See, I like kids! I work in education so I'm so used to kids. I'm just worried about my ability to keep a tiny human's shit together since I barely have a hold of my own.
There, too, you might surprise yourself. I regularly kill plants, for example. Have never been able to keep so much as a fern that didn't immediately commit suicide. But so far the kids are keeping it together admirably. lol.
I want kids (I think?) but reading posts here really scares me. I don't think I'm going to be a good mom.
Just to reiterate what Lucy said you may surprise yourself. I always wanted kids, tried hard to get pregnant, somewhere in the middle of doing that had a freak out because I wasn't even sure I liked kids. Turns out I don't care too much for other people's kids but my own is amazing. Some days I am an awesome mom, some days I am an okay mom, and some days I am a bad mom. In the end though I think DS will always know he is loved (possibly because I tell him like 50 times a day) and that is really what is important.
ETA I saw your follow up and if you manage to keep your kids shit together you will be doing better than somewhere around 93% of the parents out there, including this one.
I want kids (I think?) but reading posts here really scares me. I don't think I'm going to be a good mom.
You might surprise yourself. I have never, ever been a little-kid kind of person. It turns out I just hate everybody else's children. My own are totally copacetic.
lol
There are less than a handful of children ( other than my own) that I will tolerate.
I seem to be slipping in my ability to keep my trap shut around the other 98%. Oops.
There are so many different sports out there that it seems ridiculous to not expose kids to SOMETHING. I don't buy for a second that a kid would hate EVERY SPORT out there.
I didn't play any sports and I think I turned out ok. I'm just not coordinated, okay?! Plus I hate competition. Not everyone wants to be an athlete!
(((hugs))) It is okay to feel sad. Don't feel dumb, I am on CD 100 or something like that and I took another test the other day just to make sure it was my body being stupid. I was really upset when it was negative even though I am not trying and I knew it would be negative. I am not sure your backstory but fertility shit sucks.
Can't someone just be happy their kid is what they are without being all 'THANK GOD I don't have what you have?' Also, my girl has not cost me anything extra in terms of hair bows and fancy socks. Membership to the climbing wall, and new skates and skis, yes. Spending on our kids is not gender specific.
I'm thrilled to have my girl. I have spent minor amounts of money on hair bows and fancy socks, and she didn't want them. She'd rather run around with messy hair playing with Matchbox cars.
I can't wait to get her in skates. I bought a pair a few years ago but they were way too big. She might be able to fit into them this year. I can't wait!
I am having a conversation with my RE's nurse, but RE is out until next week. I haven't had a period since the beginning of Sept. And that one was chemically-induced due to my egg retrieval. I've been on BCP since CD1 of that period. At the end of each pack, my body gears up to bleed and then I wait and wait and nothing happens. Each month I've had exactly one red-tinged TP wipe. Before my ER, I was having midcycle bleeding, so this is really unusual. I've taken two pg tests, but the were old wondfos and probably not reliable.
It's nearly impossible that I am pregnant. But the thought both terrifies and excites me.
I am so glad H's coordination skills are limited to RPGs and FPSs on the PS3. My friend's H is on a hockey league in the winter and is gone like, 3 nights a week, and hockey is SO EXPENSIVE.
I played hockey for a few years when I was a teenager. I had a part-time job and spent all my money on used equipment. My parents helped me buy none of it (I realize they are not required to), not even when asked what I wanted as a gift. I was sure as hell kept stocked up with makeup, girly clothes, and other girly stuff I have no interest in. I think my mom had a hard time with the fact that her girl was a tomboy. And, yes, hockey shit is expensive! And it's not like you can start playing with just a random piece, you kind of need it all.
This makes me lol and lol and lol. The parents of girls I know spend shitloads more on other things. Having girls is no cheaper than boys.
She also has like 10 pairs of shoes. I don't even get off on buying her shoes. It's just that I don't want her to look stupid and girl shoes are just as outfit specific as women's shoes.
No they're not, lol. Signed, Mom of two girls who own two pairs of shoes. Ok Anna has three because one pair must stay at school.
