Unemotional ladies

[lexxasaurus]

This reminded me of the way I feel (or don't feel? Haha) sometimes and i definitely thought glw and MyName could relate.

thoughtcatalog.com/brianne-mcdonald/2014/10/16-things-unemotional-women-will-understand/

I can write eloquent, lovey filled things occasionally but my way of showing love is weird like gifting an Alien figurine and telling B he's usually my favorite. lol.

[glw]

Haha, I can definitely relate to the lack of emotion and understanding of others' emotions. Buuuut, I don't think I'm missing anything.

[OrangePixyStix]

This part is somewhat true for me, depending on what it is that I'm sad about or hurting over:
"When you are upset, sad, or hurt, you instinctually distance yourself from others. You understand that many people find comfort from being around other people, and part of you thinks you probably would too, but you have an incredibly hard time opening yourself up and making yourself vulnerable."

I'm pretty emotional and it likely shows a lot of the time, but when I'm deeply hurt I tend to go into hiding for a bit and prefer some seclusion to sort through my feelings before running to someone to talk it over with. I've had a few self-pity-parties without involving close friends, but then down the line it's not hard for me to open up with those people after I've accepted or somewhat gotten over the issue at hand.

I like having some unemotional, "tell it like it is" people around, since I know I can be a sugar-coater at times. They may make me feel like I'm the crazy one at times, but at least I know they can provide honest assessments that are often more helpful with coming to terms with things rather than the sugar-coaters like me.

[glw]

I guess I'm lucky in that my friends and family never ask me for emotional support. I don't think I come off as cold (feel free to chime in here, IRL friends!) but I'm just not the person you go to for consolation. I'm not a "harsh reality" person either... I hate to tell it like it is because it feel confrontational to me. I just don't say anything at all, except maybe, "I'm sorry to hear that!" because I just don't know what to say. Other people's emotions make me extremely uncomfortable.

I'm basically the guy with the broom.


LOL

[lexxasaurus]

Hahaha, I showed the broom picture to B recently because that's how he comforts. I really try, and then I usually end up either not saying much of anything or being overly honest, oops.

[MyName]

Yeeeeah, I definitely relate to this. But I'm going to be honest and admit that I do feel superior sometimes because I'm not controlled by emotions. And that goes for men as well as other women - men may not cry or talk about their feelings, but I see getting angry as an expression of emotion, and I don't really do that either. I've definitely never felt something was missing, that's for sure.

And I do understand emotions and how they affect people. It's just that for me, when my brain recognizes one popping up, it takes over and goes into analysis mode. I'm definitely a shoulder-patting "don't worry, you'll be fine" kind of person when it comes to comforting others, too. But I also am like (they say) a man would be in that I want to find solutions to whatever my friend is upset about. I can be blunt, but I try not to be an asshole about it.

When I told my college roommate about some stuff with S, she said to me, "Now don't get all weird and not talk to me anymore because you told me something was wrong." I had only told her because she has a tendency to drop off the face of the Earth... LOL

And I think we all know this, but I show love through my cooking/food.

[jennynumbers]

Oct 23, 2014 9:44:21 GMT -5 MyName said:

And I think we all know this, but I show love through my cooking/food.

Oh trust me, I felt the love!

[MyName]

Oct 23, 2014 9:51:30 GMT -5 jennynumbers said:

Oct 23, 2014 9:44:21 GMT -5 MyName said:

And I think we all know this, but I show love through my cooking/food.

Oh trust me, I felt the love!

And hopefully you will again soon!  I love taking requests! lol

[glw]

I really should just wait for MyName to reply to things so I can just say, "ditto." LOL