What do you do on awful, terrible, no good days? I've had absolutely shitty situations arise in the last few weeks. How do you cope? I'm looking for an answer that isn't alcohol. Thanks!
Take a bath & read something light Go to bed early Fake it 'till I make it Make an extra effort to do something kind for someone else (making others smile automatically lifts my spirits, too) Call a friend Consider the day a wash and prepare to start the next day as positive as possible Allow myself a good cry when needed Listen to music Pray
Sorry you've had a rough time lately. I hope whatever is going on will pass quickly.
Post by compassrose on Nov 22, 2014 7:52:12 GMT -5
Sometimes I binge watch netflix, but honestly I tend to feel worse afterward.
Reading a silly, light book where nothing bad happens helps. Talking to my mom or my BFF helps. Playing with my dog. Curling up with my SO when he's here.
Cooking a real meal, and sometimes planning a dinner party helped with long term stress/anxiety/depression. I had something to look forward to and keep me busy, too much to do to stay in bed and the support of good people when it happened.
In general, I found getting a dog more helpful than therapy (in retrospect, my therapist sucked). I had to get up every morning, I had to feed someone, someone was always happy to see me and wanted to cuddle.
I don't remember your backstory, but I feel you. We are here b
Post by MixedBerryJam on Nov 22, 2014 8:03:36 GMT -5
I go to bed early (related: cuddle with my pets).
I also pay closer attention to taking my meds (which I get a little lax about) and vitamins. I absolutely believe taking my vitamin and iron and D3 religiously help me handle stress better.
I tell someone. Not in a "please be my therapist" kind of way, but somehow someone else acknowledging that my day sucks makes the day suck a little less. This also makes it easier to find a positive sometimes, too.
Post by Booze Raccoon on Nov 22, 2014 8:28:34 GMT -5
I try to focus on what is positive in my life. If need be I'll even make a list of things that make me smile. Listen to music Talk it out with my BFF, husband or mom. Play with my DD. She is full of happiness and innocence. Read (if I can concentrate). Take a hot bath. A hot cup of tea.
I like to talk it out with H ad nauseum. If I am really stressed about something, running through it with him really helps me out.
I read a good book or put on a favorite TV show to lose my mind in something else for awhile.
If the weather cooperates, going for a long hike at the nature center can de-stress me for at least a few hours. I love losing myself in nature. We try to hike every Sunday to get refreshed before the new work week.
Playing/cuddling with my dog instantly makes me happy.
Post by mrsukyankee on Nov 22, 2014 9:03:02 GMT -5
I try to look at whether there was anything I could have controlled in the situation - if nothing, then I let it go, take a hot bath/snuggle with my dog/play on here or vent...if there is something, then I figure out what to do in the future so it doesn't get to this point, then let it go, etc.
Post by Captain Serious on Nov 22, 2014 9:39:50 GMT -5
I get through them minute by minute, knowing that things can't always stay that bad. If you don't look at everything that's tough at once, but only at what's right in front of you, if makes it easier to tackle.
I also try to get outdoors, even if it's just drinking my coffee while walking. Something about being outside usually rejuvenates me and puts things in perspective.
Post by cherryvalance on Nov 22, 2014 9:56:38 GMT -5
I do whatever feels good to me that day. If it's a glass of wine, then that's it. If it's snuggling with the dog or buying new shoes, I just do whatever feels right. Be kind to yourself.
Stay home - the public is not my friend when I'm blue.
Watch TV - soaps, reality, movies from my teen years, SATC. Exercise - release of endorphins does help Bubble bath - with a book or magazine - it does help
I volunteer at an animal rescue and since it's a no-kill and not a depressing environment, going there to walk and play with pups is helpful to me.
I go shopping and treat myself to something, even if it's just an iced coffee and walking around target.
Personally, relaxing at home just makes me sink further. I need to get dressed, be in public, etc in order to stop feeling like a dementor sucking the happiness from my surroundings.
Post by marylennox on Nov 22, 2014 14:54:32 GMT -5
I had a rough day recently and really felt like I needed to just cry it out. So I went home and put on Grey's anatomy (something I can always count on to make me cry lol). It really did make me feel better. Then the next day I treated myself to a mani/pedi, which also made me feel better. Hugs OP.