i already knew it was coming..it wasn't a surprise, AT ALL.. h thinks he surprised me, still. we had been talking about getting married since before we started dating..so that part was obvious. we knew our "timeline"..and i said i wanted to be engaged for 18mos, and get married in the summer of 2009..and he was really cutting it close...actually, he missed his "deadline", but i wasn't worried, because i knew he wasn't backing out.
we started working with "our diamond guy" (my moms coworkers bff) sometime in may? and we picked a diamond, designed a ring, and took it home in july.
in september 2008, h planned a scavenger hunt for me throughout places in seattle that have meaning to us as a couple... my moh helped guide me through the day, and h and our bff was waiting for us at the end, where we had our first date (gasworks). his bff was there to take pictures for us.
h totally fumbled, i don't think he planned on what he was going to say. he was nearly laughing because he felt stupid..and i think i laughed at him, too, because, really, it was an awkward formality we were going through.
If you were given $5M tax free, what would you do with it? Who would you rather die first, you or H? Death row meal? If you had to switch places with a Nextie for a day who would it be? Ever been arrested? Bonus points if you tell us why. Who's more outgoing, you or H? Funnier? Last time you cried? What was it over? Who's going to win the healthy challenge? Take 2nd? Dream car? Between a full time chef, stylist, driver, nanny personal trainer, masseuse or errand runner (who only did those jobs) which one (you only get 1!) would you pick and why? Who gets bJL if both of you die? What were some runner up names for bJL? If bJL were a boy what would you have named her? How did you end up in your career? Do you think that bJL and your brother's baby will grow up to be friends? When is bJL #2, #3, etc coming?
wedding: since h and i got married 9/9/9 (wednesday) courthouse (a few days before our wedding), we were going away for a night to salish lodge. my MUA called me that morning to tell me she was cancelling. i called my MOH and a BM, and said "HELP, but i'm also turning off my phone for 24 hours, so just get it done!!". h and i went off, and got courthouse-married, and spent the night away. when i got home, MOH figured it out, thank goodness. and i didn't end up paying *that* much, either. the only problem was i needed to buy my own makeup, since the people doing my 6bms, FG, MOH, and MOG's hair didn't do wedding hair/makeup professionally.
the morning of the rehearsal, i found out that the slideshow my dad had spent months on got corrupt, and needed to build a new one..but i couldn't start until after our rehearsal to build a new one, and i needed to buy some makeup, too.so the night before our wedding, after the rehearsal, i went to walmart, at midnight, to stock up on several different shades of everything....and the fire alarm went off. and it wasn't a drill. there was a real fire and everybody needed to evacuate. they weren't ringing anyone up...i ran around to every department (jewelry, photo, garden...) to find SOMEONE willing to ring me up. this is when i lost it. i started crying and saying my wedding was tomorrow, and my makeup artist cancelled on me, and all i wanted to buy was makeup... somebody heard me, opened a register, rang me up, and i was able to leave.
i go home, ready to start my slideshow..and h's cousins gf was working on it (thank goodness)...but as i was about to take a shower...h's other cousin (that we don't like, but was staying with us)'s gf hopped in the shower...wtf. okay. when she got out, she asked if she could borrow my hair dryer. i said sure, handed it to her, and got into the shower. when i got out, i learned that she took my hair dryer into their bedroom, blow dried in there, and then went to sleep..never took it out. i ended up using a travel hair dryer that the gf (that we like) let me use. it took me over an hour to blow dry..i didn't get to bed till after 3am.
i woke up at 6am to start our traditional tea ceremony at my IL's house. we serve tea to every one of our elders, they give us red envelopes (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_envelope) and give us advice on our marriage. h's dad has 11 sibs, so this took a while. we also had to start late, bc MIL took a sleeping pill the night before, and couldn't wake up.
okay i'm wrapping this up. it's getting long.
we got ready at mccaw hall, FIL tried to stall bc one of his brothers was late, mccaw hall threatened that if we didn't start soon, there'd be no wedding. FIL's brother got there, we got married, i had red lipstick on, h wiped it off, it was funny. we had a chinese lion dance, GM pissed us off bc he was supposed to be our driver, but was MIA..our videog drove for us, we went to satly's on alki for a reception. we ate, we danced, we had a good time. for pictures and more deatils, go here. sites.google.com/site/oldmarriedhag/
we had been talking about getting married since before we started dating..so that part was obvious.
