Nope. But that doesn't mean I haven't been around children or had them in my car. Considering that one man is up for murdering his child for doing the same thing, doesn't mean that this couldn't have ended the same way. I'm very glad that woman stuck to her guns and got that child out of the car.
Well that is nice. You realize than when it is your children, you have to take care of then even when you are sick, tired, stressed, busy, upset, etc? Do you not have days where you are preoccupied and not 100% focused on what you are doing? Well when you are a parent, those days, a mistake can cost the life if your child.
These threads make me so fucking angry.
Absolutely. And it's one major reason why I don't have kids. I'm very happy that there are women out there that have kids, are wonderful moms, and willing to make those sacrifices.
With all the media attention for the man that was arrested for leaving his child in the car and the toddler dying, I'm just surprised that one does not take steps to prevent such a tragic thing from happening. Even if the guy is found not-guilty, I'm assuming the guilt he carries with him is a lifetime of punishment that no one can possible imagine.
Windshield probably makes a little more sense than a window b/c I imagine it's easier and perhaps cheaper to replace than a window (and any accompanying motor, door construction issues). Think the insurance co. would replace it? "Oh, sorry Adjuster. That truck of tire irons fell apart on the highway and they were just flying left and right. Good thing I only lost the windshield!"
Post by aprilsails on Sept 22, 2014 13:35:05 GMT -5
That picture is the oddest thing ever.
I'm also shocked that she smashed the windshield and then crawled through to unlock the door and cut up her arms. That has to be the most dramatic method of getting into a car I have every heard of. If you just popped the front passenger window on the side opposite to the baby you could reach in and unlock.
Well that is nice. You realize than when it is your children, you have to take care of then even when you are sick, tired, stressed, busy, upset, etc? Do you not have days where you are preoccupied and not 100% focused on what you are doing? Well when you are a parent, those days, a mistake can cost the life if your child.
These threads make me so fucking angry.
ALL OF THIS.
I do the same mundane shit day after day. Sometimes I can absolutely swear I did something and haven't actually done it because I do it every.damn.day and truly can't recall specific uneventful instances of whatever it is, even on the same day.
Yeah, I have a 16 month old. It's my biggest fear. Today I'm so fucking tired and stressed, someone asked if I did something last week and I have no clue. I'm just fried. And we're on day 10 of the baby refusing to sleep through the night. Last night she just started singing. SINGING. At 2:30. THis week I feel like I"m not going to make it.
Well that is nice. You realize than when it is your children, you have to take care of then even when you are sick, tired, stressed, busy, upset, etc? Do you not have days where you are preoccupied and not 100% focused on what you are doing? Well when you are a parent, those days, a mistake can cost the life if your child.
These threads make me so fucking angry.
Absolutely. And it's one major reason why I don't have kids. I'm very happy that there are women out there that have kids, are wonderful moms, and willing to make those sacrifices.
With all the media attention for the man that was arrested for leaving his child in the car and the toddler dying, I'm just surprised that one does not take steps to prevent such a tragic thing from happening. Even if the guy is found not-guilty, I'm assuming the guilt he carries with him is a lifetime of punishment that no one can possible imagine.
You're talking about the one in Atlanta? The one they think did it on purpose?
Well that is nice. You realize than when it is your children, you have to take care of then even when you are sick, tired, stressed, busy, upset, etc? Do you not have days where you are preoccupied and not 100% focused on what you are doing? Well when you are a parent, those days, a mistake can cost the life if your child.
These threads make me so fucking angry.
Absolutely. And it's one major reason why I don't have kids. I'm very happy that there are women out there that have kids, are wonderful moms, and willing to make those sacrifices.
With all the media attention for the man that was arrested for leaving his child in the car and the toddler dying, I'm just surprised that one does not take steps to prevent such a tragic thing from happening. Even if the guy is found not-guilty, I'm assuming the guilt he carries with him is a lifetime of punishment that no one can possible imagine.
