Birthday Sad

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Jul 26, 2012 13:59:18 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

I'm with you!! I present any other day besides day of does not count! Day of is special!!

This!

Hopefully, at the very least, he gets you flowers or something.

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Well, I'm going to be harsh and tell you to SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP. Presents given on different days for your birthday STILL count! (Although something off your baby's registry IS lame and doesn't quite count.) My birthday is January 1st and if I felt like you, then 98% of my birthdays wouldn't count as I never had parties with anyone outside of immediate family on the day of. Even now, half the time I have a headache so even have to pass H's plans for our private celebration off to a separate day.

[amandasw]

Jul 26, 2012 14:04:36 GMT -5 @ksta said:

Well, I'm going to be harsh and tell you to SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP. Presents given on different days for your birthday STILL count! (Although something off your baby's registry IS lame and doesn't quite count.) My birthday is January 1st and if I felt like you, then 98% of my birthdays wouldn't count as I never had parties with anyone outside of immediate family on the day of. Even now, half the time I have a headache so even have to pass H's plans for our private celebration off to a separate day.

:Y:

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Jul 26, 2012 14:04:36 GMT -5 @ksta said:

Well, I'm going to be harsh and tell you to SUCK IT UP BUTTERCUP. Presents given on different days for your birthday STILL count! (Although something off your baby's registry IS lame and doesn't quite count.) My birthday is January 1st and if I felt like you, then 98% of my birthdays wouldn't count as I never had parties with anyone outside of immediate family on the day of. Even now, half the time I have a headache so even have to pass H's plans for our private celebration off to a separate day.

This. Growing up my birthday was never celebrated on my birthday because it all depended on when my mom could visit. They all still count.

[amandasw]

and FWIW, my birthday is tomorrow but my H has spent a long time planning a surprise on Sat because, duh, people work on Fridays! I think he should still get credit because he is being thoughtful

[BlackCanary]

I'm with IvanKitteh. My birthday is December 22nd and I have probably only celebrated it on that day a couple of times.

Also, my MIL celebrates my b-day in July. I love it! ;D

[amandasw]

Jul 26, 2012 16:16:21 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

Yeah. I'm totally being a brat, but it doesn't mitigate how sad I feel. And the only reason anything is happening for my birthday is I asked a week ago what we're doing. XD It's not like he has the forethought to actually plan anything, so since planning is so late, no one is actually coming cause they all already have plans this weekend, and the birthday gift arriving late fiasco is just another lack of planning on his part. You'd think after 12 years though, he'd have learned.

well then that's a totally different problem - that has to do with your H not really thinking ahead, knowing he should plan something in advance so that people/gifts/etc can be there if possible.

Jul 26, 2012 16:16:21 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

FWIW, though, having a summer birthday has always sucked for different reasons, cause no one ever came to my birthday parties cause they were all visiting family, on vacation, or at summer camp. I was always super jealous of the kids whose parents brought in cupcakes during the school year and how teachers would give them a birthdy card.

I totally felt the same way! I was always jealous of people who had their bday during the school year. well, except until I met H whose birthday was ALWAYS during finals week, that made me feel a little better

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Jul 26, 2012 16:02:15 GMT -5 BlackCanary said:

I'm with IvanKitteh. My birthday is December 22nd and I have probably only celebrated it on that day a couple of times.

Also, my MIL celebrates my b-day in July. I love it! ;D

:y:

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Birthdays aren't a big deal to me any more. Edmund's are way more important to me than my own. It's nice to go out and do something without baby as a date night but doesn't have to happen. My birthday always falls on memorial day weekend so it's always hard to plan around that unless you do it way in advance.

[jennlin]

Jul 26, 2012 17:00:48 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

Jul 26, 2012 16:56:30 GMT -5 @sfgal530 said:

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I couldn't care less about celebrating a birthday. DH and I don't even give each other gifts consistently. He bought me a gift the first year we were dating (2006) but it stressed him out so much trying to find one that I told him to not buy me a gift again (we also didn't do Christmas gifts until this year). DH actually threw me a surprise birthday party this year, and it was the first time he'd planned anything for me (we've been together 7 years). It was super sweet and I loved it, but I honestly don't care about this type of stuff.

No, I think jennlin agrees. XD I think she posted about how people over a certain age shouldn't celebrate birthdays. Heh.

But birthdays have always been big deals in my family.

yep!!!!! except it's not that i think they shouldn't be "celebrated"...i think they should definitely be acknowledged, just big all-out celebrations because you turned 28 (or any other non-milestone) are annoying. have a quiet dinner with friends or something..but to party, drink, take shots "because it's your birthday".... that bothers me.

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Jul 26, 2012 18:51:53 GMT -5 jennlin said:

Jul 26, 2012 17:00:48 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

No, I think jennlin agrees. XD I think she posted about how people over a certain age shouldn't celebrate birthdays. Heh.

But birthdays have always been big deals in my family.

yep!!!!! except it's not that i think they shouldn't be "celebrated"...i think they should definitely be acknowledged, just big all-out celebrations because you turned 28 (or any other non-milestone) are annoying. have a quiet dinner with friends or something..but to party, drink, take shots "because it's your birthday".... that bothers me.

Jenn= birthday nazi

[jennlin]

oh, and i would LOVE a gift on my birthday from the baby registry.