OH and I forgot about one cookout I went to at a friends house (this was about 15 years ago)(someone posted something similar and it reminded me) So I said "Can I bring anything" and she said "NOpe we are getting all the food. We are just asking everyone to bring 25.00 to cover the cost thanks" so I went with three friends. We each paid our $25. There was no beer. We had tap water, and we each got one hamburger. nothing else. her husband put Chinese sausage on the grill and I said "Oh I would love one of those" and he said "Im sorry someone brought this specifically, its not for everyone". So my $25 got me a hamburger and tap water. I was so annoyed. I had totally forgotten about this until I read someone's post
OH and I forgot about one cookout I went to at a friends house (this was about 15 years ago)(someone posted something similar and it reminded me) So I said "Can I bring anything" and she said "NOpe we are getting all the food. We are just asking everyone to bring 25.00 to cover the cost thanks" so I went with three friends. We each paid our $25. There was no beer. We had tap water, and we each got one hamburger. nothing else. her husband put Chinese sausage on the grill and I said "Oh I would love one of those" and he said "Im sorry someone brought this specifically, its not for everyone". So my $25 got me a hamburger and tap water. I was so annoyed. I had totally forgotten about this until I read someone's post
The thought of this deeply embarasses me. I've never been invited to a cookout with a cover charge. Who ARE these people?!!
Whaaaaattt?? This is awful. You should have asked for a refund.
OH and I forgot about one cookout I went to at a friends house (this was about 15 years ago)(someone posted something similar and it reminded me) So I said "Can I bring anything" and she said "NOpe we are getting all the food. We are just asking everyone to bring 25.00 to cover the cost thanks" so I went with three friends. We each paid our $25. There was no beer. We had tap water, and we each got one hamburger. nothing else. her husband put Chinese sausage on the grill and I said "Oh I would love one of those" and he said "Im sorry someone brought this specifically, its not for everyone". So my $25 got me a hamburger and tap water. I was so annoyed. I had totally forgotten about this until I read someone's post
The thought of this deeply embarasses me. I've never been invited to a cookout with a cover charge. Who ARE these people?!!
I think we were like 23 at the time. Out of college, working etc. And I remember I had to stop at the bank bc I only had a 10 on me. I was so annoyed.
We have friends that throw a yearly big party and the food, while plentiful, is always terrible.
 his home brew and OMFG it was the absolute worst beer I've had. It was awful.
A: these two statements would make me wonder if they'll start to find their parties to not be so well attended. I guess the company can maybe make up for it, but still. So much of social gatherings are about the food and drinks.
B: Love how he's gluten free but brews his own beer. Makes me not take him so seriously.
I can vouch that attendance to these parties has declined. This past party I don't think 10 people showed up, there were a handful of us. The first year we went they easily had 30 people plus a band.
My whole family is made of eaters, all of our friends are eaters, and I married into a family of eaters. We have FIVE different meats at Christmas. Four at Thanksgiving. When H and I throw a party, there's food for everyone, including vegetarian, allergy friendly, and gluten free options. I think I would lose my shit if I went to a party with shitty, or not enough food. I just don't know people like this.
Post by UnderProtest on Sept 24, 2014 11:04:11 GMT -5
My first Christmas with my in laws we went to my BIL and his wife's house at 5pm on Christmas Day. They had little smokies and potato chips. I was starving all day as my bachelor FIL had no food in his house and there wasn't anything open on Christmas. I was counting on FOOD. I've since learned not to expect food from them. They invite people over for their kid's birthday and have my MIL pick up beer and my FIL pick up pizza.
My first Christmas with my in laws we went to my BIL and his wife's house at 5pm on Christmas Day. They had little smokies and potato chips. I was starving all day as my bachelor FIL had no food in his house and there wasn't anything open on Christmas. I was counting on FOOD. I've since learned not to expect food from them. They invite people over for their kid's birthday and have my MIL pick up beer and my FIL pick up pizza.
One time on Christmas, my dad asked my mom what side dishes she was making and when she answered with the 5-6 she was making, my dad got this really sincere, sad, disappointed look on his face. He said that all he wanted was asparagus casserole, that it was his favorite thing she makes. My mom felt so bad that she and I hopped in the car, trying to find an open gas station that might have canned asparagus. We legit went to almost every gas station in Cincinnati We never found one lol. We've never NOT had asparagus casserole since, on any major holiday.
My whole family is made of eaters, all of our friends are eaters, and I married into a family of eaters. We have FIVE different meats at Christmas. Four at Thanksgiving. When H and I throw a party, there's food for everyone, including vegetarian, allergy friendly, and gluten free options. I think I would lose my shit if I went to a party with shitty, or not enough food. I just don't know people like this.
The stinginess of not feeding other people...it's a lack of love or something. A selfishness I cannot relate to. I want people to be well-fed and watered/boozed at my home! That's like, the foundation of a good time!
