Daycare - WWYD

[vanillacourage]

When I dropped DS2 off at daycare this morning there was a little boy who had just taken a header into a cabinet and already had a MAJOR goose egg popping up. The kiddo was sitting at the table holding an ice pack to it and just sobbing. The teacher (who I'm not familiar with) was standing next to him, not comforting him, rubbing his back or doing anything to try to calm him down. At one point she patted him on the head (as he's pitifully weeping) and said "I'm going to sit next to you at the table because I have to fill out the incident report".

I was just agog. If that was my kid so hurt and scared my heart would break if his teachers did so little to comfort him. Would you say anything to the director? I'm not trying to get anyone in trouble but it's seriously been bothering me all day.

[ssmjlm]

I would. I would be upset if my child wasn't comforted when hurt.

[sjh722]

I would be so sad if that was my DD, there alone and scared. I would say something in an FYI, not trying to get anyone in trouble, but thought you may want to know, way.

[6fsn]

It wouldn't cross my mind to say something to anyone. If the kid was at the whimper stage he had probably already been calmed down and consoled. I have a kid that will also scream until you leave him alone so I might be skewed.

[lmb5109]

I would say something. When I see something I don't like, I think what would I do if that was my kid.

[redheadk]

Oct 31, 2014 15:05:41 GMT -5 6fsn said:

It wouldn't cross my mind to say something to anyone. If the kid was at the whimper stage he had probably already been calmed down and consoled. I have a kid that will also scream until you leave him alone so I might be skewed.

She said he was sobbing. That would really upset me, I expect someone to pick my kid up and comfort her if she's sobbing.

I don't know what I'd say but it would definitely bother me.

[Ashley&Scott]

Yes I would say something to the director. That's awful, she should have been holding him, hugging him, rubbing his back, saying soothing words, etc.

[brooklyn]

That does sound upsetting, but her holding him may make it worse. My kid cries to the point of puking if anyone other than me or H tried to pick him up and console him.

[miniroller]

Non-mom who saw in recents. Ugh- I'm sorry you had to see this, but yes, I'd say something. Like you said, if this was your kid, you'd be (rightfully!) upset. Poor kid- I think I would've had a hard time not bumping bitchy-ass out of the way & giving him a cuddle!

[Deleted]

I don't know it's hard to say.
Any idea what happened beforehand?
I just say that because at work somedays I'm sure I appear to be the bitch teacher. But some kids in some situations are just better off left alone. I address it, hug them, move on and let them work it out. Otherwise, for some kids it becomes a huge all encompassing distraction. It could have happened 20 minutes before and been dealt with already, you know? After a point there's only so much you can do.

I know I do it with DD. She gets hurt, I give a quick consolation and move on or we have drama drama drama for the next 4 hours. DD can sob over nothing for hours if I engage it, long after the hurt has gone away.

If it just happened and nobody seemed to care then, yes, I'd address it.