My dad started dating my now-adoptive mother three months after my biological mother died. Granted, I was 10 at the time, though I don't think I would've reacted a whole lot better had I been older. It's weird and awkward and I'm sorry you're feeling awkward about it.
Post by Saint Monica on Oct 17, 2014 7:36:30 GMT -5
I will make this about me: I'm worried my mom will never date. My dad was so good for her. Like the thought of her never going on a date or having a partner makes me feel a huge amount of anxiety and I get dizzy.
... People who keep their promise, to love, honor and cherish till death us do part typically find it easier to move on after death comes than people who don't. ...
In theory I completely agree with this statement; in practice, however, I'm having a hard time meeting someone new because my husband was a top-notch guy, and I'm afraid I'll be taking a step down with number two, which wouldn't be fair to number two. So instead I sit on the couch and wring my hands over "how am I ever going to meet a nice guy?" I'm flummoxed.
I understand the "I'm not sure how I really feel" part of this. But I do admire that you're being positive for your mom, because I'm sure she needs that right now.
My mom's DH died in 1997. She didn't date for YEARS. Until, in 2012, she called to tell me that she'd been dating a man for about 6 months. Ok, fine. The same man she cheated/left my father for in 1986. Talk about a shocker. I wasn't really sure how to feel either. I got over it b/c I just want her to be happy and not lonely. But he never wanted to meet us (though he had no problem meeting me when I was FIVE) and they broke up about a year later. It was weird.
Shame on your brother and anyone else who wants her to be miserable. I bet your dad wants her to get on with her life and be as happy as she can be. ( I know I would want that for my DH)
I was 14 when my father passed away after a long battle with cancer. My mom started dating someone after about the same amount of time. I was upset about it. My brother was 21 and he was more understanding of it than I was. The boyfriend ended up passing away within a year.
My mom looks back and she feels bad that she jumped to dating someone so soon after my father died, but she said that she just needed another adult to talk to and support her emotionally. She was more apologetic about WHO she dated rather than the fact that she dated.
Everyone is going through a tough transition. Hopefully your siblings will eventually accept her choice and be happy for her.