WWYD BFF is canceling on our fancy tea

[agnes]

So tomorrow I was taking BFF to a fancy schmancy afternoon tea she's wanted to do.  Like caviar and shit.  She doesn't think she'll be able to make it now because of work.  

They require 72 hours advance notice for cancellations.  They will still charge me if I don't go.  

I'm sad that we won't get to spend time with each other since we have pretty much opposite schedules.  And I'm kind of upset I'm out the $100+ tip for something that's not my cup o' tea.  Literally.  I don't like tea.  

I don't know what to tell her with out making her feel bad.  

[tacokick]

Does she know the policy or how much it was?

[agnes]

Oct 25, 2014 14:07:01 GMT -5 tacokick said:

Does she know the policy or how much it was?

I don't know if she does.  But how do I bring that up with out sounding like SHE HAS TO GO.  I don't want to make her feel bad.  She's had a rough schedule lately.  

[agnes]

Oct 25, 2014 14:07:04 GMT -5 @kizmet said:

Can someone else take her spot? That's a tough one. Boo.

I guess.  But I don't know who?  

[FastHands]

I'd probably say something gently like "can you really not get out of work? I'm too late to cancel without a penalty," but only if I thought it was possible for her to move things around. If you know there's no possibility, I'd leave it alone and try to get as much $ back as i could if I didn't want to go with someone else.

[joenali]

I would think that if she is your bff she would understand if you wants her to go and if you couldn't find anyone else to go, she would help you to pay the cost of not going.

[tacokick]

Oct 25, 2014 14:09:34 GMT -5 agnes said:

Oct 25, 2014 14:07:01 GMT -5 tacokick said:

Does she know the policy or how much it was?

I don't know if she does.  But how do I bring that up with out sounding like SHE HAS TO GO.  I don't want to make her feel bad.  She's had a rough schedule lately.  

If you know there is no chance she can change her schedule, I wouldn't mention it but if you know she could, I'd say something. I did once with a friend with concert tickets, she was offered overtime and was going to take it thinking the tickets were like $5 or something. I told her the tickets were a lot more than that ($30? More?) and she declined the overtime. Maybe mentioning that you were going call and see if you could reschedule without paying again? Maybe she'd get the hint? Tricky!

Do you know anyone else who would want to go?

[agnes]

Oct 25, 2014 14:15:20 GMT -5 tacokick said:

Oct 25, 2014 14:09:34 GMT -5 agnes said:

I don't know if she does.  But how do I bring that up with out sounding like SHE HAS TO GO.  I don't want to make her feel bad.  She's had a rough schedule lately.  

If you know there is no chance she can change her schedule, I wouldn't mention it but if you know she could, I'd say something. I did once with a friend with concert tickets, she was offered overtime and was going to take it thinking the tickets were like $5 or something. I told her the tickets were a lot more than that ($30? More?) and she declined the overtime. Maybe mentioning that you were going call and see if you could reschedule without paying again? Maybe she'd get the hint? Tricky!

Do you know anyone else who would want to go?

I think she could possibly make it work.  But I really don't know. She's not a flake in the least.  

I was thinking of saying something like "I'm sorry to hear that. It's to late for me to cancel, but I understand if you really can't make it." 

I don't think I know anyone who really likes tea like she does.  I've read reviews that they aren't flexible at all when it comes to cancellations.  But I can always try.  I guess if all else fails, my 11 year old niece might like it?  

[tacokick]

Oct 25, 2014 14:22:37 GMT -5 agnes said:

Oct 25, 2014 14:15:20 GMT -5 tacokick said:

If you know there is no chance she can change her schedule, I wouldn't mention it but if you know she could, I'd say something. I did once with a friend with concert tickets, she was offered overtime and was going to take it thinking the tickets were like $5 or something. I told her the tickets were a lot more than that ($30? More?) and she declined the overtime. Maybe mentioning that you were going call and see if you could reschedule without paying again? Maybe she'd get the hint? Tricky!

Do you know anyone else who would want to go?

I think she could possibly make it work.  But I really don't know. She's not a flake in the least.  

I was thinking of saying something like "I'm sorry to hear that. It's to late for me to cancel, but I understand if you really can't make it." 

I don't think I know anyone who really likes tea like she does.  I've read reviews that they aren't flexible at all when it comes to cancellations.  But I can always try.  I guess if all else fails, I guess my 11 year old niece might like it?  

I would say that exactly!! Good luck!

I bet your niece would like it! And I was dragged to one of these things as a non tea drinking and it wasn't bad. The food was good and they had other things to drink that were not tea.

[cville]

Your niece would love it.

[keyslover]

I love fancy teas

[Deleted]

I'd still go, either alone or with another friend. No reason to be out money for no reason.

[lovinmyboys]

If you can't cancel maybe they will let you use your credit at a different time.