S/O people in high school

[Deleted]

After reading the post about the guy running over his co-worker Made me wonder if people saw me would they be surprised.

Do you think people would be surprised how your life turned out? Doesn't mean it has to be bad. Or do you think it reflects the you from high school/ just graduated.

I only had two people from my school, that when I saw their fb or heard about them I was like really? I wouldn't have saw that. And mostly the other people are kind of what I expect. Not in a bad or judging way, just totally fits them.

I'd say people wouldn't be to surprised how I live my life, pretty boring. They'd be most surprised that I have two big dogs because I always wanted small purse dogs and they'd be surprised I'm not dating the guy I was with in high school.

How about you?

[wambam]

No, I think my life is exactly how everyone thought it would turn out: a sc ience-y job, married to Mr. Wambam, no kids at 26.

[CurlyQ284]

I don't think anyone would be surprised.

[Gato]

I think zero people would have guessed I'd become a SAHM.  Not even my parents.

[Deleted]

No. I was average and my life is average.

If anything, people from college may be surprised that I'm not on ecstasy and rolling around trying to hug trees somewhere outside Austin.

[Deleted]

I have a teacher from HS that told my parents she is surprised. She told me and my parents it was a waste of time to go to college. She was an ass to me all through school. I went to a very small school, but I'm the only one who actually has a job and a college degree, so my classmates may be surprised as well.

[statlerwaldorf]

I think people would be surprised that I'm a SAHM. I never liked kids. It turns out I like my kids. I just don't like other people's kids.

I was a troubled kid, but luckily I got my shit together. A lot of the people I hung out with in high school are heavy into drugs. One recently died from a heroin overdose.

[zoomzoom]

I don't think people would be surprised. I was pretty wild so I don't think it would surprise people that I waited until my late 30's to marry.

[captainobvious]

I think I'm a lot fatter than they would expect me to be, and less blond, but other than that not really unless we got more than superficial and they found out I have siblings and was adopted but didn't know it. That's kind of shocking to some people.

[zoidberg]

I haven't spoken to anyone from high school in 18 years. I'd be surprised if they remembered me enough to form an opinion.

[jinkies]

Well, *I'm* surprised at how I turned out. I don't know that other people are though. I always felt I was meant for bigger/more exciting things than the suburb I grew up in. I had no intention of staying here. So then god laughed and I ended up settling in that same suburb.

I don't know that is a surprise to other people (I was always pretty average), but it is to me.

[sugarbear]

My reunion is next week and I think I'm FB friends with 90% of the people who will be there. So they won't likely be surprised to see me now, but they might have been, to see my life, whenever we "met" on FB.

As far as how I turned out... I was incredibly overweight in high school. Graduated at 250lbs (at 5'8"). I was introverted and awkward, known as a smart kid, and overshadowed by my very handsome, very popular older brother. I was one of five (out of 230) who went out of state for college, and I blossomed the second I got on that plane. I joined the rowing team and shed 75lbs within a year. Had a successful athletic career and graduated in four years. Then I moved to a smaller town within my homestate and coached DI womens' rowing. Then I moved home and started competing again, myself, and won quite a few large races, including several national championships.

I'm guessing that if high school classmates stalked me on FB and saw all of those pictures, they'd probably be shocked at how (that part) of my life turned out. I'm still heavily involved in rowing, but am not competing any more. Now I'm a middle school teacher which, I'm guessing, surprises no one. 

[Deleted]

I still have lots of them on fb. We are all doing the same thing; married, kids and working. I don't think anyone would be surprised about me.

[no0b]

Hmm maybe, maybe not. I turned into a crazy dilhole my senior year due to a bad relationship so maybe people would be surprised that I'm normal and not a dilhole (well, not in public anyways).

I think to close friends I'm no surprise.

[mrsukyankee]

Yes, they would be shocked. I was a black wearing, head partially shaved, extremely shy person. And now I live overseas, am seen as outgoing and friendly, love my black but I also wear bright colours. I don't think they'd be shocked I was still doing lots of sports or a therapist, but everything else in my life...yes.

[Deleted]

Nope. No one would be surprised.

[tictac]

I think the only "shocking" thing about me is that I got married. I'm pretty sure the whole world (including myself) thought I'd end up living by myself in an apartment with 6 cats and a million books.

I was average, I stayed average.

[wysiwyg]

Yes.

I think a lot of people would be surprised at how I look. Apparently I look very, very different.

Same with the engineering thing, too. I was always shoved into a ditzy sidekick type role, so most people thought I was a bit stupid.

[prettyinpearls]

I'm pretty sure there are plenty of people from my HS who are surprised to see who I married. H and I went to the same HS but were 2 years apart (he was younger) and we weren't in the same social circles. At all.

[itsme]

They'd probably be surprised that I'm not 100lbs anymore (more like 180lbs). When my friends found out I had signed up for the military they made sure to try to fatten me up because I was so tiny and there was no way someone so thin could handle boot camp in their eyes.

