Correction: H overspent last month. I didn't realize how much he spent on his hobby supplies until I checked the bank account last night when I was online shopping for bedding and found that we have no money. As in, barely enough to pay our bills this month without dipping into savings. Normally that's not a big deal and we would just stop spending for a few months to build up our non-savings reserve for whatever, but my birthday is in a couple of weeks.
Now, I'm not crazy materialistic and I don't expect him to break the bank for birthday presents, but I planned six months ahead to get him what I thought was a perfect birthday gift (Our OOT concert/trip this weekend). I guess I'm just feeling a bit hurt that he didn't even stop to think about how much he was spending on himself and if that would impact our ability to do something for my birthday. Or Christmas, for that matter.
Along with that, we won't be able to finish redecorating the bedroom right now, either.
That would really annoy me too . It was inconsiderate of him. I hope he manages to come up with something you enjoy for your birthday.
My vent is that my neighbor insists on constantly parking in front of the mailboxes. He does this often, and I'm tired of waiting days for my mail to be delivered.
DH doesn't have a good concept on how our money situation is. I take care of all of the bills and birthday/Christmas/whatever extra shopping. He never gets me anything for my birthday but he always charges like $300-$400 on the credit card for something big for me for Christmas. He never checks to see if we have money or not, just buys something cause he thinks I will like it.
I appreciate that he tried to find something special but I wish he would stay more to a budget and use money in our checking account rather then just charging things.
That would irritate me a lot, I would be hurt too. I'm sorry you're going through this I hope that he ends up doing something really special for your birthday to make up for this! Could he return anything that he hasn't used yet?
Ugh. Money stuff frustrates me to no end. I'm sorry you're dealing with this katespade
I could vent all day about my one coworker that makes me asking her to do her job feel SO inconvenient for her. Or about the terrible drivers in this town because I almost got hit AGAIN today in a double turn lane. But I'm still stuck at work and starving! Grr!
Post by rockinrobyn on Nov 3, 2014 20:30:25 GMT -5
I am really sorry you are dealing with that. I don't know a lot about our finances, but I do check before I spend.
My vent is that one of my therapists is going to be out for 4 weeks at the minimum because she has some stress fractures in her leg. Just means that my month got a whole lot more crazy with trying to find coverage. Bleh...
Thank you, everyone. I've been feeling like a brat for having hurt feelings. I know that he didn't do it on purpose. I spent some money last month and we bought the bedroom furniture so he's not totally to blame. Neither of us were paying attention when we should have been.
jjwritergirl - We usually do have certain amounts that we know we can spend each month. Somehow October just got away from us. It's not even that big of a deal. I mean, it's just my birthday. I have one every year. It's not like it's a once in a lifetime opportunity. We still have enough money to pay our bills without dipping into savings, which is what really matters.
travelbug - None of the things he buys are returnable. I wouldn't ask him to do that even if it was an option. I would feel so terrible asking him to give up things he already has so that he can spend money on me.
My vent is the stupid elevator at target broke today (target is on the fourth floor of the building) so we had to take the escalator, fold the stroller, and hold the carrier. Luckily we were able to carry all our bags down because the people in front of us on the escalator had their cart get stuck on the cart escalator.