Did I just ask too much?

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I sent some toys DS didn't want to a friend across the country. None of the toilets were more than 2 months d and a couple were. Rand new. Value of the toys was probably $50. Shipping was $30. She said she would cover the shipping cost so I asked if she would buy my kid a $30 toy from Amazon and have it shipped to my house (she has Prime). Is that a fair trade? I've never done anything like this.

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Fucking auto correct. None of the TOYS... Not toilets.

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Lol. Toilets.

[iamgrace]

Ahhahah. Toilets. I'm 12.

[cville]

Aside: we bought an old house (1930s), so I made sure that I was the FIRST person to use the toilet in the pool house when it was newly constructed. I'd never had the pleasure of christening a toilet before.


Why am I telling you people this? Oh god. I'm sober so I can't even blame day drinking.

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Aug 9, 2014 12:55:02 GMT -5 freedom said:

Oh I misunderstood. I thought she paid for shipping and you asked for her the toy.

I don't want money for the toys. I want reimbursed for the cost of shipping. I asked for reimbursement in the form of a toy on Amazon for my DS.

[dexteroni]

It's fine to ask for a toy in lieu of money; in fact, it's probably easier for her. But did she know shipping would be $30 beforehand? If someone was sending me a few toys I wouldn't expect shipping to be more than like $12 - $15. As long as she's ok with the amount, you're fine.

And lol at toilets. That would be some pricey shipping.

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Aug 9, 2014 13:13:06 GMT -5 dexteroni said:

It's fine to ask for a toy in lieu of money; in fact, it's probably easier for her. But did she know shipping would be $30 beforehand? If someone was sending me a few toys I wouldn't expect shipping to be more than like $12 - $15. As long as she's ok with the amount, you're fine.

And lol at toilets. That would be some pricey shipping.

She didn't know.
Which is probably why I feel badly. I had no idea it was going to cost that for shipping.

[dexteroni]

Aug 9, 2014 13:15:41 GMT -5 @damnation said:

She didn't know.
Which is probably why I feel badly. I had no idea it was going to cost that for shipping.

Ooh yeah I would have called or texted her first. Or I would have asked her for less money.

But you've already asked her for the $30 toy, right? So not much to be done at this point.

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I gave her a choice between a $29.99 toy and a $24.99 toy and said DS would be happy with either.

[Deleted]

I wouldn't have spent $30 to ship $50 of toys. And I'd be annoyed to spend 25-30 on toys I didn't pick out myself, since I rarely buy toys. Sorry. I mean in the end it's probably fine. But if i were your friend I would probably be quietly annoyed.

[renna]

I think you're fine. Shipping prices are crazy, aren't they?!

[LoveBug]

Aug 9, 2014 13:51:00 GMT -5 BirdGirl said:

I wouldn't have spent $30 to ship $50 of toys. And I'd be annoyed to spend 25-30 on toys I didn't pick out myself, since I rarely buy toys. Sorry. I mean in the end it's probably fine. But if i were your friend I would probably be quietly annoyed.

This is where I'm at. I would rather pick out my own toys instead of paying $30 towards shipping.

[eb777888]

This reminds me of when my friend was nice enough to let me borrow some stuff for David when he was born, then she moved across the country and wanted it back when she was pregnant again, lol. It was like almost $100 in shipping. I was like.... It's my own fault, I'm not blaming her but hindsight is 20/20 and all that.

[ralphlauren]

Did she know she was going to be paying?!

[Kore]

Ouch. I would be a little annoyed. I'd rather pitch in an extra $20 & buy what I wanted new. It's totally a live & learn thing. Y'all both know for next time.

[hermione]

I'd be annoyed as the friend. Did she ask you for these toys? If a friend said to me, "hey, I've got $50 worth of used toys you can have for the bargain price of $30," I'd politely decline.

[ralphlauren]

Now that I think about it I think it is kinda weird you charged for shipping. I would have just sent it to her.

I would be annoyed to pay $30 for used toys vs buying brand new for $50.

[RoxMonster]

How did it come about that you would send the used toys? Did she request them? Did you offer?

Either way, she said she would cover shipping, but I would be a little taken aback if I found out after the fact that it was $30. I guess I'd be expecting to spend more like 15 for shipping (it IS super expensive, and maybe I am just out of touch with shipping costs--I am only basing this off of what it costs for shipping when I purchase things online). I probably would have called her when I found out the high shipping price to either make sure it was OK, or I would have only asked her for half that price when asking for shipping money.

To answer the question, though, I think asking for a toy instead of the cash is fine. Just make sure that if she is buying you a 29.99 toy on Amazon, she isn't also having to pay shipping for it that puts it over the 30 bucks she owes you.

[psychmom]

Edited: Reading fail. I thought she was covering the shipping AND buying a new toy. My bad.

[hermione]

Aug 9, 2014 15:56:26 GMT -5 psychmom said:

She's essentially paying $60 for $50 worth of used toys. ($30 shipping + $30 new toy as reimbursement)

That is a shitty deal.

No. She's paying for a $30 toy in lieu of paying for shipping. Still not a good deal.

[psychmom]

Aug 9, 2014 15:58:10 GMT -5 hermione said:

Aug 9, 2014 15:56:26 GMT -5 psychmom said:

She's essentially paying $60 for $50 worth of used toys. ($30 shipping + $30 new toy as reimbursement)

That is a shitty deal.

No. She's paying for a $30 toy in lieu of paying for shipping. Still not a good deal.

I edited my post after I reread the OP and realized I was mistaken