Please explain.
we had known each other for years, and just started "talking" again..i had just gotten out of a long relationship, and i told him that i wasn't going to start another relationship unless i was getting married.
we had known each other for years, and just started "talking" again..i had just gotten out of a long relationship, and i told him that i wasn't going to start another relationship unless i was getting married.
we went to tahiti. we flew into the main island of tahiti and we stayed in a hotel for 2 nights while we explored the town..we then got on a cruise that went to moorea, raiatea, taha'a, and bora bora. after the cruise, we went back to tahiti, and stayed 4 nights in a bungalow, then we switched hotels for a change in scenery for two more nights.
tahiti was the best snorkeling i've ever had. it was the BEST to just walk off the balcony, and into the water with fish. i want to go back SOOOO BAD, but h and i don't like visiting places multiple times, so my next snorkeling trip will be great barrier reef.
tigger turns 10 this fall, he's a rat terrier, and he used to belong to my brother. i consider him a "rescue", because my brother is an unfit dog owner. my brother and his ex-gf got tigger together, when they were still together. after they broke up, my brother kept him, but didn't do a good job, so i took over.
bjl is 5.5 months old...you guys know about her. want more details? just ask.
i have one brother, lives in NV. i can't stand him. he's irresponsible, a 2x felon, can't save money worth sht, and knocked up his 19yo gf, now wife (he's 32). i don't agree with his choices, and i don't like his wife. they have a new son. h wants to fight for custody *when* they divorce.
h has one sister, and we don't get along either (seriously, is it ME?!). she went to california to go to school, and she told me it was bc she was tired of seeing me. she came running home, when she couldn't fit in there. she now lives in shanghai, and mommy and daddy pay for everything.
If you were given $5M tax free, what would you do with it? i'd donate to animal shelters, same-sex marriage, and breastfeeding awareness. then i'd buy a house with a lake view--kirkland or bellevue, pay off both my parents and his homes, pay off debt my parents have, then travel-travel-travel! Who would you rather die first, you or H? of course, me. i'm selfish like that. Death row meal? lobster stuffed lobster with lobster bisque, a rack of lamb, filet mignon, and something with a LOT of garlic in it.probably mashed potatoes. If you had to switch places with a Nextie for a day who would it be? kb. she has a job where she has power, she's a mom, and she works out. she sounds pretty hot to me Ever been arrested? Bonus points if you tell us why. nope. sorry. Who's more outgoing, you or H? Funnier? h and i are probably equally outgoing (very). he is probably funnier, but i think it's annoying. Last time you cried? What was it over? last wednesday? the fight with my parents. oh..i also cried when i looked at the photos uw posted about same-sex marriage. Who's going to win the healthy challenge? Take 2nd? baby a. mgoss. Dream car? i dont' really care about cars too much. i want a minivan. Between a full time chef, stylist, driver, nanny personal trainer, masseuse or errand runner (who only did those jobs) which one (you only get 1!) would you pick and why? chef. Who gets bJL if both of you die? my IL's. What were some runner up names for bJL? as a boy-nathan. as a girl, we were pretty set...other than uwhuskygirl. we were totally going to name her that. If bJL were a boy what would you have named her? oh. see above. How did you end up in your career? h's coworker was craigslist roomies with some guys that worked for the same company. they really liked their job. convinced h to apply, h got a job. h really liked his job, convinced me to apply. i got the job...i really like it, too, i just don't like working, period, and my coworkers Do you think that bJL and your brother's baby will grow up to be friends? no. they live in different states. also, we do not agree with my brother's parenting style, and if his kid grows up to be a punk, we will discourage them spending a lot of time together. When is bJL #2, #3, etc coming? 2-3 years.
If you had to switch places with a Nextie for a day who would it be? kb. she has a job where she has power, she's a mom, and she works out. she sounds pretty hot to me
If you had to switch places with a Nextie for a day who would it be? kb. she has a job where she has power, she's a mom, and she works out. she sounds pretty hot to me
Aladdin loans you his lamp. You get three wishes. Standard yaddayadda, can't wish for more wishes, cannot make someone fall in love with you whatever.
What do you wish for?
1. A super-duper awesome memory-keeper. Something that can record history. 2. Am I allowed to wish for money? If so, that, so h can quit his job and we can travel, etc. 3. My friends that live far away to live closer.
i don't really have a favorite for either...i don't get particularly attached to movies. but i like what i call "dumb-comedies". step brothers, role models, hangover, super troopers...that esque movie. oh and magic mike.
tv shows i watch glee, dexter, one tree hill, smash...or classics, like friends. i don't watch a lot of tv..and if i miss a show, i don't really get attached. and sometimes i forget to watch a show for a year and need to catch up.
If you had to move out of WA, where would you move to? If you had to leave the US, where would you want to live?
h and i talked about this recently...for a short (5-ish years) time, we'd move to s.carolina. his company has a pretty big office down there, and could easily transition.
any time longer than that, then we'd go to bay-area.
if we had to leave the US...i don't know.. i really like where we live! short time, australia. long time, vancouver.
All time favorite place to eat in the greater Seattle area? waterfront restaurant. the food + views + baked alaska there is delish. All time favorite place to eat in the world? my grandmas house in shanghai. the maid/housekeeper/caretaker lady there made me giant prawns EVERYDAY. i gained 20lbs in 1 month there. Will bJL get a car when she turns 16? maybe. it will likely be a hand-me-down, or a used car.
currently, i like her jeans and a "daddy's little cupcake" shirt (handme down from baby-picks). she looks like SUCH a big girl in it! or *any* dress. i love it when she wears dresses.
What activities did you do as a kid? Girl Scouts, sports, etc.?
OMG. i'm chinese. i did EVERYTHING.
gymnastics, swimming, tennis, dance, piano, violin, flute, art, ice skating, chinese knotting, chinese dance (however, i never did chinese language, for some reason).