My mil has a first name she despises amd goes by her middle name so i LOVE that suggestion to call her a name she doesnt like which would be her first name. Once I finally tell them how I feel and if they continue to do it I will start calling her by her first name.
I got in trouble as a teenager because I kept telling this bitch my name is______ not _____. So, when she called me it one day I had enough and I ignored her. Fucking bitch punished me. I went over her head and since I was always cooperative, I was unpunished.
My son has definitely told them on more than one occasion "thats not my name" without me having to tell him to do it. My inlaws are not involved in my kids lives at all (their choice). For 7 years we lived 5 minutes away and only saw them at holidays. So there isn't any special bond at all between my kids and those grandparents. I see my sil's more often and they do use the same nn as my inlaws which is why I feel the time has come to finally speak up the next time we see them. My mil has a first name she despises amd goes by her middle name so i LOVE that suggestion to call her a name she doesnt like which would be her first name. Once I finally tell them how I feel and if they continue to do it I will start calling her by her first name.
Why not just say "hey, you know how you really hate your first name and don't want to be called that? Well, I really don't like the nn you call my children. Their names are ____ and _______, please call them that instead."
I think your son is doing a good job handling it by himself. I would let him keep correcting them. If you see a good opportunity to jump in after he corrects them and say "yeah he doesn't like that" then I would take it. Otherwise I'd rest easy in the knowledge that they are just alienating your son by not respecting him. As for your younger son, be direct from the get-go and correct them directly.
I would be annoyed an say something. I think people who get names wrong on purpose are assholes.
This is really neither here no there, but why do people choose to give their child a name if they hate the common nicknames? We definitely ruled out some names for these reasons. And while I will not be thrilled if anyone starts calling Bea "Trixie," I can handle it.
To me, it depends on how common the NN is and if there are other NNs. This is my DH-- he goes by the less common NN for his name, and doesn't really like it when people use the more common one. Think Xander for Alexander, and not liking Alex or Al. I think that is understandable.
I also get it if someone named Melissa doesn't like Missy or someone named Patricia doesn't like Trish, since I think those are less obvious NN.
I wouldn't be bent out of shape if someone did this to me or DD, though I can't imagine a common NN for either of our names. I have a name that sounds like a NN but isn't (similar to Jenna as a variant of, but not a NN for, Jennifer), and it bugs me when people lengthen it because it isn't my name, nor is my name a common NN for the longer version.
OP, I would let this go unless it truly bothers your DS to be called that (not just your encouraging him to say it). I would frame it that way to them. I get your irritation about the unborn child, but would probably let it go. My MIL calls all grand kids "yummies," which I kind of hate, but let go because it's not worth it. It is also a BEC situation and I know it's largely my baggage driving the annoyance.