What to do in the "I only want Mommy phase"

[dulcemariamar]

During the last two weeks my kid goes BSC when she is not with me. How long does this phase last? Do you force your LO to spend time with the other parent?

[teatimefor2]

My son can change is preferred parent overnight. Length varies. Since I do SAH, and if I'm the preferred parent, we do make my son spend time with DH, let DH put him to nap/bed. He's actually two now and I feel like he's growing out of it recently. It was really prevalent 18 to 22 months.

[smile]

My DD has gone in and out of the "I only want Mommy" phase a lot after turning one. During these phases, if DH is going to be the one handling something with her, I make sure I'm not visible to DD. Even if she screams "I want Mommy", the tantrum is much shorter if she can't actually see me. I don't look at it as forcing her to spend time with DH, but as it takes both of us to parent her and I'm not going to do it solo because of a phase.

[auntie]

DS's love affair with me was extra intense as a function of ASD- I was his preferred person. Micromanagement was a function of his anxiety. THB, the only thing that helped was leaving them to sort it out. A quiet walk around the mall or neighborhood at bedtime was bliss for me and let DS/DH bond. Over time it got better and their relationship blossomed.

[Deleted]

DS has been in a mommy phase for a long time. I figured out that the mommy tantrums usually only happen when I'm there but DH is "on" taking care of DS. So I (or they) leave the house, and DH says DS is fine once he can't see me anymore.

[lmb5109]

DD is 22 months and has been this way with me for the last 3 months. I secretly love it but I know it hurts DH's feelings.

[redheadk]

We just muddled through but I won't deny that I strongly encourage it during daddy phases.  (devil)