Now that we've decided that we're ready for #2, I want to be pg RIGHT NOW.
In related news, I'm going to take DD with me to have my IUD removed. I'm totally against taking kids to appts where you are unavailable for child tending but the nurse assured me that it was really quick and completely fine. I'm sure they all say that, though. But I want to get it out ASAP and the next appt was a few weeks later. So I will pick DD up from her first day of MDO then go get my IUD pulled, which kind of makes me laugh.
I just had a dream I had two more babies, each born on DS's birthday two years later for each. Apparently my subconscious is disagreeing with my conscious (and MMM threads are making it to my dreams). The third was a super cute girl that was born so fast I had her on the hospital floor. I also dreamt my sister and I were bounty hunters in a tropical climate. Maybe in my next dream I'll dream I slept for eight hours and wake up rested.
I want another child but really don't know how I'll ever manage. I'm so tired, I feel like I'm dying a slow death from exhaustion. And I get nothing done at home, except for 90% of the child care and daycare prep. I go to bed ASAP after dinner bc I know I'll be up in the night and I'm already so short on energy.
I've been up with her for nearly two hours now and I'm not unhappy about that alone, but thinking of trying to stay awake at work tomorrow has me in tears. I don't know how to keep doing this. And when I ask my husband to get home earlier to help, it just convinces him I can't handle a second. He washes bottles and sometimes puts the frozen milk into bottles but I do dropoff, work all day, do pickup, do the bath, do bedtime, clean up from the bath, and do all the other daycare/pump bag packing stuff alone. I know it's not THAT much but if he could get home early enough to do some of it and I could get to bed earlier a few nights, maybe I'd feel more rested.
I told a friend I'm so tired and she told me MOTN wake ups are just more wonderful time with her child. I love the cuddles, too - still, one good night's rest would really help me right now. I just need one good battery charge.
I want another child but really don't know how I'll ever manage. I'm so tired, I feel like I'm dying a slow death from exhaustion. And I get nothing done at home, except for 90% of the child care and daycare prep. I go to bed ASAP after dinner bc I know I'll be up in the night and I'm already so short on energy.
I've been up with her for nearly two hours now and I'm not unhappy about that alone, but thinking of trying to stay awake at work tomorrow has me in tears. I don't know how to keep doing this. And when I ask my husband to get home earlier to help, it just convinces him I can't handle a second. He washes bottles and sometimes puts the frozen milk into bottles but I do dropoff, work all day, do pickup, do the bath, do bedtime, clean up from the bath, and do all the other daycare/pump bag packing stuff alone. I know it's not THAT much but if he could get home early enough to do some of it and I could get to bed earlier a few nights, maybe I'd feel more rested.
I told a friend I'm so tired and she told me MOTN wake ups are just more wonderful time with her child. I love the cuddles, too - still, one good night's rest would really help me right now. I just need one good battery charge.
Though it sounds like my DH does a little more (he's usually here when DS & I get home each day) I could pretty much post this exact same thing. It's SO hard right now! Working has added a whole new layer to this motherhood thing! I just don't feel like I'm doing anything well. Hugs to you and know you're not alone.
Also people on my FB have started doing the ice bucket challenge to their dogs. WTF? That makes no sense. Dogs have no money and don't need to be aware of human diseases.
Does anyone have any tips for falling back asleep? I'm so bad at it that I'm trying to tire myself out with GBCN. V woke up around 12:30 (teeth), it took him maybe 15 minutes to fall back asleep.
Pilsyjackie011 sorry things are hard! Months 3-4 were okay here, but 5-7 were trying times in the niq household. We started going to bed at crazy early hours, I would sleep in a different room once in a while (he roomshared until 7m). And pilsy, that is a lot of second shift. Is bathtime every night? Could you cut back to 2-3 times/week? Does H get home early enough to take DS on a walk a couple of times a week so you can get some reprieve?
I got up at 5:30am just because. It seems to be a trend this week that after 3:30am I just can't fall asleep again after getting up to pee. Fortunately after 7am I seem to be able to nap, and today is my sleep in morning, so I'm basically just waiting for ds to wake up and I'll go back to bed and hopefully get some shut eye.
Does anyone have any tips for falling back asleep? I'm so bad at it that I'm trying to tire myself out with GBCN. V woke up around 12:30 (teeth), it took him maybe 15 minutes to fall back asleep
This worked for me for awhile until I memorized every subject I could think of (see me also just being awake this morning).
You choose a subject, say body parts, countries, cities, mammals etc and then go through the alphabet naming one for each letter (aardvark, bear, cat...), and you can't move past a letter until you successfully complete each one.
Back when this trick worked I usually didn't get much further than N. Basically it keeps your mind from wandering, and focuses it on a mundane task that knocks you out.
Does anyone have any tips for falling back asleep? I'm so bad at it that I'm trying to tire myself out with GBCN. V woke up around 12:30 (teeth), it took him maybe 15 minutes to fall back asleep.
Pilsyjackie011 sorry things are hard! Months 3-4 were okay here, but 5-7 were trying times in the niq household. We started going to bed at crazy early hours, I would sleep in a different room once in a while (he roomshared until 7m). And pilsy, that is a lot of second shift. Is bathtime every night? Could you cut back to 2-3 times/week? Does H get home early enough to take DS on a walk a couple of times a week so you can get some reprieve?
I'm so glad to hear that. I am more exhausted than I was when he was a newborn. Wake up four, seriously kid? Some days it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
For falling asleep, I sometimes do math problems, like times tables. Or think about a vacation and laying on the beach.