People can forget to take the precautions too. Maybe you usually put your purse in the back with your baby. But today you have a cold and your tissue is in your purse, so you keep it on the passenger seat.
Well, your future children are very lucky to have someone who is absolutely perfect and will NEVER make a horrific mistake as their parent.
God damn. I just said I wasn't fucking perfect. It's a horrible situation all around. Again, there are ways to prevent this kind of thing from happening. That was my only point.
Please just stop. There are ways to prevent all kinds of bad shit in this world, that doesn't mean accidents don't happen. That doesn't mean he is a horrible father who is a "dickhead" and deserves his child to be taken into DHS custody. Just, stop.
Actually, it's easier to break out side windows as opposed to front and rear windshields. The windshields are harder to break through. Whack on the front, opposite side window than the kid and pop the lock. I have a safety hammer in my car if I ever needed it.
I can't imagine forgetting a 1 year old. I mean at 1 DS was talking and babbling like crazy and might fall asleep in the car, but unless he was asleep for a really long time I just can't see how it is possible to forget a child that old.
Good for you.
I just feel that this case may be more nefarious than some others. Dad was in a store, not at work, so unless he is always at the store at that time and doesn't have the kid with him it's not like he was on autopilot & forgot ( like we often see in other cases ). They tried paging him and he didn't show up. That coupled with an older baby and it doesn't make sense to me.
After that case in Georgia I am more suspicious when the details don't add up. I know it's possible he forgot, it just seems less probable than in other cases.
I am not saying that ALL people who have this happen to them are monsters who did it on purpose. Everyone is damn lucky that lady acted when she did.
After that case in Georgia I am more suspicious when the details don't add up. I know it's possible he forgot, it just seems less probable than in other cases.
I am not saying that ALL people who have this happen to them are monsters who did it on purpose. Everyone is damn lucky that lady acted when she did.
I was in walmart with DH on Thursday night and didn't have my phone. I had them page that SOB three times even using his full name and he didn't hear and/or register that it was him.
Well that is nice. You realize than when it is your children, you have to take care of then even when you are sick, tired, stressed, busy, upset, etc? Do you not have days where you are preoccupied and not 100% focused on what you are doing? Well when you are a parent, those days, a mistake can cost the life if your child.
These threads make me so fucking angry.
ALL OF THIS.
I do the same mundane shit day after day. Sometimes I can absolutely swear I did something and haven't actually done it because I do it every.damn.day and truly can't recall specific uneventful instances of whatever it is, even on the same day.Â
I babysat for an awesome mom that left her baby in the car. She went to the grocery store with some of her 5 kids and had a parking spot at the sidewalk. The older kids got out, shut the door, and she forgot about the baby that had fallen asleep. Luckily the deli employee asked her where the baby was and the van was in the shade. The baby was hot but fine. The smallest change in events and this could have never happened or been a tragic accident.
I feel like this thread illustrates how this happens.
"Well I would NEVER forget little Jimmy! I just wouldn't do that!"
This sort of thing did not even enter my mind before I had a kid. Who forgets a kid in a car? Well, perfectly good parents do, and you hardly ever hear about it until a child dies. In a milder version, I often forget DD is around when she's taking naps. I'm all, "Running to the grocery store...oh right, I have a sleeping kid that I forgot about...never mind."
I just want to bold this because luckily for all of us that have kids it is usually a milder form of the same scenario. I have definitely gotten out of my car and stood there for a second like an idiot thinking, "what do I do now...oh yeah kid, get him", because among other reasons I am tired and have been chasing a fearless baby around all day. I am so incredibly grateful that I haven't majorly fucked up and left him in the car but I hope if I did someone would smash the fuck out of my window too. Until proven otherwise I am going to assume that this dad was having a really bad day and thank god it ended with only a broken windshield.
Warning: that article is very good, but extremely sad.
Thank you. I was coming over to post this same.damn.thing.
