Ferber day 1 done. Lovey question

[pierogigirl]

I didn't feel comfortable with loveys until they were older (18 months or so), but not for Ferber reasons. Lots of moms on MMM have angeldear loveys. I'm not sure when they started using them. It has not been my experience that a lovey created problems (unless it gets lost and you don't have a spare).

[arch01]

Give the kid a lovey. Screw Ferber on this.

Hope today is better!

[Deleted]

The goal is to move your kid away from sleep crutches that require your intervention and toward ones (like white noise, sleep sack, dark room) that don't. To me, a lovey is somewhere in the middle and if you have a child that seems to crave one, I'd give it to him.

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I vote let him have a lovey. DS's sleep got much much better once he fell in love with his Cat lovey at 18 months old. Like @vicmo said, his lovey is his everything. I've never seen someone love an inanimate object so much.

[anna7602]

I never did Ferber, but my 4-month old has a lovey (Angel Dear) and I often find him snuggling with it in the MOTN when I walk in and am not sure if he's waking up to feed. Many times, he just settles back down for another few hours without needing me at all.

My 6-year-old still sleeps with her Angel Dear lovey. I don't see this as a problem.

I always thought sleep crutches were things like nursing to sleep, bouncing/rocking to sleep, using the stroller/swing, or bringing the baby into your bed, basically, things the baby can't recreate for him/herself alone in a crib. FWIW, I have done all of these, so it's not like I am trying to pretend I'm above sleep crutches. I just never thought a lovey was an issue.

Even in "get your kid to STTN at 2 days old" France, a lovey was on the list of preschool supplies, to be used for the afternoon nap.

[arebee]

I must have misread the book. I thought he was ok with special objects (or whatever he called them in the book). He talks about blankets and/or giving your baby a special object (or whatever). Maybe he meant for older ages? Or I am just confused.

DD has a lovely. She is 7 months old and fairly good at finding it in the crib.

ETA: he calls it a transitional object.

[heygrey]

give him a lovey! I just did some quick research the other day and it said lovey after 6 months, provided the baby can roll well both ways, and it should be about the size of their head. so small stuffy or a small blanket that they can easily grasp.

I introduced a lovey a week ago. I stuffed it in my bra for a while so it smelled like me and then gave it to him at our last nurse before sleep. I haven't done that since, it just lives in the crib, but it helped him make that first connection. now he's started to search for it the minute he hits the mattress.

if we use sleep crutches as adults why can't babies have something? h and I sleep with a fan on. we each have specific pillows that we like. as long at the crutch doesn't involve me getting up all night, R can have whatever he damn well pleases