So much mom judging.

[turtlegirl]

I fully plan on letting my boys walk to school it the bus stop of whatever in elementary school. Especially since they are only one grade apart. Built in buddy system.

But besides the first few days of school I remember walking to the bus stop by myself.

[humpforfree]

Sept 18, 2014 14:37:54 GMT -5 chilerellanos said:

When the fair was in town, my 15 year old was there with a group of friends.

One of my friends went up to him and was talking to him, asked him where I was, etc. When it was revealed that we weren't there, my friend tested me and asked if I knew he was here and did she want me to bring him home since it wasn't appropriate for him to be there without an adult.

So yeah, the judging is there even when your kids are older!

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Wtf. A fifteen year old can't go to the fair without parents!? Starting in middle school (11 yo) my friends and I would get dropped off at the mall pretty much every Friday and then another parent would pick us up several hours later.

[6fsn]

My now 6 yo walked home from the bus stop Tuesday because I completely lost track of time. My only concern was that he might have been scared. He couldn't have cared less.

I know people judge my decisions every day in ways I probably haven't even thought of. I don't care.

[midnightsnack]

Sept 18, 2014 14:42:39 GMT -5 humpforfree said:

Sept 18, 2014 14:37:54 GMT -5 chilerellanos said:

When the fair was in town, my 15 year old was there with a group of friends.

One of my friends went up to him and was talking to him, asked him where I was, etc. When it was revealed that we weren't there, my friend tested me and asked if I knew he was here and did she want me to bring him home since it wasn't appropriate for him to be there without an adult.

So yeah, the judging is there even when your kids are older!

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Wtf. A fifteen year old can't go to the fair without parents!? Starting in middle school (11 yo) my friends and I would get dropped off at the mall pretty much every Friday and then another parent would pick us up several hours later.

Around here, you aren't allowed to be in the mall unsupervised until you're like 13 or something. I mean, god, the world might end.

[midnightsnack]

I must really be a bad mother. I also must hate-read some mommy group pages later because now I am curious.

[mellymel]

OMG @this - when did you change your avatar?

DEAD.

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That note is crazy stepping over the line. Tbh it makes her look insane. Pretty much the opposite of what she was going for, I'm sure.

[mlt]

I often take these stories from "victims of judging" with a grain of salt. Some people are overly defensive and hear things wrong or take things the wrong way. Because where are all these women who are ballsy enough to put a note in a bag? Really? It's not that I don't believe it, it's that these stories appear on the web and in my friend circle all the time and 100% of the audience is all "how dare she openly judge you!!!1!!" Just seems weird. Maybe the note was more along the lines of "do you need someone to watch your kid at the stop?" meant in a nice way. Or maybe the woman who got judged in the store ignored her kid or was on her phone or something and so someone was snarky. I have said things to moms at the playground when they are buried in their phones while their kid throws sand on my kid. "Your kid is throwing sand," seems simple to me but for all I know she turned around and made a big deal about it on the internet.

[cinco]

Our bus driver is not allowed to let K and 1st graders off the bus if a parent isn't there. I was home, but lost track of time one day last year, and my neighbor told the bus driver she'd watch my kids for me. To think she could have just written me a nasty note instead :/ I will live in my little bubble and pretend my neighbors and friends are the norm, and the judgers are few.

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I feel like so many of these are self guilt induced by crazy people. "I feel guilty about something, so I need to find a reason why I'm a better Mom than you because I'm insecure!".

[cjeanette]

Sept 18, 2014 14:37:54 GMT -5 chilerellanos said:

When the fair was in town, my 15 year old was there with a group of friends.

One of my friends went up to him and was talking to him, asked him where I was, etc. When it was revealed that we weren't there, my friend tested me and asked if I knew he was here and did she want me to bring him home since it wasn't appropriate for him to be there without an adult.

So yeah, the judging is there even when your kids are older!

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So what age is appropriate?  I mean, that kid is 3 years away from being a legal adult.  Should you wait until then?

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Sept 18, 2014 14:53:39 GMT -5 @this said:

Sept 18, 2014 14:50:29 GMT -5 mellymel said:

OMG @this - when did you change your avatar?

DEAD.

@savestheday asked me to earlier today and I obliged. lol

This is awesome.

[midnightsnack]

Sept 18, 2014 15:00:37 GMT -5 mlt said:

I often take these stories from "victims of judging" with a grain of salt. Some people are overly defensive and hear things wrong or take things the wrong way. Because where are all these women who are ballsy enough to put a note in a bag? Really? It's not that I don't believe it, it's that these stories appear on the web and in my friend circle all the time and 100% of the audience is all "how dare she openly judge you!!!1!!" Just seems weird. Maybe the note was more along the lines of "do you need someone to watch your kid at the stop?" meant in a nice way. Or maybe the woman who got judged in the store ignored her kid or was on her phone or something and so someone was snarky. I have said things to moms at the playground when they are buried in their phones while their kid throws sand on my kid. "Your kid is throwing sand," seems simple to me but for all I know she turned around and made a big deal about it on the internet.

 

How about MYOB as a general rule with someone else's kids unless they are about to hurt/actively hurting themselves or someone else?

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Sept 18, 2014 15:08:13 GMT -5 cinco said:

Our bus driver is not allowed to let K and 1st graders off the bus if a parent isn't there. I was home, but lost track of time one day last year, and my neighbor told the bus driver she'd watch my kids for me. To think she could have just written me a nasty note instead :/ I will live in my little bubble and pretend my neighbors and friends are the norm, and the judgers are few.

We have this rule as well and my neighbors and I send kids up and down the street all the time. The third day of school we were running a little late and one of the husbands actually came and knocked on our door to make sure we'd get out in time. I can't imagine living near people like the woman mentioned in the OP.

[anna7602]

Sept 18, 2014 14:43:03 GMT -5 6fsn said:

My now 6 yo walked home from the bus stop Tuesday because I completely lost track of time. My only concern was that he might have been scared. He couldn't have cared less.

I know people judge my decisions every day in ways I probably haven't even thought of. I don't care.

My life would be awesome if my 6-year-old could walk home from the bus stop. I paid someone to pick her up today.

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My DS is 7 and in 2nd grade and we live about 2 blocks from school however; my DH walks him everyday. The only reason he's not allowed to walk by himself yet is because the 1 street he has to cross is a mess in morning with no crossing guard and half the parents and people driving on the street do not stop fully at the stop sign. However; I'm sure DH can't wait for him to be able to walk himself.

I just don't get why other mom's judge each other.

[bronxgirl]

WTF is wrong with people?