30th b-day ideas

[karebear219]

All my friends are turning 30 this year and the funiest parties I have been to are the free ones.

There was one where the theme was 80's prom. Everyone wore 80's prom outfits, 80's music was played. There was even an archway for everyone to take prom pictures at. It was fab.

The last one I went to was a drunkathon. It was basically a bunch of drinking games with beer. One of the guests donated a keg to the festivities. We all had fun drinking and playing games. It was over four hours so no one got super drunk. I drank only three full beers over the four hour period (but my team also won too).

[emyinpink]

for my birthday, my friend's 30th birthday, and my other friend's birthday we're doing a joint birthday camping trip. super affordable, will basically be us camping in the san juan islands drinking a lot and eating awesome food.

[tacocat]

Could you Hotwire a hotel in Seattle or bellevue and do a happy hour pub crawl? A lot of nice places have great happy hour.

[amandasw]

you can definitely get hotels for cheap if you look at places like priceline etc where you name your own price.

or maybe think of a fun thing to do with him that is related to getting equipment for the studio? I'm not really sure what that all means, but maybe there is something fun you can do with that...

[amandasw]

Jul 25, 2012 16:45:05 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Eff it. I think I'm gonna take him to Canlis, get a hotel and a town car and no other present. You only turn 30, once, right? WDYT?

Or El Gaucho?

LOL I like it - "hey, enjoy your 30th birthday or else! and we're going to do something I want to do" haha

personally, I think Campagne is one of the absolute best (we enjoyed it a lot more than Canlis, although it's obviously still a fav)

[jennlin]

Jul 25, 2012 16:47:21 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

Jul 25, 2012 16:45:05 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Eff it. I think I'm gonna take him to Canlis, get a hotel and a town car and no other present. You only turn 30, once, right? WDYT?

Or El Gaucho?

LOL I like it - "hey, enjoy your 30th birthday or else! and we're going to do something I want to do" haha

personally, I think Campagne is one of the absolute best (we enjoyed it a lot more than Canlis, although it's obviously still a fav)

LOL!

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Jul 25, 2012 16:47:21 GMT -5 @amandasw said:

Jul 25, 2012 16:45:05 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Eff it. I think I'm gonna take him to Canlis, get a hotel and a town car and no other present. You only turn 30, once, right? WDYT?

Or El Gaucho?

LOL I like it - "hey, enjoy your 30th birthday or else! and we're going to do something I want to do" haha

personally, I think Campagne is one of the absolute best (we enjoyed it a lot more than Canlis, although it's obviously still a fav)

While I like your idea a lot, it feels more like a present for you, since he's already said he thinks it's a waste of money. Do you think he really means that or that he's just saying it?

I know that it doesn't seem "special" to you, but really, I would get him the studio. In my mind, that shows that you really listened and took his wants for his birthday in to account. You could take him out to a nice dinner or cook his favorite meal at home too.

I dunno, I would never admit this to H, but I was a little sad that I didn't get a Chanel flap bag for my birthday. I want one so bad and I was really hoping that he would buy it for me and I felt like 30 marked the perfect occasion for one. Don't get me wrong, I love what he did for me, but having something that I've pined for since I was 13 from someone that I love would have meant a lot too.

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Jul 25, 2012 19:21:36 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Jul 25, 2012 18:49:27 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

While I like your idea a lot, it feels more like a present for you, since he's already said he thinks it's a waste of money. Do you think he really means that or that he's just saying it?

I know that it doesn't seem "special" to you, but really, I would get him the studio. In my mind, that shows that you really listened and took his wants for his birthday in to account. You could take him out to a nice dinner or cook his favorite meal at home too.

I dunno, I would never admit this to H, but I was a little sad that I didn't get a Chanel flap bag for my birthday. I want one so bad and I was really hoping that he would buy it for me and I felt like 30 marked the perfect occasion for one. Don't get me wrong, I love what he did for me, but having something that I've pined for since I was 13 from someone that I love would have meant a lot too.

So you would've been happy w/ the bag and that's it? You wouldn't feel like a let down for the big 3-0?

Are you kidding? I would have been over the moon and probably wanted to take the bag to bed with me that night and have a threesome with the bag!

I would have been super thrilled if he got me that or took me to get it (but this would have been tricky because there's a 3 month waiting list) and then gone out to a low key or at home dinner.

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Jul 25, 2012 19:13:26 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

I know that he would like it. He always wants to go out to Ruth Chris or somewhere and get a really good steak. He also likes to get dressed up and feel like he's a "baller." I think he doesn't want me to spend the money b/c 1) he's not working and 2) he also wants a studio.

It just seems that the studio isn't a milestone b-day kind of present. And I couldn't get him a whole studio, just like one component. I'd rather we slowly build it w/o it being his "present." Or, I was trying to find something that would still be special and I could afford to get him something for the studio.

