only child. My dad was remarried when I was 13 and I gained 2 step brothers and a step sister. He soon adopted them after, so technically they're my half siblings. My mom was remarried when I was 17 and I gained 3 step sisters and a step brother. I never lived with any of them, but my 2 step sisters were with us every other weekend (though I was off at college a year after they married). While I have 7 siblings, I don't have any blood siblings. I wish I had someone who grew up with me and can understand the relationships I have with my parents/siblings. I see the relationship my half siblings and step siblings have with each other and I wish I had that.