Post by shekels1222 on Oct 22, 2014 14:52:22 GMT -5
You'll be great. DH had a business trip for a week when DS was a month old. And now he's going oot again when this one is 6 weeks. But he travels frequently anyway.
It's hard. But you get into a groove and are so busy by the time you realize the 10 days are over. My hardest time are the evenings between 6-7pm during the witching hour.
And by all means if you have an opportunity to have some help for a day or two...go for it. My parents sometimes make us dinner once or twice when Dh is gone and it's a huge help.
Btw come back to me in Jan when I'm by myself with a newborn and a toddler. Eeeeeek!
You'll be fine. My DH is in the military and was mostly gone from April 1st until a couple weeks ago. 10 days is usually when things start getting hairy in my house, but the first few days are a piece of cake. . I have lots of frozen stuff to eat when he's gone. And I do things a bit differently with bedtime and such but that's about it.
Post by speckledfrog on Oct 22, 2014 15:11:56 GMT -5
Throw as much money at the problem as you can. When MH went OOT when DS2 was an infant I had a mother's helper come over for bedtime. Is there a preteen or teenage kid you know that you can have do this for you?
Make/buy some frozen dinners now, so you can just pull stuff out. Or plan for very, very easy dinners. While you are at it, make a meal plan so you don't get to dinner and go, "Well, WTF now?"
Do baths during the day or have your older one shower with you.
Get out of the house every day. Every day, even if it's just for 20 minutes. Go to Target. Go to the library. Throw everyone in the stroller and go around the block. It's a pain in the as to do it, but you forget how energizing being with other people is.
So what are you getting for your birthday? I hope it is something shiny and expensive. He owes you for 10 days of solo parenting.
You'll be fine. The 10 days will go by fast. I'm currently solo-parenting for 6 days as DH is on a work trip. As long as I can get out of the house I am fine.
I would have traded him the trip for baby naming rights.
Honestly, though, you will be fine. I would definitely plan on convenience foods, yummy takeout, lots of play dates, spending money on a sitter a couple nights, and enjoying lots of solo movie and wine nights after your kiddos are asleep. I am also a big fan of small rewards/indulgences for myself when my H is out of town a lot--picking up a new nail polish and doing my toes after bedtime, a new book, etc.
DH is leaving in November for his annual hunting trip....
For 10 days!!!!! 3 more than normal, spanning two complete weekends..
AND
Is going to miss my birthday
WTF am I going to do? I'm freaking out already. I need like a million dollars to hire a babysitter to help me a whole bunch of hours.
To all of the SAHM and moms whose husbands travel a lot (high5)
Can you hire a mothers helper ( like a teenage girl ) to come between 3-8 for 6 nights? Even at 50.00 bucks a night that is only 300, which isn't chump change but could make a huge difference. She could feed older DD snacks and an easy prep dinner, play with her, take the baby so you can nap for a few hours and do bath time and bedtime and maybe even turn over a load of laundry? Make it your Hs birthday gift to you PLUS a nice dinner out and a massage when he gets home.
DH is leaving in November for his annual hunting trip....
For 10 days!!!!! 3 more than normal, spanning two complete weekends..
AND
Is going to miss my birthday
WTF am I going to do? I'm freaking out already. I need like a million dollars to hire a babysitter to help me a whole bunch of hours.
To all of the SAHM and moms whose husbands travel a lot (high5)
Can you hire a mothers helper ( like a teenage girl ) to come between 3-8 for 6 nights? Even at 50.00 bucks a night that is only 300, which isn't chump change but could make a huge difference. She could feed older DD snacks and an easy prep dinner, play with her, take the baby so you can nap for a few hours and do bath time and bedtime and maybe even turn over a load of laundry? Make it your Hs birthday gift to you PLUS a nice dinner out and a massage when he gets home.
I just got a rec for a mother's helper woot! She runs xcountry but will be done in a few weeks and would love to meet us and see how it goes. Hopefully it works out.
Can you hire a mothers helper ( like a teenage girl ) to come between 3-8 for 6 nights? Even at 50.00 bucks a night that is only 300, which isn't chump change but could make a huge difference. She could feed older DD snacks and an easy prep dinner, play with her, take the baby so you can nap for a few hours and do bath time and bedtime and maybe even turn over a load of laundry? Make it your Hs birthday gift to you PLUS a nice dinner out and a massage when he gets home.
I just got a rec for a mother's helper woot! She runs xcountry but will be done in a few weeks and would love to meet us and see how it goes. Hopefully it works out.
YAY! That will make things so much easier for you!
Good luck. My hubby has been traveling a lot for work and it is exhausting doing it on my own. I don't know how single moms do it.
single solo parent chiming in ...
we do it bc no one is going to step in and do things for us. it's ALL on us to get things done and miraculously we get it done. it might not be perfect, but it gets done.
Good luck. My hubby has been traveling a lot for work and it is exhausting doing it on my own. I don't know how single moms do it.
single solo parent chiming in ...
we do it bc no one is going to step in and do things for us. it's ALL on us to get things done and miraculously we get it done. it might not be perfect, but it gets done.
I hope that my comment didn't come off as flippant.
Post by yellowbrkrd on Oct 22, 2014 18:40:09 GMT -5
I would ask your husband to help you prep as much as possible before he leaves. Have him help you cook some meals to freeze, do a nice deep clean, and get any errands done.
I really hope he makes it up to you later with a fabulous birthday surprise!
Post by loskadoodle on Oct 22, 2014 18:58:32 GMT -5
Today is dhs first day gone (only 3 days this time) but I had both kids asleep before 730, which never happens when dh is here. So, you know, it's not so bad!
I just got a rec for a mother's helper woot! She runs xcountry but will be done in a few weeks and would love to meet us and see how it goes. Hopefully it works out.