Post by captainmal on Oct 20, 2014 17:05:31 GMT -5
I'd rather do a "reunion" over dinner or something like that. That's strange.
I've had two people do the no-spouse thing to us. One was a close friend of mine that had a mostly family only wedding. Myself and three other friends were allowed to sit in the back.
The other were this really awkward couple that pretty much had just met and decided to get married within a few weeks time. DH was a coworker of the groom. Originally we weren't invited due to their financial reasons, then the best man canceled so they invited DH only to fill the spot. That one I didn't mind at all.
It's rude and really- if you all live so close to each other and haven't seen each other in a year... I wouldn't be planning on going to this wedding. It's ridiculous that she thinks it will be a reunion. And that also says she has no plans to see you all before then.
It's rude and really- if you all live so close to each other and haven't seen each other in a year... I wouldn't be planning on going to this wedding. It's ridiculous that she thinks it will be a reunion. And that also says she has no plans to see you all before then.
Pshh... I'd bet she'll also invite them to a shower.
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Post by simplyinpenguin on Oct 20, 2014 19:43:52 GMT -5
I'm going to be a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding and my husband isn't invited. Our SOs are still in high school (regarding each other) so we had to strike a deal where she couldn't bring her SO of 7 years and my husband couldn't go to her eventual wedding. Win-win for us because they're not complaining and we don't have to worry about physical violence. It's ridiculous though, that their childlike antics got them disinvited from future events with us.
I wasn't invited to a wedding in which my H was the best man! He grew up with the groom and they said that it was "family and close friends only" haha. I guess I didn't make the cut!
And you were spouses at the time? That's crazy. And rude.
Yea, we were married! The bride and groom saw nothing odd about it. But this is the same couple that had a separate reception a year later (eta: he was deployed in that year, so I understand the timing of it) that happened to be the same week as my due date with DD and they threw a fit when DH said that he wouldn't be able to go (it was in Baltimore and we were in Boston at the time). They said that he wasn't being a supportive friend. So, I guess we take everything having to do with them with a grain of salt.
Of course it is tacky. But who cares, she obviously doesn't give a crap about ettiquette. Especially since she put the comment in there about winning the lottery.
So, if you want to go alone, go. If not, I'd just decline. Honestly, I probably wouldn't go unless I really liked the girls because one of the best parts of weddings is dancing with my H. So I would just decline and not give it a second thought.
I also, however, would not feel required to send a gift. If I liked her and wanted to, I would. If not, I wouldn't. I don't feel like wedding invitations require gifts when I'm not attending, I just decide based on my relationship with the person. I know some people think this is "rude" but I just don't care.