My exh used to do this kind of thing. The worst was when I was in a hospital for my anorexia with zero access to Facebook. My mom saw it and ended up calling my therapist because she knew I would find out eventually and wanted me to "process" it while in the hospital instead of when I was on my own. It wasn't over a birthday present, but rather something really serious that did NOT need to be posted all over Facebook. He purposely did it because he knew I wouldn't have access to it to respond. Of course all of his asshole friends commented. I don't exactly remember what happened, but he eventually deleted it. I am very thankful I never saw it or read the comments:(
As others mentioned, this was sadly just a glimpse of how he treated me off of Facebook. Needless to say, he is now my ex!
That's horrible. I think it takes someone pretty evil to be able to type up something so hateful to your wife and then post it for the world to see. With typing you at least have a few seconds to process what you're saying and decide to delete, no excuse that it just "slipped out."
You need to stop being friends with high schoolers.
And if they aren't in high school - well, you need to stop being their friends anyway. Lol.
I don't see the need to stop be friends with her. Him, oh well there would be no possibility of bring friends. I'd never turn my back on a bestie though for her H's bad, douchy behaviour.
Yeah. We're adults. We're not children. if my H just gives me a card, I'm happy. I'm not stomping my foot like a child demanding a gift. FFS. Let alone blasting it all over FB.
This seems sad to me - that you would be happy just to get a card from your H on your birthday. Seems like low expectations. Don't get me wrong, I don't demand anything grand, maybe some cake and singing happy birthday along with a smallish present or nice birthday dinner.
Yeah. We're adults. We're not children. if my H just gives me a card, I'm happy. I'm not stomping my foot like a child demanding a gift. FFS. Let alone blasting it all over FB.
This seems sad to me - that you would be happy just to get a card from your H on your birthday. Seems like low expectations. Don't get me wrong, I don't demand anything grand, maybe some cake and singing happy birthday along with a smallish present or nice birthday dinner.
Maybe it's because we're older. We don't need more things. And pretty much, we buy whatever we want throughout the year. For this birthday, he's booked a car service & taking me to my favorite restaurant. He'll probably also send flowers. And he probably does have a gift for me. So I'm not saying my H doesn't do nice things for me. But seriously, I don't need anything material from him to know he loves me. And I certainly wouldn't FB blast it like a petulant child for not getting me a gift on time or at all. That's petty, childish, & pathetic. So yeah, I don't see what's so sad about MY situation.
Wow. I hate it when ML's first reaction is, "Dump the motherfucker" but it would be a cold day in hell when I would stay married to someone who would say "Fuck you" to me in public, in order to humiliate me. If that's what he says in public, imagine what he says to her behind closed doors?
Yeah. We're adults. We're not children. if my H just gives me a card, I'm happy. I'm not stomping my foot like a child demanding a gift. FFS. Let alone blasting it all over FB.
This seems sad to me - that you would be happy just to get a card from your H on your birthday. Seems like low expectations. Don't get me wrong, I don't demand anything grand, maybe some cake and singing happy birthday along with a smallish present or nice birthday dinner.
Also, I'm totally side-eying this nonsense. A card is more than enough for a lot of couples. It's fine if you want your H to make a big deal about your birthday, but for people who don't mind not having a big fuss made about it, to call them sad is nonsense and it makes you sound like a brat.
This seems sad to me - that you would be happy just to get a card from your H on your birthday. Seems like low expectations. Don't get me wrong, I don't demand anything grand, maybe some cake and singing happy birthday along with a smallish present or nice birthday dinner.
Also, I'm totally side-eying this nonsense. A card is more than enough for a lot of couples. It's fine if you want your H to make a big deal about your birthday, but for people who don't mind not having a big fuss made about it, to call them sad is nonsense and it makes you sound like a brat.
I think it's sad when adult EXPECTS a material gift on their birthday. My 4 year old niece would be another story...
Yeah. We're adults. We're not children. if my H just gives me a card, I'm happy. I'm not stomping my foot like a child demanding a gift. FFS. Let alone blasting it all over FB.
This seems sad to me - that you would be happy just to get a card from your H on your birthday. Seems like low expectations. Don't get me wrong, I don't demand anything grand, maybe some cake and singing happy birthday along with a smallish present or nice birthday dinner.
Dude , what is this?
Different people have different ways of showing their love. It's great that your H throws a black tie gala with a pumpkin carriage or however it is that they celebrate princess birthdays. Don't hold other people's relationships to your standard. And definitely don't be sad and looking down upon what makes someone else happy. That's super rude and presumptuous. ^o)
Post by sandyapples on Aug 11, 2014 20:49:36 GMT -5
My birthday card from H is sitting in the garage unsigned. I'm slightly pissed but that is his way so whatever. I bought my own present this year. At least he bought a card? Maybe he will give it to me one day.
I just remembered he also bought me truffles which he left in the garage. I found those and ate them though.
This seems sad to me - that you would be happy just to get a card from your H on your birthday. Seems like low expectations. Don't get me wrong, I don't demand anything grand, maybe some cake and singing happy birthday along with a smallish present or nice birthday dinner.
Also, I'm totally side-eying this nonsense. A card is more than enough for a lot of couples. It's fine if you want your H to make a big deal about your birthday, but for people who don't mind not having a big fuss made about it, to call them sad is nonsense and it makes you sound like a brat.
Yeah, I'm definitely here. I can't even remember what my H did for my last birthday, but he came home from work today with a bouquet of flowers and a six-pack of my favorite beer. For no reason other than he knew it would make me happy. Things like that are so much more meaningful than feeling obligated to buy a gift on a specific day because that's what society tells us to do.
Yeah. We're adults. We're not children. if my H just gives me a card, I'm happy. I'm not stomping my foot like a child demanding a gift. FFS. Let alone blasting it all over FB.
This seems sad to me - that you would be happy just to get a card from your H on your birthday. Seems like low expectations. Don't get me wrong, I don't demand anything grand, maybe some cake and singing happy birthday along with a smallish present or nice birthday dinner.
I celebrate for an entire month and expect gifts (I prefer the term prizes) through out. And also a parade.
Has she woken up yet to see this nonsense, amberlyrose?
She did and deleted it. She hasn't said a word to me since, so not much of an update.
This makes me so sad. I would be so embarrassed if I knew that all my friends had seen that fuckery. But hopefully it would also be the kick in the ass I needed to realize I could create something better for myself.
This seems sad to me - that you would be happy just to get a card from your H on your birthday. Seems like low expectations. Don't get me wrong, I don't demand anything grand, maybe some cake and singing happy birthday along with a smallish present or nice birthday dinner.
I celebrate for an entire month and expect gifts (I prefer the term prizes) through out. And also a parade.
I feel awful for her. I can't imagine life at home in private is good or safe.
My parents didn't know that I was being verbally abused. No one knew at all. I pretended... She may be pretending until someone gives her validation that what is happening to her is wrong.