Are there any widows here?

[lookingup]

I'm so sorry you're going through this, and I hope you find some of the support you need here.

Paging FormerlyRR.

[Deleted]

I know there are a couple. They are escaping me at the moment. I believe MixedBerryJam is one of them.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[mx27]

*hugs*

I wish you comfort and peace.

[cuddlyevil]

There are a few here FormerlyRR, and some others. I am so sorry for your loss.

[abcdefu]

I am so sorry for your loss! I'm glad you are seeking grief counseling and trying to take care of yourself for your daughter. My heart is breaking for you. ((hugs))

[MixedBerryJam]

Hi @nailbiter101. i was just thinking about you today, and wondering how you're getting on. i'm so, so sorry you're dealing with all this shit now. Are you in a face-to-face support group? I found that pretty helpful, if only because It was the only place I didn't feel like the weirdo everyone was hush-hush "She's the widow, you know" behind my back. i made some good friends there. Your pcp may have info about local groups, and certainly your towns human services dept will. Your daughter's pedi may have resources for how to help your daught heal, too. And maybe a hospital nearby, if you're in an urban area. It does suck, and it does get better, but there's a lot of ups and downs along the way. Are you eating and sleeping okay? Take care off yourself, and please ask for help. The people who love you want to help you.

[sweetchix]

I'm so sorry for your loss. So many hugs for you.

[prettyinpearls]

I'm so so sorry for your loss. ((hugs))

[1confused1]

I am sorry for your loss

[mcc]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength right now.

[peppermint]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength and peace.

[onedayatatime]

So sorry for your loss

[endorable]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Big, big internet hugs. I'm a widow too. I don't have children, but I lost my husband after only two years of marriage. Other posters have given some good suggestions and I'll just add that grief.net has some helpful resources. PM me as well is you want to talk.

[achase123]

I'm so sorry. Are you in counseling?

[Deleted]

I am so very sorry for you and your family's loss. Big big hugs.  Take one day at a time and don't make any big decisions for a while.   There are a few widows here and hopefully they'll chime in-- I know MBJ has already.

 My mom is twice a widow, so that's the only way I can sort of relate.  My dad passed when I was 5 ( so I can relate to what your daughter may be feeling at that age) and then my stepdad passed one year ago.   As a child, I think the biggest thing that helped me was for things to maintain some sort of normalcy--school, friends, dinner together every evening etc.  At age 5, I clearly remember not really understanding the concept of death.  Which, in one way was good.  If I can help in any way feel free to message or PM me.  Sending lots of positive thoughts and peace.  

[Nanook]

Hi there. First off, I want to say I am so sorry for the horrible loss you are experiencing. I was about to introduce myself to the board when I saw your post. You are certainly not alone. I just lost my dear sweet husband on 10/24 in a motorcycle accident. I am beside myself with grief. We do not have any children so I cannot even imagine the extra stress you are dealing with in that regard.

For myself, I am finding it helpful to surround myself with loved ones every day. For the first week I had a friend or my mom sleep with me. I am taking something to help me sleep so that I can focus on coping with my grief during the day. I'm having good moments, and moments where I'm breaking down. I'm having moments of anger and moments of denial. I think it's all normal to have these feelings and to have no idea where to turn or what to do. I hope that you are finding yourself as lucky as I am to be surrounded by an amazing support network. I am absolutely blown away by the love and support I have received.

I think the only advice I can give considering this is also very new to me and I think I am still in a bit of shock, is to just allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling. Be patient with yourself. This is unimaginable agony. I was lucky in life and I knew it. I knew I had a special love and did not take it for granted. I hope it is the same for you and that you can at least take solace in knowing that your husband knew he was loved and that you can have no regrets.

Grief counseling and a support group for widows I think is a great idea and something I will be pursuing myself. I have no idea if any of this helps you, but knowing we are not alone is a comforting thought to me. Feel free to PM if you would like to talk.

[riverpestie]

I am so very sorry for your loss.
:::HUGS:::

[kwynn]

I'm a widow - no kids, I was 27 when my late husband passed away (I'm 30 years old now). I know I'm late coming into this thread to respond, just wanted to reach out and send a message of support. I'm so sorry for your loss.