WWMMD? Job offer related

[starburst]

My H has been unhappy at his job for a really long time.  Last night he got a job offer that has a lot of positives.  Good salary, great benefits, a field he's been wanting to get into, etc.  Unfortunately, the job is located in an area about 2 hours away that we have no desire to live in.  While the cost of living is much lower and we could get a great house there, it is much more rural and not diverse at all.  Originally the job was presented as being in a different location which is closer to where we currently live, but then it ended up being at their main headquarters.

We are so torn.  This is a great opportunity, but ugh.  We would be moving away from friends and family, and I would have to find a new job, too.  WWMMD?

[UnderProtest]

To me, it would really depend on my current city and the proposed city. We have moved and will move again for my husband's job so his career has obviously come first.

[sunshineluv]

I think if you have no desire to live there, it won't be worth it.

Also, if this is a rural area, will you be able to find a new job?

[ECB]

Honestly, I;d probably keep looking. Loving where you live is important too.

[CrazyLucky]

DH and I moved from the Hudson Valley in NY to the middle of nowhere NC. Every single day I wish we could move back. I don't like the closest anything being 15 minutes away. There are few parks. I can't find swim lessons for my kids. Anything like Target or a Mall is a 45 minute drive. This sounds very negative I know. There are certainly some positives. The people here are very nice and the cost of living is good. But I really m iss being near "stuff."
If I had to do it over again, I would not have moved. I am not a country mouse.

[Deleted]

I have lived in areas I did not like and really, it has a huge negative impact on quality of life. I am currently living in an area I love and I doubt we'll ever move because I know what a difference it makes. I'd have your H keep looking.

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Sept 16, 2014 6:59:35 GMT -5 sunshineluv said:

I think if you have no desire to live there, it won't be worth it.

Also, if this is a rural area, will you be able to find a new job?

I'm a teacher, but I'm not sure how difficult it is to find a teaching job there, especially this time of year.

Sept 16, 2014 7:35:47 GMT -5 CrazyLucky said:

DH and I moved from the Hudson Valley in NY to the middle of nowhere NC. Every single day I wish we could move back. I don't like the closest anything being 15 minutes away. There are few parks. I can't find swim lessons for my kids. Anything like Target or a Mall is a 45 minute drive. This sounds very negative I know. There are certainly some positives. The people here are very nice and the cost of living is good. But I really m iss being near "stuff."
If I had to do it over again, I would not have moved. I am not a country mouse.

This is one of my biggest concerns as the main errand runner/shopper in our house.  Everything is so convenient where we currently live - Target, Costco, Trader Joe's, Whole Foods, other grocery stores, my favorite clothing stores, etc.  I don't want to have to drive all over the place to shop.

[ECB]

I guess I'm also wondering what "not happy" means. At my old job, I had worked for my manager for 2 years. By the time I left - I couldn't wait to get out. i'd have a pit in the bottom of my stomach on MOnday mornings. I hated going to work. HATED.

Present job. I've been here 7 years. I've been "unhappy" for a LONG time, but it's more a "i'm really bored" unhappy than anything else. There are other things I miss about my old employer (not manager, employer!) that I've never had here. i'm always keeping an eye open for something else.

But - my unhappiness isn't SO bad that I'll take the first offer that comes along. I'm definitely willing to wait it out until the truly RIGHT offer comes along.

That's why I ask. how unhappy is he? Is it really worth moving to an area that you really feel you aren't going to like? And away from family and friends?

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Sept 16, 2014 8:06:31 GMT -5 ECB said:

I guess I'm also wondering what "not happy" means. At my old job, I had worked for my manager for 2 years. By the time I left - I couldn't wait to get out. i'd have a pit in the bottom of my stomach on MOnday mornings. I hated going to work. HATED.

Present job. I've been here 7 years. I've been "unhappy" for a LONG time, but it's more a "i'm really bored" unhappy than anything else. There are other things I miss about my old employer (not manager, employer!) that I've never had here. i'm always keeping an eye open for something else.

But - my unhappiness isn't SO bad that I'll take the first offer that comes along. I'm definitely willing to wait it out until the truly RIGHT offer comes along.

That's why I ask. how unhappy is he? Is it really worth moving to an area that you really feel you aren't going to like? And away from family and friends?

He's absolutely miserable, which in turn makes my life miserable.  He does have another interview lined up on Wednesday, so I'm hoping that that goes well.  I'm not sure how much time he has to make a decision.

[ECB]

Ugh. Boo. Well, good luck. I hope this other interview pans out!!

[aurora]

Any chance he can negotiate an alternative work schedule? One day/week with a miserable commute, 3 days at the closer office that was the original location, 1 day telecommute? If he's miserable it's worth asking.

[Deleted]

My friends made this move and it has worked out really well for them. 2.5 hours to rural KS from Kansas City.

2 hours is not so far at least.

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Sept 16, 2014 8:31:48 GMT -5 aurora said:

Any chance he can negotiate an alternative work schedule? One day/week with a miserable commute, 3 days at the closer office that was the original location, 1 day telecommute? If he's miserable it's worth asking.

Unfortunately, they said the position had to be at their headquarters.  I think at this point we're leaning towards no. 

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Sept 16, 2014 12:15:33 GMT -5 Stan said:

We moved from San Diego to South Carolina. I miss SD every day, though I was happy to move at the time. I just would've preferred somewhere with a Costco.

LOL, one of the first things I did was look up where the nearest Target and Costco are.  No Target is a definite deal breaker!  I would save so much money though!

[Deleted]

I'd turn it down especially with current employment, however sucky. We moved somewhere rural that I hated for DH job, and along with a variety of other reasons, it almost cost us our marriage.

[sparkythelawyer]

I'd give it a shot. Hating your job sucks the soul out of a person. Plus, I'm generally up for an adventure :-)