My first Christmas with my in laws we went to my BIL and his wife's house at 5pm on Christmas Day. They had little smokies and potato chips. I was starving all day as my bachelor FIL had no food in his house and there wasn't anything open on Christmas. I was counting on FOOD. I've since learned not to expect food from them. They invite people over for their kid's birthday and have my MIL pick up beer and my FIL pick up pizza.
One time on Christmas, my dad asked my mom what side dishes she was making and when she answered with the 5-6 she was making, my dad got this really sincere, sad, disappointed look on his face. He said that all he wanted was asparagus casserole, that it was his favorite thing she makes. My mom felt so bad that she and I hopped in the car, trying to find an open gas station that might have canned asparagus. We legit went to almost every gas station in Cincinnati We never found one lol. We've never NOT had asparagus casserole since, on any major holiday.
A couple of years ago, when I was planning out the Thanksgiving menu, DH asked if I could make this rice-broccoli-cheese dish his mom used to make. I was already planning on 5-6 dishes, and couldn't really see how I'd be able to fit that one in. I told him he was welcome to make it, and since then, he's made it for whatever holiday meal we are cooking. I have yet to try it, the main ingredient is Velveeta.
My whole family is made of eaters, all of our friends are eaters, and I married into a family of eaters. We have FIVE different meats at Christmas. Four at Thanksgiving. When H and I throw a party, there's food for everyone, including vegetarian, allergy friendly, and gluten free options. I think I would lose my shit if I went to a party with shitty, or not enough food. I just don't know people like this.
The stinginess of not feeding other people...it's a lack of love or something. A selfishness I cannot relate to. I want people to be well-fed and watered/boozed at my home! That's like, the foundation of a good time!
And also it's the only time I actually enjoy cooking. Cooking for DH and me? Yawwwwwn. Cooking for friends and family? FUN!
One time on Christmas, my dad asked my mom what side dishes she was making and when she answered with the 5-6 she was making, my dad got this really sincere, sad, disappointed look on his face. He said that all he wanted was asparagus casserole, that it was his favorite thing she makes. My mom felt so bad that she and I hopped in the car, trying to find an open gas station that might have canned asparagus. We legit went to almost every gas station in Cincinnati We never found one lol. We've never NOT had asparagus casserole since, on any major holiday.
A couple of years ago, when I was planning out the Thanksgiving menu, DH asked if I could make this rice-broccoli-cheese dish his mom used to make. I was already planning on 5-6 dishes, and couldn't really see how I'd be able to fit that one in. I told him he was welcome to make it, and since then, he's made it for whatever holiday meal we are cooking. I have yet to try it, the main ingredient is Velveeta.
What is wrong with normal cheese?! Why bastardize two delicious things (rice and broccoli) with velveeta?!
My first Christmas with my in laws we went to my BIL and his wife's house at 5pm on Christmas Day. They had little smokies and potato chips. I was starving all day as my bachelor FIL had no food in his house and there wasn't anything open on Christmas. I was counting on FOOD. I've since learned not to expect food from them. They invite people over for their kid's birthday and have my MIL pick up beer and my FIL pick up pizza.
One time on Christmas, my dad asked my mom what side dishes she was making and when she answered with the 5-6 she was making, my dad got this really sincere, sad, disappointed look on his face. He said that all he wanted was asparagus casserole, that it was his favorite thing she makes. My mom felt so bad that she and I hopped in the car, trying to find an open gas station that might have canned asparagus. We legit went to almost every gas station in Cincinnati We never found one lol. We've never NOT had asparagus casserole since, on any major holiday.
Yeah, I think that was the last time we went to his family's holiday dinner. Not worth risking having no food and no other options on Christmas or Thanksgiving.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Sept 24, 2014 11:26:32 GMT -5
I plan parties like I am feeding a moderately sized village for an extended period of time. I do not understand people who have insufficiently fooded their parties :-)
And don't hate on the Velveeta. Orane cheese product for the WIN.
My whole family is made of eaters, all of our friends are eaters, and I married into a family of eaters. We have FIVE different meats at Christmas. Four at Thanksgiving. When H and I throw a party, there's food for everyone, including vegetarian, allergy friendly, and gluten free options. I think I would lose my shit if I went to a party with shitty, or not enough food. I just don't know people like this.
The stinginess of not feeding other people...it's a lack of love or something. A selfishness I cannot relate to. I want people to be well-fed and watered/boozed at my home! That's like, the foundation of a good time!
And really, I don't give a single fuck if the food is gourmet or not. The only requirements are that it tastes good and is plentiful. And this is from a person who has a stomach the size of a small banana and exists mostly on coffee and air.
I absolutely equate feeding people with loving them, which may be why it pains me so much that my children aren't eaters.
