that awkward moment...

[callmehales]

when you're texting with a friend about hanging out this weekend and drinking wine and she tells you she can't.

and then says she feels guilty about being PG because so many of her friends are having trouble.

and you feel like a HUGE JERK for being jealous first, instead of happy.

[Mushe]

Aw! Be easy on yourself. TTC is really hard.

[oneslybookworm]

Agree with Mushe. This is me damn near every day. I've just started embracing my bitter self.

((callmehales))

[callmehales]

as least we can all be bitter together, lol!

i do feel really lucky to have a place like this to bitch and not have anyone say "oh don't worry, it'll happen!".

[raangoli]

That's such a tough spot. I feel for both of you - I think it's kind of nice that she recognizes the struggles her friends are having. But yea, I'd be jealous at first, too.

[callmehales]

Oct 28, 2014 13:53:20 GMT -5 raangoli said:

That's such a tough spot. I feel for both of you - I think it's kind of nice that she recognizes the struggles her friends are having. But yea, I'd be jealous at first, too.

she's definitely one of those friends i'm only like...5% jealous of.  and 95% absolutely thrilled for.

[Mushe]

Oct 28, 2014 13:53:16 GMT -5 callmehales said:

as least we can all be bitter together, lol!

i do feel really lucky to have a place like this to bitch and not have anyone say "oh don't worry, it'll happen!".

Shit, I'm not supposed to say that?   (devil)

[callmehales]

Oct 28, 2014 13:56:34 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Oct 28, 2014 13:53:16 GMT -5 callmehales said:

as least we can all be bitter together, lol!

i do feel really lucky to have a place like this to bitch and not have anyone say "oh don't worry, it'll happen!".

Shit, I'm not supposed to say that?   (devil)

lol, if only we'd all just RELAX.

[Mushe]

Oct 28, 2014 13:58:06 GMT -5 callmehales said:

Oct 28, 2014 13:56:34 GMT -5 Mushe said:

Shit, I'm not supposed to say that?   (devil)

lol, if only we'd all just RELAX.

Why didn't I think of that?  Lol.

[jac]

I totally get it. I have had friends tell me where I am 5% jealous/95% happy and others where it's more skewed. Especially the one that can't stop talking about how they got pregnant while purposely having unprotected sex during her supposed least fertile times.

[callmehales]

Oct 28, 2014 14:15:53 GMT -5 jac said:

I totally get it. I have had friends tell me where I am 5% jealous/95% happy and others where it's more skewed. Especially the one that can't stop talking about how they got pregnant while purposely having unprotected sex during her supposed least fertile times.

oh the ones who "end up" pregnant are the WORST.  if you are having sex and not using any sort of birth control...you're trying to get pregnant.  whether that's your plan or not.

my personal least favorite is a girl i know who accidentally got PG, then got HG and literally complains nonstop about how sick she is, how fat she is, how "baby girl will owe her one", etc etc.  SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP.

[achi]

Ugh, I'm sorry that's hard.

My usually spectrum of emotion goes jealousy, then sadness for myself, then happiness for my friend. But it can take a few days to get to the last one.

[kellikans]

My first reaction is jealousy, too. A friend of mine not 2 years ago didn't even want to get married or have kids and she's now married and 6 months pregnant (after telling me they only had sex once that month). I feel sorry for myself whenever I get home from hanging out with her and her DH.

[rockinrobyn]

I always start at jealousy too. Venture into sadness, then make it to happiness...eventually.
With my SIL I am still in sadness and she had the baby a week ago. Looks like this plan is not going well for me.

[shauni27]

I have so been there. And with one friend I have been 95% bitter and 5% happy, so you are nice than me.

PRAISE THE LITTLE BABY JESUS for this board. I feel so supported on here where I can say things like that and not feel totally awful (though I do feel awful).