I know what he REALLY wanted was to go home, but it's just too expensive right now. He also suggested going to Portland for the weekend. I'm not trying to make it about me, but I want it to be special. He says, "it's just another day, what's the big deal?" Maybe we just see b-day's different?

Also, maybe he's not feeling great about turning 30 and not working and we don't have kids yet, not that he would ever say that. So, I don't want it to be "just another day" for him. I also don't want to not get him what he wants.

I have no idea...

ETA: If I could do up our 2nd room w/ a desk and computer and equipment, I would. I actually thought about sending him home for b-day and doing up the 2nd room, but I just can't afford all of that. Also, 2nd room is future nursery, so I don't know what happens when baby comes...

What? The baby can't make beats?

Does he have a close,old friend that you can fly in for the weekend?

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Jul 25, 2012 19:27:57 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

OK, I'll see what I can do about studio stuff. Touble is I don"t know much about it and I don't just want to hand him cash. Maybe I can figure out a way to get him out of the house and do some work in the 2nd bedroom...

Does he have a friend who's in to this that you can talk to?

When I try and surprise H with new stuff for his bike I either talk to his brother or another friend, since he turns to them for advice with his bike too.

[jennlin]

can you send just him home for the week/end? sounds like that's what he really wants..and if you did the dinner at canlis, town car, and hotel, you'd be pretty close to $500 anyways.

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Oh, not quite as exciting, but can you make a "coupon" to give him for tickets to fly home at a later (more reasonably priced) date? You could scout out tickets now and book them, but tell him that you guys can't travel till later. You could do a belated bday thing with the family then?

Then you could do dinner here now?

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Jul 25, 2012 19:44:36 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Jul 25, 2012 19:43:31 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

Oh, not quite as exciting, but can you make a "coupon" to give him for tickets to fly home at a later (more reasonably priced) date? You could scout out tickets now and book them, but tell him that you guys can't travel till later. You could do a belated bday thing with the family then?

Then you could do dinner here now?

I was thinking that.

If it were me, I'd do this. From what you've been saying it sounds like he wants this more than anything.

I'm an asshole and my family and friends are here, so that's why I choose a purse over them.

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You guys can celebrate together either before or after? I can't remember if you said this before, but you aren't able to go?

If a recruiter calls he could tell them that he's out of town and ask to do a phone interview. I've done that before and it worked out without any problems.

[jennlin]

how much is said-studio stuff?

i think it would be perfectly fine for him to go home w/o you..money's tight, obv. he could spend his actual birthday with you, and then fly out the next day for a week or so.

if he were to get a job interview, they can schedule for next week. he's currently out of town. they'll understand...as long as he has a set date of return.

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Jul 25, 2012 19:51:45 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Actually, I just asked him and he still says he wants studio stuff more than to go home.

In light of this new information, I vote for studio stuff then.

[jennlin]

i'd buy him a nice, new computer. software, etc can come later.

[madDawg228]

My H is a wannabe rockstar (he plays the guitar and bass) and he has some random studio equipment that he's bought from consignment/super sales (he's never paid full price for any of it). I'll ask him for suggestions on finding cheap studio stuff

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Jul 25, 2012 20:19:36 GMT -5 jennlin said:

i'd buy him a nice, new computer. software, etc can come later.

+1

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Jul 26, 2012 13:39:10 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Last night he said, don't buy my studio stuff, let's just go to Portland. Grrr...he drives me crazy. I think he still wants it, but thinks it's too expensive. He said he'd rather get it himself.

Whatever. I talked to my mom b/c she always gets him something too. We're gonna pool resources and get him some a computer and the software. He can add to it later.

This sounds like a great plan.

[jennlin]

Personally, I never liked "pooled" presents. Can you get the computer, and your mom get the software? But that's just me.

[amandasw]

Jul 26, 2012 13:49:06 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

Jul 26, 2012 13:39:10 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Last night he said, don't buy my studio stuff, let's just go to Portland. Grrr...he drives me crazy. I think he still wants it, but thinks it's too expensive. He said he'd rather get it himself.

Whatever. I talked to my mom b/c she always gets him something too. We're gonna pool resources and get him some a computer and the software. He can add to it later.

This sounds like a great plan.

:Y:

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Jul 26, 2012 17:53:40 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Last question, I swear.

I was planning to set everything up for him so he came home and it was all set up and ready to go. So, should I do that?

Or, should I wrap them up and then some parts would be from me and some could be from my mom?

I like this.

[jennlin]

i would set up the computer, but let him "open" your moms gift of the software and let him install that. he'll have fun doing that i think.

and don't worry about this being "last question". you're free to ask a zillion more!

[amandasw]

problem solved!