October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month

[HoneySpider]

I know so, so many of us on this board have been affected by pregnancy loss in one way or another so I just want to share a few small initiatives that TTH is doing this month for PAIL awareness in case you want to join in!

(Web link: throughtheheart.org/oct-is-pregnancy--infant-loss-awareness-month.html)

1. October 15 is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Remembrance Day and the international wave of light - join us by lighting a candle at 7pm local time (and share your photos with us on Twitter, FB, or email)

2. Wear blue and/or pink each Friday this month and tell others what it symbolizes (and again, we love photos!)

3. Share this photo and help spread the word!



Thinking of so many of you ladies this month and always!  (heart)

[bk1]

I'm planning on using this month to (for the first time) openly talk about my miscarriages on FB. I feel like it is such a strong part of who I am/the journey we have had to get our baby girl that I want to be open about it.


But first, I have to get my internet fixed. Only like half the pages I go to are working right now. FB is one that is currently broken.

[HoneySpider]

bk1 I am really glad you feel comfortable and empowered to talk about your journey. Hugs!

[miamigirl]

HoneySpider, I think what you're doing with TTH is great and an awesome resource for those who had to experience these awful losses.

[MrsMB]

This is a wonderful thing you are doing to help those who have gone through such a life changing event..

[luv2rn4fun]

Oct 1, 2014 8:45:15 GMT -5 miamigirl said:

HoneySpider, I think what you're doing with TTH is great and an awesome resource for those who had to experience these awful losses.

Ditto all of this!  HoneySpider- Love TTH and all the work you are doing!  Keep it up!

October is definitely a hard month for me personally.  My first EDD is the 6th.  Cannot believe a year has passed.  We also found out we were pregnant with #2 on the 21st, only to have another loss on 11/14.  So many different emotions right now with all of this on top of all the joy of little C.  It's crazy thinking of how different life is just one year later...so much to be thankful for and yet it doesn't take away the pain or the memories of our first two babies.  Like MrsMB said, it's definitely a life-changing journey.

Thinking of all you wonderful ladies!  Words cannot express my gratitude for each of you and your support these past 2+ years.  Praying for each and every one of you awaiting your BFP and take home baby.  I think of you and pray for you daily.

[awick14]

bk1- it's hard to go public with this and I am so happy to hear that you are comfortable going forward with it on FB. I have yet to be able to do this. Yes I post on TTH but I've never been able to actual link the two together, the people that I'm close with know that the "Amanda" on there is me but it's not public knowledge.

I am hoping that this month I will be able to "come out" about it as well.

I also wanted to say thanx again HoneySpider, you are truly amazing!

[speyedr]

I hate that so many of us have had to experience a loss in one way or another. I love what you are doing HoneySpider and I wish that I felt comfortable talking more about my miscarriage to more people. I tend to not want to make people uncomfortable and I feel like that is what I do when I bring it up. I also know two people who have lost babies to genetic abnormalities in their 2nd or 3rd trimesters and I feel like my loss is nothing compared so I tend to not make a big deal of it.

[estrellita]

*hugs* to all of you. I hope you can all feel comfortable speaking out so that others know they can do the same. And of course I think it is amazing that TTH exists to help those going through this very tough experience. I may not have experienced a loss, but it's comforting to know if I ever do, I wouldn't be alone and there are many people who (unfortunately) would understand.

[mrssandro]

I was in midst of a m/c last year during time so I did it...will do it again this year.

[Blue Moon]

Thanks for the reminder. I've been thinking about my loss a lot lately and doing a lot of "what if..."

[wanderingenough]

Despite my own cautiousness to come out of the MC closet, so to speak, I'll continue to sing the praises of you and this organization HoneySpider.

I really hope once I get a take home baby I'll be more comfortable sharing our journey. Right now it's almost as if I think people will make assumptions about my fertility/TTC journey or something.

[bk1]

It's weird because in person I have been open about my miscarriages. I will tell random strangers about it. I just didn't want to talk about it on FB while we were actively TTC. 

[wanderingenough]

Oct 2, 2014 6:55:51 GMT -5 bk1 said:

It's weird because in person I have been open about my miscarriages. I will tell random strangers about it. I just didn't want to talk about it on FB while we were actively TTC. 

This is me. If it comes up, I'll mention it. But I don't like the feeling of not being able to control the situation.

[HoneySpider]

I know that sharing the journey can be such a difficult experience and everyone has different levels of what is comfortable...I talk about my own experience a lot but there are still times when it's hard or I don't want to and I feel like that may always be the case. I kind of love the wave of light for this reason - it's a way to be a part of the overall movement to create awareness but you can participate at whatever level you want - light a candle together as a couple, do it in a group, share a message if you want...but at the end of the day, you don't have to say a single thing if you don't want to, just light a candle.