I totally get that in 99.9999% of circumstances this is weird and unimaginable and so wrong. I honestly do. It's just an entirely different world here.
I am rethinking how to approach it though, so thank you.
FTR, it's not an "open" position that anyone can apply for. You have to be asked. Usually you're just chosen and boom, it's your job. It's unusual to have two people coming in to interview for it.
Cool, so here is how your conversation with your boss SHOULD go:
"Hey boss. I know that this position is available and my husband is very interested in it. Would you consider him, and if so, what would be the best way for him to submit his resume?"
Post by MixedBerryJam on Jul 31, 2014 10:16:30 GMT -5
AND AND AND if this were such a great idea, you wouldn't be more nervous about it than you've ever been in your life. You'd be all, "What a winner of an idea I have here!" You'd be nervous/excited. Not nervous/scared.
I totally get that in 99.9999% of circumstances this is weird and unimaginable and so wrong. I honestly do. It's just an entirely different world here.
I am rethinking how to approach it though, so thank you.
FTR, it's not an "open" position that anyone can apply for. You have to be asked. Usually you're just chosen and boom, it's your job. It's unusual to have two people coming in to interview for it.
Cool, so here is how your conversation with your boss SHOULD go:
"Hey boss. I know that this position is available and my husband is very interested in well qualified for it. Would you consider him, and if so, what would be the best way for him to submit his resume learn more about it? I have a copy of his resume right here for you, along with his cover letter"
I totally get that in 99.9999% of circumstances this is weird and unimaginable and so wrong. I honestly do. It's just an entirely different world here.
I am rethinking how to approach it though, so thank you.
FTR, it's not an "open" position that anyone can apply for. You have to be asked. Usually you're just chosen and boom, it's your job. It's unusual to have two people coming in to interview for it.
Cool, so here is how your conversation with your boss SHOULD go:
"Hey boss. I know that this position is available and my husband is very interested in it. Would you consider him, and if so, what would be the best way for him to submit his resume?"
Cool, so here is how your conversation with your boss SHOULD go:
"Hey boss. I know that this position is available and my husband is very interested in it. Would you consider him, and if so, what would be the best way for him to submit his resume?"
THIS. Full Stop. This. Beginning and end of conversation.
OMG. I almost can't put any other words together. It FLOORS me that you think begging and bribing your boss is a GOOD IDEA and somehow acceptable it your "unconventional workplace".
Also, this isn't one of these situations where ML doesn't know your lyfe and you should go ahead and do it anyways. If you want to approach your boss just let him know that your H is interested in applying for X position and that he (your H) will be contacting hiring manager directly. That's it. All the other stuff is irrelevant.
Cool, so here is how your conversation with your boss SHOULD go:
"Hey boss. I know that this position is available and my husband is very interested in well qualified for it. Would you consider him, and if so, what would be the best way for him to submit his resume learn more about it? I have a copy of his resume right here for you, along with his cover letter"
Better yet.
Yes, even better! I was going for speed in case this situation was imminent, but I agree that your edits are even better.
Cool, so here is how your conversation with your boss SHOULD go:
"Hey boss. I know that this position is available and my husband is very interested in well qualified for it. Would you consider him, and if so, what would be the best way for him to submit his resume learn more about it? I have a copy of his resume right here for you, along with his cover letter"
Better yet.
Yes, even better! I was going for speed in case this situation was imminent, but I agree that your edits are even better.
Post by autumnfire on Jul 31, 2014 10:24:02 GMT -5
My husband did something similar for me. Only in the context of asking him to maybe consider my abilities. I applied for one position at the company but was a great fit for another job that needed more resources. The fact that I could bring other elements to the table was enticing to my husbands boss. I then made a follow up call with said boss and did my own 'selling' of why I'd be a good fit. I didn't really end up having an interview for the position I now hold. I did for the other one. But if DH went about it the way you are I would say no no no. Your Dh should apply on some level for the position known or not. Even if it's an email to your boss saying "___ has notified me that you have an opening at your company that matches what I'm looking for in a job. My skill sets align with what you're looking for. I understand how unconventional this may seem but I've attached my resume and appreciate your time and consideration."
Let your DH sell himself. Otherwise not only may he loose respect for you but he could also side eye your DH for having his wife do this for him. My H only poked after I had applied, I was in charge of the rest.
I'm offering a pay cut because I feel my boss will say he can't hire his assistant's DH. However, that's only about 5% of my job. So my offer will be to NOT be his assistant anymore and switch roles with someone else, yet keep all of my other duties.
Back to this - what does this have to do w hiring his assistant's DH AND in turn, how does what the roles of her job vs your job have to do with this position that your DH is interested in OR in your boss's desire to hire his assistant's DH?
Cool, so here is how your conversation with your boss SHOULD go:
"Hey boss. I know that this position is available and my husband is very interested in well qualified for it. Would you consider him, and if so, what would be the best way for him to submit his resume learn more about it? I have a copy of his resume right here for you, along with his cover letter"
Better yet.
Thank you. We will work on this tonight and I'll take to my boss tomorrow. I already feel a little less anxious.
Healthcare for your family for life? Isn't that a deal only senators get? I would not sell yourself short, because things could change and you would have handicapped yourself for life.
I get health care of life if I retire with the feds. Just have to pay for it
Guys, I was just chosen for a new job! I was out running errands, and some guy in a trench coat came out of an alley and told me that I will report for duty on Monday AM. Pretty sure this is going to be amazing.
Guys, I was just chosen for a new job! I was out running errands, and some guy in a trench coat came out of an alley and told me that I will report for duty on Monday AM. Pretty sure this is going to be amazing.
Post by EmilieMadison on Jul 31, 2014 10:41:49 GMT -5
I hope this makes sense to you, but in case you haven't gotten it yet: THIS IS THE WORST IDEA EVER IN THE HISTORY OF WORST IDEAS
Now, I understand that you may have an unconventional workplace. You work for a laobr union. Which isn't particularly unconventional? WTF. Anyway. That's not the issue because OMG WOMAN. Have some self respect! If your husband is a good fit for the job and your boss would consider hiring him, it should have nothing to do with your job or your salary.
Any person (but sadly, a woman especially) who would basically say "Someone else could easily do my job and you could pay me less and I'd happily let you if only you'd hire my spouse" would immediately be viewed as non-essential, weak, unmotivated, and as not very intelligent.