how do I nicely tell friend I'm pregnant

[nextbigthing]

I'm meeting my old college roommate for dinner in about an hour. We usually share a bottle of wine which won't work and I want to tell her I'm pregnant. But, she's struggled for years with infertility and they're starting to look at adoption.

How do I do this as nicely and with as much sensitivity as possible?

Thanks

[MrsAggie]

Aug 21, 2014 17:51:28 GMT -5 @astrid said:

I'd text prior so she has warning.

I agree with this. It gives her time to have a natural reaction and not have to worry about hurting your feelings. By the time you meet up, I'm sure she'll be all smiles and very happy for you.

[mrspost08]

As someone who struggled with infertility I don't think an hour notice is enough. Just tell her in person.

[nextbigthing]

Aug 21, 2014 18:06:18 GMT -5 mrspost08 said:

As someone who struggled with infertility I don't think an hour notice is enough. Just tell her in person.

This was my fear. Do I just keep it short and sweet then move on?

I didn't know about the adoption thing. She just posted on Facebook today about it.

I really don't want to make her sad but I don't want to lie

[mrspost08]

Aug 21, 2014 18:07:48 GMT -5 nextbigthing said:

Aug 21, 2014 18:06:18 GMT -5 mrspost08 said:

As someone who struggled with infertility I don't think an hour notice is enough. Just tell her in person.

This was my fear. Do I just keep it short and sweet then move on?

I didn't know about the adoption thing. She just posted on Facebook today about it.

I really don't want to make her sad but I don't want to lie

Just be sensitive when you tell her. Say something along the line you weren't sure how to tell her.

[rachelgreen]

If you can't text her a warning beforehand (and allow graciously for her to back out of your plans), when you do being it up, allow for the topic to be changed quickly.

Or maybe don't even bring it up. If she asks you if you want to split, you can always make up a medication excuse or something.

Basically just read the situation as best you can. You obviously know her better than we do lol.

[nextbigthing]

Thank you all for the advice, it actually went really well. We talked about her for awhile then she asked about me and so I just told her, we talked for a few then it naturally went to another subject.

I really appreciate everyone's feedback, thanks again!

[mrspost08]

Oh glad it went well!