is this normal for a 9 year old girl?

[laurenpetro]

Grace is 9. Guess what I say.

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Oct 25, 2014 10:45:14 GMT -5 mockingbird said:

When I was about that age, I stole my dad's playboy's to look at with my cousins. I don't think it's horribly abnormal to be curious.

The fact both kids are inappropriate makes me a little more likely to be concerned. But still not terribly if there are no other signs.

I agree with this. I think it's normal for a 9 year old girl to be curious about it, especially if she has older siblings. So in and of itself, I don't think it's a red flag. But combined with other things, maybe. 

[auntie]

Kids are curious creatures. The first time I left DS home alone at 10 I found all kinds of things in the history of my computer when I came home.

It's hard to judge the older brother without context. Is he 20 or 12? Was he trying to be "mature" compared to the littles? Was he telling older kids and littles listened in? Why did the parents let their five year olds hand with a kid twice their age?

[Deleted]

Yes I think that's normal, especially with older siblings in the house.

[auntie]

OK, that seems creepy. Maybe a dysfunctional home. Maybe a dysfunctional kid.

[borinquen57]

Oct 25, 2014 18:02:05 GMT -5 @majorwife said:

Oct 25, 2014 16:53:32 GMT -5 auntie said:

Kids are curious creatures. The first time I left DS home alone at 10 I found all kinds of things in the history of my computer when I came home.

It's hard to judge the older brother without context. Is he 20 or 12? Was he trying to be "mature" compared to the littles? Was he telling older kids and littles listened in? Why did the parents let their five year olds hand with a kid twice their age?

the boy is 13ish and the oldest on the block. He wandered over to a multifamily BBQ with a lot of younger kids and was talking out loud to no one specific before he made the dick jokes and told some of the littles that looked at him that he had some fav videos online he could show them.

He was escorted home and banned from 4 homes/being around their kids.

The fact that he told them there's videos he could show them makes me feel really uncomfortable and worried that something could be going on at home. I mean, if he's that bold to invite "strangers" to look at videos, why wouldn't he even more comfortable to act like this or worse around his younger sister?

ETA: spelling

[overture]

I don't know, the 9 year old's behavior isn't anything too outrageous, it's just more technologically advanced. And the 13 year old sounds like he was being a 13 year old wise ass showing off. Lots of kids that age exhibit some cringingly inappropriate behavior in an effort to seem mature. Hopefully he got dragged out of the party by his ear. It sounds like the parents just need to get some control over their kids' media situation.

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Yeaaaaaaah, I think this is more than weird. I wonder if someone is showing them things at home and honestly, I might even call CPS for this one.

I think curiosity is normal but I would expect them to hide it and keep it personal, kwim? Viewing it on some else's phone to the tune of $60 or inviting very small children to view it is just weird.

[overture]

Side note, how does a kid end paying money to a porn site when you can just google image search "naked people" and see plenty? Was there saved credit card info on this kid's phone? I don't get it.

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Oct 25, 2014 18:56:03 GMT -5 overture said:

Side note, how does a kid end paying money to a porn site when you can just google image search "naked people" and see plenty? Was there saved credit card info on this kid's phone? I don't get it.

This is a really good question. 

Also, am I just hopelessly old fashioned, but a 9 year old with her own phone that has unfettered access to the internet?? 

[decemberwedding07]

Oct 25, 2014 18:49:51 GMT -5 @helenabonhamcarter said:

Yeaaaaaaah, I think this is more than weird. I wonder if someone is showing them things at home and honestly, I might even call CPS for this one.

I think curiosity is normal but I would expect them to hide it and keep it personal, kwim? Viewing it on some else's phone to the tune of $60 or inviting very small children to view it is just weird.

I thought "CPS" when I read the OP, too. I think we can safely say that if HBC thinks calling CPS isn't an overreaction, it's not an overreaction.