My older sister is bi-polar, and my parents have custody of her 2 kids. She's 32 years old, I can relate to the whole "hoping she'll get better somebody ... but that will never actually happen" thought process. It's tough, because she's a great source of stress and heartbreak for the entire family ... but she's also "family"
Anyway, I'm sending lots of good thoughts and prayers your way. If you ever want to talk, feel free to PM me <3
Post by whitemerlot on Oct 31, 2014 19:09:14 GMT -5
I don't really post here, but wanted to say I'm so sorry. My sister is very similar from what you have described here and I know I will get that call some day.
Post by miniroller on Oct 31, 2014 20:54:34 GMT -5
Ah Becky, also very sorry to hear about this very sad, very complicated situation. I know a couple of pp's have said this already, but I just want to make sure you hear it: nobody can tell you how to feel right now. Heck- it probably changes every hour. (& that's ok!!) Just try to get enough sleep/ rest & take one day @ a time, you poor dear. My heart goes out to you, as I can't imagine the emotional roller coaster. You will survive this awful situation, of course, & hopefully you're able to offer support to family members along the way. You'll be in my thoughts.
Post by sillygoosegirl on Oct 31, 2014 23:07:13 GMT -5
My schizophrenic uncle died earlier this summer. I'm not going to pretend that an uncle is like a sister, but I had a lot of the same mixed feelings, and it seemed like my parents and aunts and uncles did too. We always thought he would die young (in addition to the schizophrenia, he was morbidly obese, had uncontrolled diabetes, and was a chain smoker), so the fact that he lived to almost 70 should have been far more surprising than him dying, but... somehow it was still a pretty big shock. Nobody wanted to say it, but honestly, I think everyone was kind of relieved. There was sadness too, but I think the siblings had mostly worked through their grief for him decades earlier. I think only one story was shared of him after age 20-25.
I have a schizophrenic brother as well, whom I haven't spoken to it most of a year and am afraid of, so I imagine all this is in my future too. Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm sorry for your loss, and especially sorry that you really lost her so long ago and at such a young age.