s/o online dating

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I have a ma.tch profile.  I had a girlfriend who is really familiar with match review it and give me tips.  She's had several LTRs from ma.tch.  We spruced my profile up a bit and it's still simple and concise.  But I'm not getting ANYONE interested in me.  Well, anyone with teeth or a profile pic or with grammar skills beyond 3rd grade.  Am I doing something wrong?  My "looking for" is pretty wide open - my only dealbreaker is smoking.  

Am I too choosy?  Should I go on a message sending frenzy?  Should I list "LOVES TO FUCK" or "2.5 BJs guaranteed!" under my hobbies?

I have no problems getting messages or "likes" or whatever via other apps/sites.  @stpete, is mat.ch a waste of time in our local? 

I just hate that I'm paying for it (cheap, via groupon), and the only seemingly decent person interested in me is SUPER into Jesus and I don't want to deal with that.

Blerg.

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This is why I quit online dating. You're not doing anything wrong. Some people get a lot of messages, some don't. It depends on so many factors and a lot of luck. I'm pretty convinced it's a crapshoot.

[1confused1]

I had zero luck with match in my area

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I was on there several times in the past and never had any luck.  Less luck there than other sites and those weren't great either.

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I met my last boyfriend on match and my ex-husband. But dates on there are few and far between. It's definitely quality over quantity in my experience. I think the number of guys tends to be regional based on where they advertise. I see a lot of commercials here for match.

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Whew. Glad I'm not the only one. My girlfriend is out every week with a new dude, so it made me feel like crap. Of course, the dudes she chooses... would not be on my radar, let's say.

[achase123]

I've hardly ever had someone reply to a msg I sent

[dreamcrisp1]

I honestly hated online dating. I went on 2 dates from Match. One of them is my BF now. It literally happened in the 2 weeks before my subscription ran out and I was done with match. The other was a guy I dated for a few months. Honestly, though, I had zero prospects though. All the messages I got were horrifying and atrocious. I was so over it and pretty much just using it for fun at the point where I met my BF. I got lucky. Most of them were not my type and nowhere near my radar.

[GilliC]

Oct 27, 2014 19:16:25 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Whew. Glad I'm not the only one. My girlfriend is out every week with a new dude, so it made me feel like crap. Of course, the dudes she chooses... would not be on my radar, let's say.

I think this is a big part of it. You can advertise for traffic and responses, or you can advertise for what you're actually looking for.

While it sucks when you don't get much interest, the people who aren't responding probably aren't going to be a great match anyway.

[seabitch]

Match Marriage here. I believe we are a rarity. And I found him vs him finding me when I expanded my dating range out 150 miles and he lived at 149 miles.

Most of the activity on there was scary, without teeth, and only wanting to get in your pants. <------I did not say that like it was a bad thing if they aren't scary and have teeth.

[starburst604]

Another Match marriage here, but it was 3.5 years ago that we met through there. I don't know what it's like now for my area, I'm sure it's taken a hit with Tinder being so convenient. I got a lot of messages but I think that's related to being in a large city, there were just more members. Only a fraction of them were worth replying to though.

I don't think it's about getting a lot of messages, but about getting the right ones. My friend who is smart and gorgeous got discouraged with Match because she felt that she was being overlooked for having kids. She went back on to cancel her membership and saw a profile she had never noticed before, a guy with no kids. She took a shot and contacted him and 6 months later they're crazy about each other.