The thing that makes me second-guess is that with the egg retrieval, there is actually a chance that there were spare eggs floating around... INCREDIBLY unlikely, since I didn't have sex at all until after my period was over, but wouldn't that be some shit?
so nobody else wonders if they are maybe a sociopath, incapable of relating to human emotion and their children will need one of those Harlow's monkey things for comfort?
Post by Jalapeñomel on Oct 29, 2014 17:19:49 GMT -5
I don't think kids have to be involved in sports, but I definitely think they need to be in some activities that require exercise. I don't want my son to be inside, playing games or watching movies all day.
so nobody else wonders if they are maybe a sociopath, incapable of relating to human emotion and their children will need one of those Harlow's monkey things for comfort?
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All I can think about is the golden girls episode with Stan attaching to the traffic cone .
OMG. My brother did this with sandwiches. I thought he was the only weirdo who did this.
Pew pew
My immediate thought upon seeing this pic: Christmas Present for H!! In the basement, of course. (And if one of you dares refer to OUR basement as a "man-cave," I'm gonna slap a bitch)
I don't think kids have to be involved in sports, but I definitely think they need to be in some activities that require exercise. I don't want my son to be inside, playing games or watching movies all day.
Oh I agree with this completely. I didn't play any sports, but I still spent tons of time playing outside with my friends - riding our bikes all over town, climbing trees, etc. No sports doesn't have to automatically = couch potato.
So his parents can put the money in and then he can do what he wants with it. They won't know if he's taken it out/moved it around.
It's an assy thing for them to do, so you guys should just lie.
littlesthobo I don't see what the big deal is that they want him to keep this gift as his separate asset from you. This is really common here in the US - for parents to gift money but with strings attached, it's some effort on their part to make sure that money is segregated from your marital assets.
I guess I don't see what's so foul about that, if I put myself in his parents' shoes.
Yes, I absolutely, logically understand this. Obviously there's a lot of history with my ILs that is shaping my view of this whole thing. FWIW, it's not like I'm going to say anything to them about it. I'll just sit here quietly muttering to myself. lol
I haven't read them all yet, but mine is that I went four years without a microwave. We moved to a house where the only appliance built in was a microwave and we had to use that and a crock pot for two weeks. Now I don't know how how I functioned so long with out one.
My XH is Hispanic. I always had anxiety about what to call his parents. In the last couple years of our marriage, I just started calling him Papi like everyone else did.
One of the things the husband and I are happy about regarding having a girl is the decreased likelihood of videogames entering our house. Neither one of us are gamers, and have zero interest in dropping that kind of $$.
Girls play video games too. You don't even want to know how much my DH has spent on cute skylanders for her.
so nobody else wonders if they are maybe a sociopath, incapable of relating to human emotion and their children will need one of those Harlow's monkey things for comfort?
:whistles innocently:
I do. I can be a very cold person. Especially if there is whining/pouting/crying involved.
littlesthobo I don't see what the big deal is that they want him to keep this gift as his separate asset from you. This is really common here in the US - for parents to gift money but with strings attached, it's some effort on their part to make sure that money is segregated from your marital assets.
I guess I don't see what's so foul about that, if I put myself in his parents' shoes.
Yes, I absolutely, logically understand this. Obviously there's a lot of history with my ILs that is shaping my view of this whole thing. FWIW, it's not like I'm going to say anything to them about it. I'll just sit here quietly muttering to myself. lol
I think it's like a pre-nup. There's no reason to keep inheritance and marital assets separate unless there's a divorce. It's like his parents are protecting his inheritance in case of a divorce.
Where you come down on whether that's legit is probably pretty close to where you'd come down on whether it's legit to insist (or have your spouse's parents insist) on a prenup.
so nobody else wonders if they are maybe a sociopath, incapable of relating to human emotion and their children will need one of those Harlow's monkey things for comfort?
:whistles innocently:
I'm here right now after dh and I spent 30 minutes each helping our kindergartener with homework only to have one of the pages disappear. The one Payne cried over and dh patiently cheered him through finishing, of course. We've torn the house apart and can't find it and OMG G totally hid it somewhere and we were both feeling incalculable levels of rage. I feel like a sucky parent at present.