Is this a lame wedding shower gift?

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A very close friend of mine is getting married next spring and his FI and I are decently good friends. We hang out together with out him.

She recently told me that she saw this necklace and really wanted it:

www.katespade.com/designer-jewelry/necklaces-for-women/say-yes-bridal-mrs.-necklace/WBRU3352,default,pd.html?dwvar_WBRU3352_color=711&start=3&cgid=kate-spade&q=mrs&navid=search

Then she goes on to tell me about how their HOA dues were just increased and her raise that she got for getting her masters (she's a teacher) is all going towards that now.

I'm considering buying the necklace now and saving it for her shower (sometime next year) and telling her FI, so that he can stop her from buying it.

Her birthday has already passed and, generally, I don't do Christmas presents with friends, so I can't think of another occasion to give this to her. And I feel like she might feel weird for me giving her a $75 just because present since we aren't BFF.

So, lame shower gift or good shower gift?

[madDawg228]

AWESOME gift! And the box it comes in is super cute too.

Way better than the towel set I'm giving a friend at her shower on Friday

[karebear219]

Awesome!

[amandasw]

I think that's super sweet!

(although personally I would side-eye someone wearing that... )

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I think its a sweet gift since you know she wants it.

[mkate710]

Super sweet shower gift!

I loved all of my registry shower gifts, but my cousin got me a Nordstrom gift card for my shower and that was a big deal to me. With all of the other expenses piling up around the wedding, I didn't feel like I could justify a cute dress to wear to our rehearsal/on our HM. So a gc to go buy something for that meant a lot. I think the necklace is a great idea, very thoughtful and very personal.

[amandasw]

Jul 26, 2012 17:14:37 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

1) It might be more fun to her now while she's excited about being engaged. Are you sure she'll still want it next year?

besides my general side-eye, I also think this is probably true. I think when you're wedding planning you'll go crazy for anything related to it - but in the real world (and after all the excitement is gone) you look back and say "wow, that was a little crazy".

I still think is is SUPER nice of you to get this for her, I'm just starting to be more against the idea the more I think about it.

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Jul 26, 2012 17:14:37 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

That's a cute gift if she wants it, but:

1) It might be more fun to her now while she's excited about being engaged. Are you sure she'll still want it next year?

2) Next year is a ways away. I wouldn't buy it now (unless it's on sale or being discontinued) in case she's not into it anymore or buys it herself.

Hmmm these are good points. I guess I'll skip it.