So my dad is getting a divorce...

[esdreturns]

and I'm happy about it. LOL. I realize this makes me a huge asshole. I'm not happy that he's probably hurting over it but I am happy that I will never have to see his STBXW ever again.

There is actually a funny story surrounding this. My dad still hasn't actually told me he is getting a divorce. My uncle (his brother) told his neighbor, who told his wife, who told my mom, who asked me about it. I had no idea so I guess she asked my brother, who confirmed. This was a few weeks ago. In that time, I have talked to my dad maybe 4-5 times and no mention. So, this Saturday, we had a small family party for B's birthday. My dad comes and when B opened up his gift, I noticed that the card my dad gave him was not signed at all. Normally, it would say Grandpa and Wife's Name.

I can't figure out when my dad is going through such lengths to avoid the mention of it. If my brother knows, he has to know it's going to get to me eventually. If he really didn't want people to know, he probably shouldn't have told his brother (hello, huge gossip).

So, if this was you, would you say something or continue to wait for him to bring it up?

[Muddled]

I don't think I realized your dad was married. Huh.

And you are talking to your brother?

IMPOSTER!!!!!

[esdreturns]

Oct 1, 2014 9:01:30 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I don't think I realized your dad was married. Huh.

And you are talking to your brother?

IMPOSTER!!!!!

HA! No. I did almost kick him out of my house on Saturday though.

[esdreturns]

Oct 1, 2014 9:02:48 GMT -5 chalupa said:

I hate huge non-secrets, and I have trouble keeping my mouth shut, so I'd absolutely be all "So dad, the rumor mill is in full swing about you and STBXW. Did you have any news you wanted to share?"

I do agree with you. But things with my dad have always been weird. So while I actually DO want to say this, I'm not sure I can bring myself to do it. Ugh.

[bullygirl979]

Meh, I'd bring it up. I probably wouldn't ask him but mention what I heard and let him know that I'm there if he needs anything.

[Muddled]

I wouldn't call him specifically to bring it up, but if I saw him, I sure would.

Oooorrr... Hey, Dad, B is doing his thankyous this week and the tag on the gift confused us. We don't want to leave anyone out that should be thanked.

[tiramisu]

I hate this kind of stuff. My family is the "don't share bad news" type, though they've gotten better since I called it out a few times. I like Muddled's sneaky idea. If you and your dad aren't close, it might make sense to wait until you see him again. Or you could call and let him know about the rumors in an FYI way and then tell him if it's true and he needs support to let you know.

[partiallysunny]

I'd bring it up in casual conversation. "So I heard..."