I am curious how many people labored down or were allowed to "slide" before starting to push.
I pushed for 3.5 with my first, but I never labored down. They told me it was time to push, and I was surprised. Epidural was so strong I couldn't move my toes, and I never felt pressure or the urge to push.
ACOG now recommends 2 hours of laboring down for first time moms. Except in instances where the baby is not positioned correctly, I feel like I don't see the extended pushing as often as I used to. I can't help but wonder if my first time would have gone better with some minor changes. I do swear by laboring down and lighter epidurals though.
I am curious how many people labored down or were allowed to "slide" before starting to push.
I pushed for 3.5 with my first, but I never labored down. They told me it was time to push, and I was surprised. Epidural was so strong I couldn't move my toes, and I never felt pressure or the urge to push.
ACOG now recommends 2 hours of laboring down for first time moms. Except in instances where the baby is not positioned correctly, I feel like I don't see the extended pushing as often as I used to. I can't help but wonder if my first time would have gone better with some minor changes. I do swear by laboring down and lighter epidurals though.
What is laboring down?
When you are completely dilated, but not feeling pressure or urge to push, and they just let you hang out for a few more hours. This is not typically done in natural labors of course. As long as mom is comfortable and baby is tolerating it well, it's the best thing to do. Body does the work and she doesn't wear herself out.
When you are completely dilated, but not feeling pressure or urge to push, and they just let you hang out for a few more hours. This is not typically done in natural labors of course. As long as mom is comfortable and baby is tolerating it well, it's the best thing to do. Body does the work and she doesn't wear herself out.
Not typically done in natural labors? Huh?
Well, no, because moms who don't have an epidural aren't just going to chill for a few more hours. You can not stop them from pushing, and they would probably kill you if you tried.
When you are completely dilated, but not feeling pressure or urge to push, and they just let you hang out for a few more hours. This is not typically done in natural labors of course. As long as mom is comfortable and baby is tolerating it well, it's the best thing to do. Body does the work and she doesn't wear herself out.
My nurse really pushed my doctor to let me do this. Like went and talked to him out of the room. I had no idea it was recommended. She just said she wanted me to wait to feel the urge so I wasn't too tired. She was amazing though.
I am curious how many people labored down or were allowed to "slide" before starting to push.
I pushed for 3.5 with my first, but I never labored down. They told me it was time to push, and I was surprised. Epidural was so strong I couldn't move my toes, and I never felt pressure or the urge to push.
ACOG now recommends 2 hours of laboring down for first time moms. Except in instances where the baby is not positioned correctly, I feel like I don't see the extended pushing as often as I used to. I can't help but wonder if my first time would have gone better with some minor changes. I do swear by laboring down and lighter epidurals though.
I didn't push for an extended amount of time but I don't know if I labored down? I felt like I needed to push but they told me not to because I still had a lip (?) on my cervix. My body was pushing on its own. (Is that common?) once they said it was okay to push, I did.
Post by Yankees21 on Sept 16, 2014 21:44:57 GMT -5
Im just banking on the second one being easier to push out, especially since I don't know if the epidural failing was a me problem or an anesthesiologist problem.
I pushed for mayyyybe 15 minutes with L. I pushed for 45 with O.
Afterwards, I asked the L&D nurse, while baby nurse was giving O his little wash up, if maybe I should've labored down more before I started pushing because 45 minutes was sooooooooooo long. The baby nurse interrupted and was all "Honey, I just measured his head. You're lucky you got him out in under an hour." Poor giant-headed baby.
It took me an hour and a half to push with my first, who was 9 1/2lbs. My sister pushed for a little over three hours and my nephew was 9lbs 13oz. For a first time mom, 2-3 hours is normal.
I was fully dilated for over an hour, but had no urge to push and Sofia had no intentions of going anywhere, lol. I thought I was going to die and I could not concentrate on anything but the pain, so my midwife had me start pushing to try and focus on something other than my contractions, and I pushed for 2 hours.
I just meant that my takeaway would not be "pushing is awesome if you get the epidural!" Lol.