I lived on the outskirts of Medina when the Costello incident occurred and it was all over our local news. I read the original WaPo article when it came out (DH's family is from MD and are subscribers). The next year blog post came out on the Seattle Children's Hospital website featuring the article. My best friend and I, in tandem, accidentally locked my DD1 in the car when she shut my passenger door, not realizing my keys were on the front seat and the door was locked; she shut the passenger door as I was buckling in DD1 and shut her door. Thank god it was the 1980s and my car was old with the door locks that you can pop open with a hanger, and someone in the Carl's Junior was able to find a wire hanger quickly.
Shit happens. Sometimes it's devastating shit. But all too often it's accidental.
I just can't comprehend leaving your child in a hot car. The woman absolutely did the right thing and I'm glad he's with CPS instead of his dickhead dad.
Why the fuck would they tell her not to smash the windshield? And why would she be questioned at all? Give the lady a medal and let her be on her way!
If I were to ever forget my kids in the car, I would hope that someone would do whatever it took to get them out. I cannot fathom someone questioning this - especially in San Antonio where it is hotter than hell.
I can't be the only one who ends up at the grocery store 3-4 times a week for various things. I might not go daily but I go often enough that it isn't like a special outing or something.
I can't be the only one who ends up at the grocery store 3-4 times a week for various things. I might not go daily but I go often enough that it isn't like a special outing or something.
I am on a first name basis with most of the cashiers. It's ridiculous.
I feel like this thread illustrates how this happens.
"Well I would NEVER forget little Jimmy! I just wouldn't do that!"
This sort of thing did not even enter my mind before I had a kid. Who forgets a kid in a car? Well, perfectly good parents do, and you hardly ever hear about it until a child dies. In a milder version, I often forget DD is around when she's taking naps. I'm all, "Running to the grocery store...oh right, I have a sleeping kid that I forgot about...never mind."
I just want to bold this because luckily for all of us that have kids it is usually a milder form of the same scenario. I have definitely gotten out of my car and stood there for a second like an idiot thinking, "what do I do now...oh yeah kid, get him", because among other reasons I am tired and have been chasing a fearless baby around all day. I am so incredibly grateful that I haven't majorly fucked up and left him in the car but I hope if I did someone would smash the fuck out of my window too. Until proven otherwise I am going to assume that this dad was having a really bad day and thank god it ended with only a broken windshield.
Yep. I have never left my kids in the car but I did once forget to buckle DS into his carseat. Put him in the car and ran back into the house to grab something and then drove to daycare. luckily nothing happened in those 2 miles but I felt guilty for a long time.
I can't be the only one who ends up at the grocery store 3-4 times a week for various things. I might not go daily but I go often enough that it isn't like a special outing or something.
I am on a first name basis with most of the cashiers. It's ridiculous.
I keep getting the same one in charge of self checkout that keeps saying "how does it feel to be 30? Do you feel OLD?! I turn 30 in 2 months" I know dude. You told me that on friday.
I either need to stop using self checkout or stop buying wine and having to show my ID. See ya self checkout.
I'm with papie. These discussions make me irrationally angry. Then I'm even more angry that because one person allegedly did it on purpose, people like zoomzoom go from not only suggesting that the parents are not only inadequate idiots incapable of being decent parents to now being attempted murderers. Ridiculous.
I recall a thread on here long ago where a well-known ML or MM mom accidentally left her child in the car. I don't recall the details except that it was at a mall/store, the baby/child was fine, and the mom was beside herself. I'm sure it felt awful, but everyone knew her to be a good mom, and it was a good reminder to everyone that something like that could happen to ANYONE. Her story really stuck with me, even though I don't recall who it was. It's called an accident for a reason.
I'm with papie. These discussions make me irrationally angry. Then I'm even more angry that because one person allegedly did it on purpose, people like zoomzoom go from not only suggesting that the parents are not only inadequate idiots incapable of being decent parents to now being attempted murderers. Ridiculous.
Not just that! That because OTHER parents are murderers, any parents who don't take precautions based upon the M.O. of a murderous parent are negligent assholes. I mean, the Great Almighty ZoomZoom would never EVER make a mistake like that in such a position. Must be nice to be infallible!