I only liked your comment to express solidarity I just don't see a lot of Indian parents who are proud of their children. Though I will break out of that attitude when it comes to my kid.
I only liked your comment to express solidarity I just don't see a lot of Indian parents who are proud of their children. Though I will break out of that attitude when it comes to my kid.
Don't have to answer, but I'm assuming this is a cultural thing? And how come?
I don't know if it's the norm. But in my family, they always look at other students who did better than me. So if I came second in class, there would be no congratulations.. There would be a - look at that person who came first and try to be like them next time. I actually think I got a better deal since I'm the oldest. My younger sibling and cousins kinda hate me because even if they come first, it doesn't matter if they don't cross my scores.
Post by karmasabiotch on Oct 20, 2014 18:58:53 GMT -5
My Mom was and told me all the time. I turned I to the stable daughter which nobody would have expected based upon my childhood. I miss her so much.
My Dad always mixes me up with my sister who he doesn't talk too. He's proud of her. I don't think he remembers me. He has severe dementia and lived out of state. Weird because he was really the parent I was closest too growing up.
Post by 2boys2danes on Oct 20, 2014 19:16:49 GMT -5
Yes mine tell me quite often but they were also those parents that told me for as long as I could remember that I could literally do ANYTHING in the world I wanted to if I tried hard enough. I do have a lot to be proud of if I really think about it but I never really think like that.
My parents are 80 so they tend to say things that are on their minds….I also tell my kids often that I am proud of them when its warranted.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Not really. If anything, I think they somehow disapprove of me doing better than expected. Like I am not knowing my place or putting on airs, or something.
They couldn't be arsed to even call or send a card when I got my graduate degree, so I guess that sends a message.
My mom is kind of proud that I stayed thinnish into middle age and that my daughter is beautiful. She puts great stock in those things.
Yes. They both tell me all of the time they are proud of me. Well, my dad did when he was still alive. And they use examples or tell me why.
That said, I was actually thinking about this on the way into work, to an extent. I am good at what I do. I graduated college with honors in a subject that isn't very popular. BUT, this stuff just comes easy to me. Part of me feels like I've chosen the easy way out because I know I really can't fail doing this. Where as if I were to choose a different path that I had to actually work at, I could fail. So I take a path that is easy for me, although not easy for most, knowing I can't fail. Why? Don't get me wrong, I work hard. And it is challenging. But I know I can do it and do it well.
No shame there! I desperately wish I had something that I was somewhat naturally good at/had something to pursue that came easily for me - I feel like I'm in a constant uphill battle with every.single.thing that I try.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Oct 20, 2014 19:56:18 GMT -5
My Mom was very, very proud of me. And also fairly disappointed in me, depending on the issue. But she loved me immensely and that is enough for me.
My Dad is proud of me, and I think he thinks I am the one who turned out the most "like him." I have not always my life the way he would have wanted me to, but I think on the whole he is happy with how I turned out.
Post by rupertpenny on Oct 20, 2014 20:05:03 GMT -5
Yes, they tell me pretty often.
My in laws always tell me they're proud of me which I think is kind of weird. It's like they are trying to take credit for something (my awesomeness, lol) which has nothing to do with them. I'm pretty sure that I am being weird and they are just trying to be nice though. And they haven't told me as often since I moved their grandbaby 8,000 miles away haha.