Today is my 7th anniversary, which is weird to say, but technically true because the divorce isn't final. I'm going to therapy and my dentist today and I'm meeting up with one of my friends for dinner.
Post by bullygirl979 on Oct 20, 2014 8:42:49 GMT -5
tiramisu, I realized this year would have been my 10th anniversary. Isn't it weird??
The weather hasn't been the best here (cold and rainy) so I finally broke down and ordered a bike trainer. Anddddd, of course it is supposed to be 55-60 and sunny this weekend, lol.
Saturday is a Halloween party that we are going to. P's XW will also be there. It annoys me that she still gets invited to stuff when it seems as though she never routinely hangs out with anyone.
Of course the weather will clear up now bullygirl979! It's like when you hear there's rain in the forecast and take your umbrella, it doesn't rain, but when you forget it it pours.
I think I'm going to proceed with the divorce as a true default because he hasn't responded to anything in a timely manner and I don't want a bunch of delays. I made the mistake of mentioning it to him though and he wants to make sure it's not bad for him to just not participate. Ugh. Plus the paperwork is more complicated now and I am considering hiring a paralegal or attorney to help me fill out the paperwork at this point.
I think I'm going to proceed with the divorce as a true default because he hasn't responded to anything in a timely manner and I don't want a bunch of delays. I made the mistake of mentioning it to him though and he wants to make sure it's not bad for him to just not participate. Ugh. Plus the paperwork is more complicated now and I am considering hiring a paralegal or attorney to help me fill out the paperwork at this point.
Post by partiallysunny on Oct 20, 2014 8:51:52 GMT -5
tiramisu he just doesn't want to do anything? What!? Then you get more paperwork (and, if you hire someone, spend more money) so he doesn't have to participate.
I think I'm going to proceed with the divorce as a true default because he hasn't responded to anything in a timely manner and I don't want a bunch of delays. I made the mistake of mentioning it to him though and he wants to make sure it's not bad for him to just not participate. Ugh. Plus the paperwork is more complicated now and I am considering hiring a paralegal or attorney to help me fill out the paperwork at this point.
What does this even mean?
I don't know. That he's a dumbass, I think. I told him nothing will change in how I proceed with settling things, one just means he doesn't have to do a damn thing and the other means that he does have a bunch of things to do.
I don't know. That he's a dumbass, I think. I told him nothing will change in how I proceed with settling things, one just means he doesn't have to do a damn thing and the other means that he does have a bunch of things to do.
Sooooo...he basically wants you to take care of everything?? Nice......
partiallysunny no, he didn't say he didn't want to do anything, but so far anything I've asked for takes WAY TOO LONG for him to get to me. I told him he needed to complete & have someone send me his preliminary financial disclosure 3 or 4 weeks ago and I've received nothing. Even getting back the acknowledgement of service was a PITA.
I think I'm just going to complete the forms for a true default and then take a day to go to the self-help center at the court and get them reviewed. It isn't much, if any, additional paperwork and this means I don't have to write up a settlement agreement, track him down, and schedule an appointment with a notary so we can sign & get it notarized.
Please enter all my bitching here as evidence for why marrying a lazy jerk is a bad idea.
I don't know. That he's a dumbass, I think. I told him nothing will change in how I proceed with settling things, one just means he doesn't have to do a damn thing and the other means that he does have a bunch of things to do.
Sooooo...he basically wants you to take care of everything?? Nice......
Yep, he wanted a divorce so badly that he can't be bothered to do any of the work for it. I'm so glad I'll be done with him soon.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Oct 20, 2014 10:01:04 GMT -5
Bah, I'm being a worrywart. My boyfriend always texts when he gets into work (9:15-9:20) and he hasn't texted me as yet. At the latest he's ever sent a text, it's like 9:45 because he knows I worry that he walks to work and drivers suck. I'm sure he's ok but I just want to hear from him. I just want to make sure he's fine.
I just waited an hour at the dealership (with A in tow) just so they could tell me they screwed up and my tires weren't actually in yet. Grrrrrrrrr. So now we have to go back tomorrow too.
I am sick. I haven't been hungry in days. I eat because I know I need fuel but nothing tastes good.
In nice news, my H bought me new rain boots. Awesome hunters with socks. I had to return them for the short ones. My legs were to short for the tall ones. whomp whomp.
Tiramisu he sounds like the guy my friend just got rid of. He wouldn't fill out any paperwork. Even finally when they were in front of the judge he didn't have everything filled out yet. He was such a piece of shit.
Post by starrieskies on Oct 20, 2014 12:22:56 GMT -5
Xh finally did one of the 2 evaluations required by our parenting plan last week. He argued with the guy doing the evaluation about how his questions are not fair and don't paint a clear picture of the situation. I'm not sure what he thought that would accomplish.
I am tackling my completely overflowing inbox of papers, mail and magazines that has accumulated over the last month. I do not know why I do not address this stuff as it comes across my desk, oh wait I do, it is called ADD.
Xh finally did one of the 2 evaluations required by our parenting plan last week. He argued with the guy doing the evaluation about how his questions are not fair and don't paint a clear picture of the situation. I'm not sure what he thought that would accomplish.
Bah, I'm being a worrywart. My boyfriend always texts when he gets into work (9:15-9:20) and he hasn't texted me as yet. At the latest he's ever sent a text, it's like 9:45 because he knows I worry that he walks to work and drivers suck. I'm sure he's ok but I just want to hear from him. I just want to make sure he's fine.
I hope you've heard from him by now. I'm sure he's fine!
tiramisu, he is such an ass. I can't wait until this whole process is behind you!
margarita (and everyone else calling him an ass): even though I haven't doubted that this is the right thing, if I ever had this would cute me of it!
Also, he seemed surprised (as surprised as one can seem over chat) that I said he hasn't sent me things in a timely manner. LOL. Douchecanoe is a douchecanoe.