I had a fwb who was great in bed, orgasm every time, but omg the kissing was not good. At one point there was potential for us to start liking each other more, but I kept thinking to myself, I can't be with him because I would die every time we kissed.
Thankfully, he's the only guy I've been with that's really sucked at kissing. They would get the Bye Felicia real quick.
Post by pantsparty on Sept 17, 2014 12:54:07 GMT -5
Absolutely! I've actually told my H recently when we start gearing up for sex there needs to be more kissing and not just, like, right to my boobs. LOL.
It's important but I have found with some guys it is just adjustment at first. Like they will be bad and then after a few weeks they got it and it was good.
Its pretty important to me. I've spent way too much time in relationships not saying how I like/dislike things because I didn't want to hurt feelings. Next time it gets addressed right up front (nicely).
Post by rageragerage on Sept 17, 2014 12:58:53 GMT -5
It is not important to me at all, kissing just isn't my thing. I think my DH is just fine at it, but if we stopped all together I don't think I would notice.
I always think I don't really like kissing, but then I usually enjoy it once I get going. It's definitely a regular part of our "encounters." But what I really love is having my neck kissed.
I love it when I'm doing something else, and H comes up behind me and puts his arms around me and kisses my neck.
Post by pantsparty on Sept 17, 2014 12:59:27 GMT -5
I also agree it's more intimate. I think one of the reasons I'm not a huge fan of oral is that I feel weird not really participating (just lying there, LOL) and then I feel like I need to be really noisy and enthusiastic, and I feel super self-conscious whether or not I'm making noises. It almost makes me tense.
Kissing relaxes me and gets me in the mode for sex.
I also agree it's more intimate. I think one of the reasons I'm not a huge fan of oral is that I feel weird not really participating (just lying there, LOL) and then I feel like I need to be really noisy and enthusiastic, and I feel super self-conscious whether or not I'm making noises. It almost makes me tense.
Kissing relaxes me and gets me in the mode for sex.
I am the same. I am all wtf at myself too because you'd think after ten years I'd be comfortable just laying there without making excited noises but nope. Why?
Post by NothingWrongwithOhio on Sept 17, 2014 13:05:05 GMT -5
I very clearly remember our first kiss and being surprised at how great it was. I feel like H's kissing skills have decreased significantly over time. I've kinda addressed it and things have gotten better recently.
Post by jeekerbeeker on Sept 17, 2014 13:08:36 GMT -5
It's my favorite so it's super important to me. I don't think I could deal with a terrible kisser. And at this age I am not sure that I want to teach someone how to.