Help me obsess about plans.

[ringstrue]

I don't have any family that lives close by. The plan right now is that my mom will come up either the day of or day after I get home from the hospital and stay for a few nights. She's 5 hours away. We have friends to watch DD but all our friends have young kids and lives themselves so they couldn't just hang with DD for say, 24+ hours straight if needed. It'd really be for the evening and/or over night.

But, if I end up getting an induction, I'm thinking of having my mom come up for it, and that way she'd be able to hold down the fort for as long as my induction took and DH wouldn't have to worry about timeframe at home. Then she'd just stay a few more days to help when I got home a bit.

The only issue in this plan is if I needed a c/s in the end, then I'd be in the hospital longer and wouldn't need her at home once the baby was out, atleast not til I was home myself. It'd probably result in her spending 1-2 nights and going home, then hopefully coming up like a week later too?

This is complex, lol.

So, Wdyt? Have her come up if we end up planning an induction? They are usually longer, right? As you know I'm pretty anti-induction but I also need to think things through for DDs and DHs sake just incase.

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I have no advice but... argh, now I am thinking about childcare for when I'm in labor. DS1 (4) shouldn't be a problem - he can go to a friend's - but DS2 (20 months) is another story.

We live overseas and with my last baby we booked for my mom to come over for 8 days right after my due date. It ended up being great timing. She arrived Saturday evening and I had DS2 on Monday morning. But I had to stay in for three days after so I missed a lot of visiting time. On the other hand, it was great to have her there to watch DS1.

[ringstrue]

I know I gotta just wait til that time comes. Man, why can't it all just happen and be over with while DD is in school? Ha.

[mrspost08]

If someone will watch your DD while you're in labor until your mom makes it that sounds like a good plan.

I had all these plans of how things were going to go. I was never getting induced. Well my doctor & the baby had other plans. I have to get induced on Wednesday.

Hopefully you don't need to get induced or a csection.

[scribellesam]

Ugh I'm in the same boat. My mom will definitely be coming down to watch DS1 but she's an hour flight away so it would be quite a while before she could get to us. I have lots of friends who have offered to watch DS1 but most of them work and also have small children so if it's middle of the workday or middle of the night, what the heck am I supposed to do?

I've been meaning to make a spreadsheet of care options and when they'd be available but I get so stressed thinking about it that I keep putting it off. Frankly, as much as I'd prefer going into labor on my own in a perfect world, I'm not going to push back that hard if my OB recommends induction (possible due to size).

[MrsAggie]

Why wouldn't you need your mom's help if you have a c/s? I would think you would need more help. You won't be able to lift anything heavier than the baby and you won't be able to drive.

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Aug 30, 2014 0:49:07 GMT -5 MrsAggie said:

Why wouldn't you need your mom's help if you have a c/s? I would think you would need more help. You won't be able to lift anything heavier than the baby and you won't be able to drive.

True but it sounds like her mom can only come up for a few days. If she came up for the birth and then she was in the hospital for a few days after, she would miss out on help around the home.

I can't even think about a c-section scenario. I would be so screwed. DH is taking two weeks off but we have two other kids so I need to be on my feet pretty quick. Sigh. One of the real downsides to living overseas = no family help.

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Aug 29, 2014 20:27:16 GMT -5 ringstrue said:

I know I gotta just wait til that time comes. Man, why can't it all just happen and be over with while DD is in school? Ha.

That's my dream scenario. I go into labor early morning on a weekday. DS1 goes to school, DS2 goes to daycare. Have the baby before noon, DS1 goes to friend's house after school, DS2 does a long day at daycare. We're all home for dinner. Perfect.

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Aug 30, 2014 1:34:44 GMT -5 @bandwife said:

Aug 29, 2014 20:27:16 GMT -5 ringstrue said:

I know I gotta just wait til that time comes. Man, why can't it all just happen and be over with while DD is in school? Ha.

That's my dream scenario. I go into labor early morning on a weekday. DS1 goes to school, DS2 goes to daycare. Have the baby before noon, DS1 goes to friend's house after school, DS2 does a long day at daycare. We're all home for dinner. Perfect.

This happened to a friend of mine earlier this year. She dropped her kids off at their schools, went to the hospital, had her baby, was released 2 hours later, and picked them up from school. I can only dream.

[anna7602]

I worried endlessly about childcare for DD while I was pregnant. I ended up with a pretty complex schedule of which friend was on call for which part of the day (some could pick up DD at camp and take her home for dinner and some could only take her if I went into labor during the night due to their work schedules) and even for which day/week. In the end, I was induced with about 2 hours' notice (told at 11am on a Friday to be at the hospital by 1pm that day) and I just called our regular sitter first and asked if she could pick up DD AND spend the night. She said yes, so that worked out well. 

The second night, my friend who was "on call" for me for the whole weekend took DD so DH could sleep while I was at the hospital. We had both been awake the entire previous night with labor and he really appreciated handing off DD for one more night. By Sunday (DS was born Saturday afternoon), he was fine staying with DD on his own and I came home early on Monday. 

[anna7602]

Aug 30, 2014 8:27:42 GMT -5 blushing said:

Aug 30, 2014 1:34:44 GMT -5 @bandwife said:

That's my dream scenario. I go into labor early morning on a weekday. DS1 goes to school, DS2 goes to daycare. Have the baby before noon, DS1 goes to friend's house after school, DS2 does a long day at daycare. We're all home for dinner. Perfect.

This happened to a friend of mine earlier this year. She dropped her kids off at their schools, went to the hospital, had her baby, was released 2 hours later, and picked them up from school. I can only dream.

Wow!