Post by amberlyrose on Oct 13, 2014 18:54:32 GMT -5
The radio talk show was talking about things you found out after being in a relationship for awhile. Secret kids, spouses, etc. I called in about my ex-bf that I found out was a meth dealer when I called his phone and his mom answered. She told me he was arrested and I was welcome to go with her to bail him out. Lol. I didn't go.
Post by jellymankelly on Oct 13, 2014 19:00:24 GMT -5
I found out my college boyfriend was a coke addict after we had broken up. We were engaged and everything. His mom GRILLED me one night about whether or not he was on drugs and I swore he wasn't (because I was naive and had NO IDEA about anything drug-related). I also found out after we broke up that he had been sleeping with a girl from work who was pregnant with another guy's child at the time. He talked a really good game, but he was a total loser. We broke up over something really stupid, but I was SO relieved we had broken up once I found out what he was really all about.
My brother didn't find out that the woman he ultimately married had kids until they started talking seriously about moving in together.
They worked through it, but by that time she had already been part of our family for a year and the story was circulated everywhere that she was childless, never married. They never told anyone that wasn't true.
I did not find out she had 2 estranged adult children until after she died.
I found out a guy I dated for about 6 months was on the sex offender list about a year after we had broken up. He had never once mentioned anything about it to me.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
I found out a month before our wedding that XH had cheated on his previous FI and that his BFF had to fly to London from Hong Kong to rescue him from a bender years before we met. Somehow no one thought to mention that to me...
I had no idea that my DH was trying for a baby with his ex wife. They were so young and married for only 2 years. I just assumed he had never wanted kids before we got pregnant. I found out when I was pregnant with DS that H and his ex had tried a little bit before they spilt.
It floored me because so much would be different if he had been a father. I prob wouldn't have met him. Or I could be a stepmom. And it made me kinda sad because I thought I was the first woman he wanted a kid with.
Post by snipsnsnails on Oct 13, 2014 21:32:22 GMT -5
Oh, I have the bombshell to beat all bombshells. It's not mine, but someone we know. Found out their ex left b/c she ended up pregnant by her cousin. There is so much more to the convoluted, crazy, awful story. That's just the tip of the iceberg.
Post by loremipsum on Oct 13, 2014 21:55:35 GMT -5
meij something similar happened to my cousin. After dating her then-BF for about 9 months, she discovered he was 100% not the person he initially claimed to be. As in different name, age, background, etc. He lied about literally everything.
Post by Mrs.Rad888 on Oct 13, 2014 22:19:51 GMT -5
After XH and I got married, "we" found out about 3 kids from 2 different women that he had fathered. I put "we" in parenthesis, because (in hindsight) I'm pretty sure I was the only one just finding out. I have the feeling that he thought if I found out he had fathered 5 kids before 30 that he didn't support, I would have never married him. And he would have been right. Instead, we got married, and had DD, who he also didn't support once we broke up.
This isn't related to a romantic relationship, but we found out that H's best friend since childhood has a teenager daughter. Including us, I think only 5 people total know...we found out from one of them; he never told us and he never told his parents (his dad is now dead).
There is so much more to the convoluted, crazy, awful story. That's just the tip of the iceberg.
One of the radio ones was along this line. She found out her boyfriend used to sleep with his stepsister (they were teens when the parents got married).
Post by flamingeaux on Oct 13, 2014 22:41:48 GMT -5
XBF had a kid I didn't know about until the girl he was cheating on me (and probably also his kid's mother) with told me. I was in the process of ending it because of other things, but this sealed the deal.
There is so much more to the convoluted, crazy, awful story. That's just the tip of the iceberg.
One of the radio ones was along this line. She found out her boyfriend used to sleep with his stepsister (they were teens when the parents got married).
My serious boyfriend before H was not who he said it was. His age was a lie. He said be owned the townhouse he lived in with roommates and that was a lie. He rented a room. His job was a lie. He even lied about So many stupid things that didn't matter.
I was madly in love with this guy before it all imploded the night I found his ID. Then the truth came spilling out and I was disgusted by the fact that he was not who he said he was. I was so damn hurt and confused because I would have totally dated him with the "truths". We ended it pretty quickly after that because I just couldn't get past it.
There is so much more to the convoluted, crazy, awful story. That's just the tip of the iceberg.
One of the radio ones was along this line. She found out her boyfriend used to sleep with his stepsister (they were teens when the parents got married).
My husbands mom and dad were step siblings and always lived in the same house together. They are divorced now, but it's so weird to think that they grew up together and then married each other. ::shudder::
Post by simplyinpenguin on Oct 14, 2014 0:37:00 GMT -5
I found out my ex was a pedophile the day bounty hunters showed up to my door, looking for him because he broke parole. Had nooooo idea at all, we only dated a few months, but man, dodged a bullet there.