[EmilieMadison]

 I have sporadic contact with several people from HS and I dont think anyone would be/is surprised about my life or what I'm like. I'm married, 2 kids, working for myself but primarily a SAHM. I guess the thing that has surprised most of them is that my guy BFF in HS is still my BFF now and that we never dated and didnt end up married. This comes up nearly every time I re-connect with an old HS friend. Life isn't a rom-com, folks. 

[Deleted]

I think a lot of people would be surprised that I quit dance and gained weight. That's about it. Oh, and maybe my grade 9 socials teacher who told me I would be a single mom living in a cardboard box. I'm so not. Lol.

[W.T.Faulkner]

I think more than a few people would be surprised that I live in the city and work in a high-poverty high school. I grew up in a pretty wealthy suburb, went to a private single-sex high school, and was very sheltered as a kid, so this is definitely a bit different from the typical trajectory.

Given my devoutly Catholic family, I think more than a few would be surprised that I live with my BF and we're not married, either. lol

[thebreakfastclub]

I was Daria Morgendorffer in high school. My personality hasn't changed, but my clothes, hair and weight have all improved.

[stephm0188]

Maybe. Probably not. Who knows.

I'm surprised by some of my classmates though.

[cleo29]

I think people are surprised I never finished college nor do I have a career. Being married with kids is not a surprise.

[circa1978]

I agree with PP that my H is probably not what people would expect. I was very alt/indie in high school, dated mostly arty types. Ended up with a football player frat boy.

[Deleted]

Umm... probably not. I mean I'm not sure if anyone would have guessed I'd be working in HR or divorced or living in Iowa, but that's all rather specific. They probably would have expected me to be reasonably successful regarding education (since I did pretty well in HS), that I'd end up with a decent job, and likely settle down with a significant other at some point, probably in the midwest. Nobody should be surprised that I have dogs. Nothing else much too notable about me, so nothing to surprise anyone I guess.

[CloudBee]

Man, I'm not sure. I wasn't able to participate in many extracurricular activities or sports growing up. And although I was friendly with most everyone in school, I had few close friends. My parents weren't very hands on, and had little interest in driving me to practices and friend's homes.

I also struggled off and on from middle school onward due to life at home. Most of my friends at school were high honor students, and I was always the outlier. They knew I had a difficult time keeping my head above water and even pulling my weight with group projects. So they probably didn't expect to see me land where I have? I graduated on time, landed my first job prior to graduation, and have had my feet pretty firmly planted, since.

I feel like my life has done a complete 180 since graduating from high school, now that I have control of it myself. (Parental influence out of the picture.) I'm getting out there and trying things I've always wanted to (sailing cert this weekend!), and chasing my dreams SO hard. I have had a few high school acquaintances friend me on FB, and then message me saying things like: "wow, you've really travelled the world! crazy!" So I'm sure some are surprised that my life went from drear to one filled with adventure. (Climbing glaciers, visiting pyramids, swimming with sharks in Bora Bora.) Maybe they think: "I didn't see that coming, with CB!"

I also was one of the first to get married (early 20's), which must have been a surprise as I didn't date around and was really shy.

I probably have somewhat of a bad relationship with FB. I know that when I've reached some milestones or crossed off a bucket list item and been able to post about it, I've subconsciously thought "see, people?? I did that! CloudBee, that girl who was so bland back in the day." Probably because I feel like no one ever saw me as anything more than that quiet girl in the hall? I'm sure this isn't healthy.

[schitzengiggles]

People I went to school with would be/are definitely surprised at how my life turned out. Hell, I am surprised at how my life turned out. 

I was a slacker. I made bad choices (nothing life altering...just bad judgment in general). I was very overweight, not active at all. I even skipped gym class so much one year in Junior High that I failed and had to take it again the following year. I wasn't cool because I was never in any sports or cool activities (pretty much an unspoken requirement if you wanted to be "in" at that small town, K-12 school). Really preferred to blend in as much as possible except within my circle of friends who were all similar to me. Dated around a lot, almost always guys who were similarly unpopular and sometimes downright BAD. I didn't try all that hard in school. My GPA was probably a low 2-something. I just didn't DO much. I am sure most people imagined I would grow up, stay local, not change a whole lot, maybe get married but not necessarily, and live a lifestyle typical of that tiny-town, middle of nowhere area. Not that it's a BAD thing  - I just think people assumed I would never be driven enough to even try to do anything other than that.


Now, I live with my DH,and 2 girls ages 6 and 7. We are four hours away from the tiny town where I grew up (and a far cry from "the middle of nowhere). My husband makes really good money in a career he enjoys and excels at. I also work FT in a job I love. We are both in grad school, DH with a 4.0 GPA and me with a 3.8.  We own a nice home, drive nice vehicles.  I lost 90lbs a few years back, and I run half marathons, stand in the front row at group fitness cla2ses, and work out regularly. I lead a large (500 people) running group for moms. I volunteer at my kid's school. I have a very large circle of friends.

All of that (particularly the running part and the leading a group part) are totally the opposite of what I think most would have imagined. I'm not a shy, lazy wallflower anymore! :-)