Hugs, chickens. I know that when I feel attacked, I don't always handle it in the most mature way. So I get where he's coming from. My hope is that a little time and distance will cool his head more, and rational talks will actually start to make sense again, rather than making him feel that you're siding against him
Post by oliviapope on Nov 29, 2014 14:17:21 GMT -5
It definitely sounds like your H has his own issues to work on for sure. However, could you maybe help him move on from this particular episode by working to solve the problem? It seems as if the problem is actually that you and your H and you BIL and sis need to set some ground rules for discipline when the kids are around each other.
Maybe start by asking your H his idea on handling discipline between Nephew and DD. It is so easy to slip and be "harsh" with another child when we are being all mam bear/daddy bear. It sounds like that isn't working for your sis and BIL, so come up with a plan on how to work this out in the future. This way he can focus on solving this actual issue and maybe move on from the "accusations". Maybe it is as simple as removing one child and sharing information with the parents. You just all need to be on the same page so that the "tattling" doesn't cause an issue as well.