I think you think that you are being flexible and breezy by not telling people what to do, but this is one of those situations where someone needs to just take charge. I wouldn't assign things (since you say someone is already complaining about making something again), but just post a list of what you feel would be a good addition and ask who wants to do what. Should be resolved by the end of the week?
Is there a new influx of significant others or something, I'm so confused about how a system that worked for 5 years is suddenly not working lol!
Is there a new influx of significant others or something, I'm so confused about how a system that worked for 5 years is suddenly not working lol!
No! That's what's puzzling me too!
So last night I did post a summary of who is bringing what, and mentioned a couple things that we usually have that aren't already claimed. The two people in particular who just keep asking didn't respond at all.
I'm taking that to mean they don't want to make any of those things, which is completely fine but then I'm out of ideas so they have to either come up with something or just not bring stuff.
Post by coribelle26 on Oct 30, 2014 12:23:03 GMT -5
Truth be told I would just rather make everything myself and that's what I do every other time I host something. This one just had a different set of traditions that are working out weirdly this year.
I would think it's me but I've hosted two other times without it being a struggle.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
Is it possible that everyone always brings the same things so they are tired of the same menu every year and are looking for new stuff to bring?
Well there was at least the one who was sick of making sweet potatoes, lol. We always have a really normal, typical Thanksgiving menu. It seems pretty standard, which is why I felt weird spelling out recommended items.
For what it's worth, sweet potato hater DID have some wacky other thing she said she wanted to make, and I thought that was great. She's not on my shit list.
I, personally, wouldn't rage about this and would just assign people stuff.
I do, however, rage about many, many things that people don't give half a rat's ass about, so I'M ON YOUR SIDE, CORI! Those bastards! Pick a dish and make it well!
This seems weird to me. People know what typical thanksgiving dishes are and they know how this has gone for the last five years. What's the problem? I don't know that I would be annoyed, but it is weird. I wouldn't want to be assigned a dish because I like to bring things I enjoy making. But if I was your friend I would have already told you what I was bringing and would not be on your shit list.
Is there a new influx of significant others or something, I'm so confused about how a system that worked for 5 years is suddenly not working lol!
No! That's what's puzzling me too!
So last night I did post a summary of who is bringing what, and mentioned a couple things that we usually have that aren't already claimed. The two people in particular who just keep asking didn't respond at all.
I'm taking that to mean they don't want to make any of those things, which is completely fine but then I'm out of ideas so they have to either come up with something or just not bring stuff.
Don't overthink it. Clearly they arent decision makers. now they know what others are bringing and hopefully they'll fill in the gaps.
IF they actually do ask again- direct them to the email. "You see what people are bringing (and then either) pick something that isn't taken (or) looks like we could use ___ or ___".
Post by MixedBerryJam on Oct 30, 2014 15:58:11 GMT -5
You at least need to decide the course: Bring an app; bring a dessert; bring a side. I don't know that I'd get more specific than that. I assume the host is making the turkey and therefore also the stuffing but if you have two green bean sides no one is going to write a bad yelp review. My chronically late friends I decided to assign an app one year; they still got there an hour late, so I don't do that anymore! They bring bread. Oh, and my brother, who doesn't cook at all, always brings a box of cheapo tupperware so everyone can bring home leftovers and I don't have to worry about getting containers back.
Post by coribelle26 on Oct 30, 2014 18:24:40 GMT -5
An update: one of the things I posted last night was "no one has claimed stuffing or sweet potatoes so those would be great!" And one of the people I was getting annoyed with responded this afternoon with "Can I just bring mashed potatoes and corn? I like plain foods." This is why I was reluctant to assign.
I will have you know I was super enthusiastic and positive in my response.
Maybe this has been worse in other years and I just didn't notice it because alcohol.