I'm a weanie and am assuming it hurts a lot when you are pushing? I'm too much of a delicate flower to do that for hours...and I assume a joint would be frowned upon in L&D haha.
Not that I'm the queen of pushing or anything, but it's tiring. Pushing forever would make you feel like a rag doll.
When you are completely dilated, but not feeling pressure or urge to push, and they just let you hang out for a few more hours. This is not typically done in natural labors of course. As long as mom is comfortable and baby is tolerating it well, it's the best thing to do. Body does the work and she doesn't wear herself out.
That's what I did, although at the time I didn't know that was what happening. I just remember laying on my side and feeling immense pressure. The doctor's face when she finally checked me was hilarious. I pushed for less than 15 minutes.
When you are completely dilated, but not feeling pressure or urge to push, and they just let you hang out for a few more hours. This is not typically done in natural labors of course. As long as mom is comfortable and baby is tolerating it well, it's the best thing to do. Body does the work and she doesn't wear herself out.
I did this with K. 45 post epi, I thought I had pooped the bed. I told the nurse, she asked me if I wanted her to check me, she took one look and said, "there's a head!".
You know it's go time, when the doctor comes right in at the start of pushing. lol 11 minutes of pushing and there was K. Seriously, her L&D was a dream.
I just meant that my takeaway would not be "pushing is awesome if you get the epidural!" Lol.
I'm a weanie and am assuming it hurts a lot when you are pushing? I'm too much of a delicate flower to do that for hours...and I assume a joint would be frowned upon in L&D haha.
Once you start feeling pressure, it feels good to push against the pain. It hurts to not push. My doctor was delivering a baby next door, so they told me to wait and not push with C until he got there. I was like "you all know what you are doing, you don't really need him, and if I have to sit through one more contraction without pushing I will kill everyone"
For real though, you forget it all as soon as you hold your baby. Mine looked up at me with her eyes open. That's all it took.
I vividly remember the pain of her crowning and pushing through the ring of fire.
It was nice to hold her, but I....yeah, I don't look forward to that crowning part with the next one. And I haven't forgotten.
OMG, yes. I will never forget either. When crowning, the midwife who delivered L (she was the midwife on call/not my 1st choice, so I didn't have my actual midwife there) said, "I'm sure you're really uncomfortable right now." I wanted to strangle her. For real. No shit I'm uncomfortable.
The next day my midwife came to see me and asked how it all went. After I told her L was OP and I had to push for 3 hours, she was like, "Next time will be easier, I promise." I looked at her like she was crazy and said, "Umm, next time?" Lol, yet here I am pregnant again. The only thing that made labor and birth rough was L being face up, so I have high hopes that won't happen again.
I pushed for a little over an hour with X. It was tiring for sure, but a huge feeling of relief at the same time because it felt better than contractions. Not sure if other moms felt that way.
I had always heard this, but I hated pushing because it was either a horrible contraction or super intense pressure and I felt like I could never catch my breathe. I am admittedly a huge wimp though.
The ring of fire is not a myth. And 45 seconds feels like forever when you have a giant headed baby pressing down there and you are waiting for the next contraction to push.
Nah their births were the highlights of my life, and I don't just mean because they brought them into the world. The act of giving birth is one if my favorite things I've ever done. I'd do it 100 more times if I could just do it and not deal with pregnancy, the aftermath, or taking care of more kids. Lol ETA that was to nugget. Can't quote on my phone.
Who else was it that said they loved giving birth. papie maybe? I know you aren't the first one I remember. It's exciting, I could have done without the million wires that made it impossible to adjust in bed, but I would do it again. I am not so scarred after my second experience thankfully, which is obviously why she is my favorite. (I kid, I kid!)
Post by CurlyQ284 on Sept 16, 2014 22:17:51 GMT -5
I think I pushed for maybe 2 hours? I had the epidural at 4:30 and my amazing L & D nurses shift was over at 6 and I remember being like "He has to be out by 6! I don't want another nurse!" She stayed until 7:29 when he was born. I love nurse Stephanie.
