I convinced the guy I've been seeing to try the grapefruit thing. I forgot to buy a grapefruit last weekend though. I was going to go to the store and buy one, but was too embarassed to buy just a grapefruit. It's been postponed.
did i miss something re: grapefruit? or did i spend too much time reading that butt sex thread on ML that i'm now thinking dirty things? yes, i have to be missing something.
ok, i can't watch the video at work, obv, but i can infer. please, please definitely try this and report back! i don't know what it would take to convince DH to do this, but i'll give it a whirl. ha.
He also told me that if I truly felt like I should leave him, that I should give my life to serving the church, and remain single and chaste for the rest of my life.
Uhhh... okay?
Another reason I love my church. They don't judge, and are just glad to see people.
It was a super weird transition... Leaving that is. It was almost difficult. They were people I knew my entire life, and I lost the support of almost everyone I knew.
I was raised to wear my head covered in church as a sign of submission to God, my husband, and the other men in the church and I wasn't to speak anything that gave opinion. My husband spoke for me.
I'm glad to be out of there, and glad my kids won't be raised in such a way.
did i miss something re: grapefruit? or did i spend too much time reading that butt sex thread on ML that i'm now thinking dirty things? yes, i have to be missing something.
This is not a confession, but it made me laugh - I just spoke to my mom who was looking for a card to give as part of a gift. She was insistent on finding one that cost .97 because "They are just going to throw it away anyway!"
My mom is so MM.
Not MM enough! I buy cards at Dollar Tree for 2/$1. Every once in awhile I will spend more on a card, but it happens maybe twice a year.
And my dad had always told me to not waste money on cards because they would just go to the recycling bin in a few weeks. His mom (my grandma) always bought us Hallmark $$$ cards.
I bought birthday cards for my parents yesterday. I glanced at the price and one was $5.99! It cost more than my mascara.
Not MM enough! I buy cards at Dollar Tree for 2/$1. Every once in awhile I will spend more on a card, but it happens maybe twice a year.
And my dad had always told me to not waste money on cards because they would just go to the recycling bin in a few weeks. His mom (my grandma) always bought us Hallmark $$$ cards.
I bought birthday cards for my parents yesterday. I glanced at the price and one was $5.99! It cost more than my mascara.
This really is never acceptable behavior in a religious leader. WTF?
Please tell me if you don't even want that much quoted.
This is fine. I deleted what I was concerned about.
He believes it's the responsibility of church members to pray for the punishment of those who are living in sin.
I remember listening to them pray for it in church. It was the same thing publicly, but they encourage you to pray specifically for people privately.
'God, we pray for torment and struggles in the lives of those who have been led astray. Place stumbling blocks in their lives that will show them that they are wrong, and bring them back to you. Give them turmoil to drive them back to you'
The noise she makes in the grapefruit video is hilarious. She also says you can use naval oranges. Maybe you are fighting a cold and need to load up on citrus at the grocery.
He believes my husband was only unfaithful because I didn't submit to his will.
If I had been more submissive, he wouldn't have strayed.
He volunteered his wife to help me work on that part of my life.
This sounds like the start of a bad porno.
Haha. My wording is horrible.
Basically, I would have attended classes on how to respond to my husband and submit to his leadership as head of house.
Basically, it involves bringing you down as far as possible in your esteem, so that you feel like an object that agrees with your husband's every word.
My biggest downfall was the fact that I worked, often in management. They don't believe that women should be in charge, because it gives her a sense that her opinion is valuable.
So, they told me I should quit my job and become a housewife that knows my husband is the head of household.
Yeah. I don't think that the church followed to the point of men physically disciplining their wives... But, that would be awful. And I feel like more degrading then anything else 'got spanked cause dinner wasn't ready on time!'
Confession: We spent $1750 on our cat over the course of the last 24 hours. OMG. Thank goodness for e-funds. The confession part is that we had to think seriously about what our limit was for the cat, and at what point do we say "enough is enough." Long story, but we thought his jaw was dislocated after a fight with our other cat. Turns out he has periodontal disease and one of his "fangs" was loose, causing him to not be able to close his mouth. When we got him evaluated by a vet dentist, we found that another tooth was also diseased and loose.
$1750 for basically just getting two teeth pulled. YOU GUYS. That's a lot of money. I am sort of having buyer's remorse even though I am glad we saved kitty. I am sure I would be feeling total guilt and sadness if we had made the other decision, though.
I also missed all the fun confessions. Stupid work.
My confession: MM-related! I absolutely cannot afford the Honduras trip I'm about to take. Like, will go on credit cards and won't be paid off immediately can't afford (unless by some miracle DH gets a job before we go). No regrets. I need to go meet this adorable little girl whose texts are the highlight of my day.
I bought birthday cards for my parents yesterday. I glanced at the price and one was $5.99! It cost more than my mascara.
I would not have bought that. That's just crazy!
I recently went wedding card shopping and grabbed a nice one that didn't have a price on it. Got to the register and it was $19.99.
TWENTY GODDAMN DOLLARS for a nice-but-standard mass-produced card. (Cards here average $6-8 so they're more expensive overall than in the USA - but $19 is still nuts.)
I told the cashier sorry, but no thanks. She gave me a judgy face, but come on - it's just a bit of paper to go with the gift!