Post by Mrs.Rad888 on Sept 18, 2014 1:57:27 GMT -5
To me, kissing is foreplay, so if a guy were a bad kisser, I don't know that I'd ever get hot enough to want to have sex with him. At the risk of sounding shallow, if the sex isn't mind-blowing, there is very little chance of a long-term future for us.
Many years ago, I had a kind of shallow BF. I got a cut on my gums, from DS sticking his fingers in my mouth (he had just discovered my teeth). The cut took a while to heal, since gums stay wet, and it didn't look very good. This BF decided that the risk of me having a recurrent HSV-I infection that I could pass to him was too big, and he stopped kissing me. Well, to me, kissing is foreplay, and without that there's not going to be any action. I had no problem breaking up with him when we transferred to different duty stations.
My ex wasn't really into kissing.. when I would initiate it, it was just bad on his part. I tried to give him tips but nothing worked. So it stopped. Come to think of it, he wasn't very good at having sex either.. it was just blah.
Now my bf on the other hand... just WOW!! We have great make-out sessions like we're both teenagers again!! It's cute!
Ok, I just want to tell you - after this thread, I texted BF that I wanted to make out with him.
When I went over to his house yesterday, I started kissing him and it turned into a makeout session, followed by a rip-each-other's-clothes-off sex, which hasn't happened in FOREVER.
Date? Sure. Marry? Fuck no. Just like I wouldn't marry someone who was bad at oral. I'm sure there's a strong correlation.
See, the dating would end when he kissed me and it was bad. I need that kiss spark. The totally stupid one where you have butterflies in your stomach and the kiss is so amazing you start salivating from your vagina? Yeah, I need that. Otherwise I will be all "Well, it was nice to meet you! Bye!"