I'm sitting in horror reading these stories. In the back of my head, all that comes to mind is Jerry Seinfeld because
If one can't appropriately host and accommodate guests, then one shouldn't throw a party.
YES. My friends are AWFUL about this. I love them, but I seriously don't get why they bother.
She decided to throw herself a gender reveal party, which A. Is terrible and B. Is worse when half the people already know the gender. So, she sends an email asking everyone to come for the big reveal. She says she will have hot dogs, and to please sign up for one of the following:
And, of course, it was BYOB. I brought nothing but beer.
My friends did this when they moved. Like, asked for people to help move, and sign up for items to bring also.
Big surprise, they are having a birthday party this weekend at a restaurant, at lunch, because it is cheaper. I am fully expecting to buy my own lunch.
My whole family is made of eaters, all of our friends are eaters, and I married into a family of eaters. We have FIVE different meats at Christmas. Four at Thanksgiving. When H and I throw a party, there's food for everyone, including vegetarian, allergy friendly, and gluten free options. I think I would lose my shit if I went to a party with shitty, or not enough food. I just don't know people like this.
Bless you Jermys. I'm so used to going to parties where there's plenty of food but little I can eat. Usually I'll have a snack beforehand unless I know for sure there will be enough on offer that won't make me ill.
My whole family is made of eaters, all of our friends are eaters, and I married into a family of eaters. We have FIVE different meats at Christmas. Four at Thanksgiving. When H and I throw a party, there's food for everyone, including vegetarian, allergy friendly, and gluten free options. I think I would lose my shit if I went to a party with shitty, or not enough food. I just don't know people like this.
Bless you Jermys. I'm so used to going to parties where there's plenty of food but little I can eat. Usually I'll have a snack beforehand unless I know for sure there will be enough on offer that won't make me ill.
#gfproblems #whywouldIchoosethis
This is so weird to me. If I invite someone to my house for a party (ie. a BBQ, which is really the only kind we throw), I should expect that people will want to eat. It just seems like good hostessing. When we throw a party, we expect to feed people all day and we don't want you to be hungry, so it just seems like a good idea to buy stuff that people can eat.
Once I bought a small pan at the dollar store so I could cook a veggie burger for one of my SIL's friends because she's vegan and I didn't want to contaminate her burger. I figured if you don't eat meat, you probably don't want to use any of our stuff with meat all over it. I have plans to veganize a portion of my famous BBQ beans for sparkythelawyer's cousin at next year's Rib Off. I like doing stuff like that. It just seems...polite or something.
Bless you Jermys. I'm so used to going to parties where there's plenty of food but little I can eat. Usually I'll have a snack beforehand unless I know for sure there will be enough on offer that won't make me ill.
#gfproblems #whywouldIchoosethis
This is so weird to me. If I invite someone to my house for a party (ie. a BBQ, which is really the only kind we throw), I should expect that people will want to eat. It just seems like good hostessing. When we throw a party, we expect to feed people all day and we don't want you to be hungry, so it just seems like a good idea to buy stuff that people can eat.
Once I bought a small pan at the dollar store so I could cook a veggie burger for one of my SIL's friends because she's vegan and I didn't want to contaminate her burger. I figured if you don't eat meat, you probably don't want to use any of our stuff with meat all over it. I have plans to veganize a portion of my famous BBQ beans for sparkythelawyer's cousin at next year's Rib Off. I like doing stuff like that. It just seems...polite or something.
I'm actually used to it, and honestly I think people just forget so I don't get upset over it. If you aren't gf or regularly around people who are, I can understand how it's easy to forget what things wouldn't work for your gf friends/family. That said, it's definitely noticed and appreciated when someone considers our dietary restrictions when hosting us.
I will say, there was one particular time that got my dander up. My in-laws, normally lovely people, seemed to forget what their celiac son (my H) could and couldn't have, even though they raised him with that diet (he was diagnosed at age 8 or 9) so they were offering us things we couldn't have while visiting. It's never happened again since, so I chalk that up to a senior moment. They also seem to have a mental block in being able to understand why we can't take multiple week long vacations in a year. Ah retirees. lol
Post by CajunShrimp on Sept 24, 2014 13:56:47 GMT -5
I was 8 months pregnant with my son at a wedding that had stations for food. We were the last table called up, and by the time we got there, the salad was gone, the clam chowder was gone, and they would only give me one piece of roast beef at the carving station. There were no veggies served. I helped myself to 3 rolls so I could eat something and got the evil eye from the server.
This was a destination wedding at 5pm on a Friday in Maine. Everyone had to take at least a half day off from work and drive 2-4 hours and they couldn't even feed us (but they did spend the money for a full size coach bus to take the 6 member wedding party for pictures). Some people at my table had Dominos delivered to the table and we gave no fucks.