I also promised to send Michael the anesthesiologist christmas cookies. I yelled a lot of weird stuff about that time.
Nah their births were the highlights of my life, and I don't just mean because they brought them into the world. The act of giving birth is one if my favorite things I've ever done. I'd do it 100 more times if I could just do it and not deal with pregnancy, the aftermath, or taking care of more kids. Lol ETA that was to nugget. Can't quote on my phone.
Who else was it that said they loved giving birth. papie maybe? I know you aren't the first one I remember. It's exciting, I could have done without the million wires that made it impossible to adjust in bed, but I would do it again. I am not so scarred after my second experience thankfully, which is obviously why she is my favorite. (I kid, I kid!)
I know I've said it before. I love the whole experience, and while I don't forget (or enjoy!) the pain, I would happily go through it again. The pregnancy and newborn stage too. I love it all.
I pushed for nearly two hours (with an epidural) with my first, and 10 minutes or so with my second and third (both med-free). I didn't notice the ring of fire; the pain of med-free contractions far eclipsed it for me. I just wanted those babies OUT.
I want to experience the kind of births that some of you apparently had. Love labor? Would do it again and again?? The first thing I felt when Vivi was born was absolute relief that I would NEVER, EVER have to do that again. Then omg is she ok? Then hunger. Then love. Lol.
I'm a weanie and am assuming it hurts a lot when you are pushing? I'm too much of a delicate flower to do that for hours...and I assume a joint would be frowned upon in L&D haha.
Once you start feeling pressure, it feels good to push against the pain. It hurts to not push. My doctor was delivering a baby next door, so they told me to wait and not push with C until he got there. I was like "you all know what you are doing, you don't really need him, and if I have to sit through one more contraction without pushing I will kill everyone"
What kristie is nicely trying to say is that if you don't push you feel like your ass is going to explode right off your body. There is no not pushing, it's just not an option. It's either die or push. Team Epi for lyfe!
Okay, I know I made it sound horrible, and in the moment it was, but it was over quickly and as soon as he was out it was like, "Well, that was intense. But I feel 1000 times better now, so yay." Also, I felt like a goddamn rockstar when it was done.
ETA: All thing birth and baby related sound absolutely awful until you are going through it and then it all seems doable. Mostly because you have no choice.
I want to experience the kind of births that some of you apparently had. Love labor? Would do it again and again?? The first thing I felt when Vivi was born was absolute relief that I would NEVER, EVER have to do that again. Then omg is she ok? Then hunger. Then love. Lol.
I get you. I felt this way after my first one, it was the worst thing I had ever been through. I remember wanting something to drink more than anything else right after she was born. My two experiences are seriously night and day. I swore never again for years, then only if it was a c-section, then eventually came around to considering doing it again.
I'm a weanie and am assuming it hurts a lot when you are pushing? I'm too much of a delicate flower to do that for hours...and I assume a joint would be frowned upon in L&D haha.
Once you start feeling pressure, it feels good to push against the pain. It hurts to not push. My doctor was delivering a baby next door, so they told me to wait and not push with C until he got there. I was like "you all know what you are doing, you don't really need him, and if I have to sit through one more contraction without pushing I will kill everyone"
That happened this time around. I had labored down for an hour and the urge to push was pretty unbearable even with the epidural. Then as I'm ready to go, they had an emergency c section and took everyone- including my nurse! They left me with a baby doctor (like, an intern) and my H who both just sat there silently as I writhed in pain for another hour trying not to push. Finally I was like "fuck this! I'm pushing, if she comes just put your hands out! We've all seen this on tv!"
Luckily that's right about when my drs came back. 45 minutes later she was here : )
Nah their births were the highlights of my life, and I don't just mean because they brought them into the world. The act of giving birth is one if my favorite things I've ever done. I'd do it 100 more times if I could just do it and not deal with pregnancy, the aftermath, or taking care of more kids. Lol ETA that was to nugget. Can't quote on my phone.
I feel like this too. Biggest sense of relief and exhilaration I've ever felt in my life. (Although I've never done anything that thrilling before like sky diving, lol).