Molars are the suck. I was able to poke around in N's month and see that all 4 are coming in. And, he doesn't really want anything to do with me putting him to sleep lately. He got up with DH's alarm an hour earlier than usual, so we're up nice and early.
Also, I am annoyed at my body. Can I just either get my period or a BFP already? I am like 4-5 days late with neither.
wake up #3. he couldn't let me have two good nights in a row.
if there a timeframe for "trying to master new skill in his sleep" to actually being able to do said skill? because as far as I'm concerned, crawling can go to hell.
For me, I know most of the problem is just me. I am a pleaser and right now I don't feel like I'm pleasing anyone, least of all me. I'm a teacher, and it's back to school crunch time, and having been away for 4 months, I am just sort of lost in my classroom right now. Someone else put things away, someone else was in there during the summer programming, and now I'm working with new people and new procedures. Then, I'm also either pumping or being called to DS' room to nurse. So, any pockets of extra free time I've had in the past to do prep are being used for a different purpose. On top of that, add in helping my ILs get settled in to their new house, and it's a lot. I just feel like whatever I'm doing isn't what I should be doing at that time and that there's something better that I should be doing- does that make sense?
I know this is all temporary and will calm down pretty soon. I also know I have great people behind me, including my boss. She called me in to her office the other day and told me that my life is now different and I have a new sense of prioroties and to keep that in mind. She basically said that DS comes first and everything else needs to adapt to that. I'm so lucky to have her for my boss!
C got up at 6:30. I know this is notmal for many of you but no. We do not do the 6es, Baby! And we try to avoid the 7s!
Omg I am so jealous, lol. On weekends we don't get DS until 630 even if he is awake.
Our issue also is that our dogs are thundering beasts and as soon as we open our bedroom door they thunder down the hallway and that usually wakes him up, so its hard to wake up before him (I would love to wake up at 6 am and have a cup of coffee and read the paper and then have him wake up at 630).
H also said that DS slept until 7 yesterday and then H had to wake him up for daycare. WTF dude. Why dont you do that on weekends!
DH's (childless) cousin posted an article supporting not vaccinating on Facebook. It was the worst one I've ever seen (stupidest reasons) and I pretty much just responded: No. Please vaccinate your children. To which he said, "wrong answer. Lol. [Smiley face]". Why do people think this is a laughing matter? It's not a joke. Lives are at stake here. Literally.
I posted an article about the importance of getting the whooping cough vaccine due to a few deaths in the state. A friends sister commented "I'll keep my mouth shut on this one." REALLY? You are going to refute the fact that kids have DIED and say vaccines aren't necessary? Ugh.
Hugs! I've been feeling this way as well. I'm struggling to accomplish everything after I get home from work and feel like I'll never just be able to sit down and enjoy the evening with DH and DD. There is always dinner to be made, and dishes to do and bottles to prep and I want to exercise. I hate being away from DD after she spends all day in daycare. The working mom balance is very hard. Hang in there.
Also people on my FB have started doing the ice bucket challenge to their dogs. WTF? That makes no sense. Dogs have no money and don't need to be aware of human diseases.
My dogs would hate me. HAAAAAAAATE.
I told J if he tags me in his video, he's not getting laid for a month. Luckily, he listened.
jackie011 and Pilsy - you're both recently back at work, right? I remember struggling SO MUCH the first couple of months back. I distinctly remember almost crying to my mom on the phone, saying I wasn't being good at anything - at being a mom, employee, wife, friend - everything was half-assed. Then everything gradually started getting better. Routines became more established, DS got a bit older, and it just got easier. Or maybe I'm still doing most things half-assed but I'm happier/more confident about it? Either way, ((hugs)) Although Pilsy your H needs to give you a break STAT. Can he take a night shift on the weekend or something? Why is everything up to you??
Failing at everything sounds about right, Jackie. Your summary hit home for me. I wonder if I'll ever be productive again. Everything remotely optional (in my mind) falls by the wayside right now. At least it feels that way. I am pumping right now, for the record.
And Niq, H can't seem to get home before 7/7:30 and E goes to bed around 6:45/7. Sigh. But no, no bath every night - ha! My daughter is the dirty one. I manage two or three times a week and try to cut her nails on the off days.
Thanks for the sympathy, peeps! Hugs all around! My H is awesome and I appreciate his income (more than mine!) and understand his job is demanding and his commute is no joy. It's just a lot sometimes, esp when coupled with bad sleep. Good thing E is cute!!! I will probably miss this. LOL
Sorry I didn't see this earlier. I was checking work email too and took forever to post.
My H does clean bottles and pump parts once he's home and he waits to leave for the gym in the morning until I'm ready if I'm not ready before E wakes up, so that's helpful. Everything else falls to me bc his job is nuts and it's rare he can leave there before 6:30, and then he has a 45-minute commute. I hate it. I asked him when I got pregnant about switching jobs, and he said maybe. Now he's afraid he can't get another job paying as much that he'll be able to keep up with.
I'm so sorry I also have a crazy job and often can't get home before bedtime, so I do dropoff in the mornings. Would that be an option for him? Either way, he needs to give you a break on the weekends at least!
I'm so sorry I also have a crazy job and often can't get home before bedtime, so I do dropoff in the mornings. Would that be an option for him? Either way, he needs to give you a break on the weekends at least!
Daycare shares a parking lot with my office and is in the opposite direction of his. But when we were looking I wanted to keep looking for one near home and he insisted on this one. At that time he said he'd help with dropoff. Ha. So yeah, I'll be revisiting that. I don't want to be an ass but even once/week could help.
And we've been discussing weekends too. Thanks for your support.