I just realized that my son is unlikely to get any of the top items he's asked santa for, and I feel terrible about it. Especially because:
1. He has pored over his list (which started at 20 items) and narrowed it down to only 3 or 4 things, and 2. there is a high likelihood that this is going to be his last year as a believer.
One of the things was only eliminated for price, so I may try to convince my husband to spend a little more for the sake of Christmas magic.
This would make me sad too. Hopefully you can convince your H to spend a little more. What are the items?
shell24 He asked for Skylanders Trap Force, but we only have a regular Wii. I just looked at reviews, and apparently there is a bad glitch in the Wii version because the system is too old to handle the new games. He also asked for a game called Lego City Undercover, which is not even available for Wii. He's absolutely not getting an upgraded game system, so those 2 things are out.
He also asked for some Lego sets that I just realized are $75+. We already got him loose Legos (because he won't let anyone else touch or take apart his sets) and really didn't want to spend that much on a set. We don't have a huge Christmas budget, and I wanted him to get some non-Lego things too.
The other thing he wants is a puppy.
So... expensive Lego City set is the only one that's even a possibility.
Oh yeah, that's tough. My SIL was just telling me how her Wii, that is I think 3 years old, is super outdated and they don't make games for it anymore. Same thing with the xbox I guess, that my other nephew has. I can appreciate new technology but it's ridiculous you'd have to upgrade a $300 system in just a couple of years.
My 15 mo has been throwing food a lot lately. I know he's hungry, and I know he knows he shouldn't do it. Wtf do I do? A few times I've said, "ok that's it, no more food" and taken it away. But then I feel like a shit mom. (He's still nursing, so I don't think he's going to starve...)
Ugh.
Do you give him all his food at once in the beginning of the meal?
We used to give DS 1/4 of his food at a time. If he had a ton of food on his tray he was more likely to throw it.
My toddler woke up with a fever this morning, so today's been a lot of laying around, watching TV, trying to get him to rest. I did some online shopping and bought a bunch of clothes I didn't need, but they're cute!
what all did you get?
3 shirts from the gap From banana republic: A black lace dress A black jersey dress with elbow length sleeves A really cute navy blue sleeveless top And a drapey shirt in three diff colors
I had a lot more in the cart (over $1000! ?) but I put a lot back bc I couldn't justify that even with the 40% off sale.
How do I get my 2 year old to stop hitting when he gets mad? We're doing the whole don't hit, it's not nice thing or just flat out ignoring it but it's not helping. And everything I read says not to hit back so we aten't spanking or anything. He's been hitting in the face though so we need to nip it in the bud right now. I don't know what else to do.
My son was hitting a lot and we started doing time outs. He'd hit and we'd warn him if he hit again he'd have to go to time out. We do one minute of time out for each year of age and we sit with him in a TO (he's only 1.5, he'd run away if we didn't have him in our laps) and explain why he's in TO. When the time is up he has to give the person he hit a hug as an apology.
3 shirts from the gap From banana republic: A black lace dress A black jersey dress with elbow length sleeves A really cute navy blue sleeveless top And a drapey shirt in three diff colors
I had a lot more in the cart (over $1000! ?) but I put a lot back bc I couldn't justify that even with the 40% off sale.
Wow! this is terrific. what a great new bunch of clothes!
I love shopping and have a closet bursting with clothes already, but I couldn't resist. I used ebates though, so I did get 10% cash back!
Do you give him all his food at once in the beginning of the meal?
We used to give DS 1/4 of his food at a time. If he had a ton of food on his tray he was more likely to throw it.
No, usually just a bit at a time. Sometimes only a single piece, depending on his behavior. Grrrrrrrr. lol But yeah, if he has a lot he chucks it or flails his arms around his tray so it goes flying.
Also, we're OOT and its crazy dry, too, so DS' eczema is awful, too. I feel you. Except I forgot all of his stuff. I miss our humidifier.
Hmm... does he throw it at certain times? Like my DS would scarf down a bunch of food and throw it towards the end so I figured he was done.
Another thing we do is give him his fork/spoon when he starts throwing. He usually focuses on using those if we wait. In the beginning he's too hungry to use them anyway. He will do one or two fork stabs and then give up and grab a fistful
How do I get my 2 year old to stop hitting when he gets mad? We're doing the whole don't hit, it's not nice thing or just flat out ignoring it but it's not helping. And everything I read says not to hit back so we aten't spanking or anything. He's been hitting in the face though so we need to nip it in the bud right now. I don't know what else to do.
Take him by the hands, look him firmly in the eye, say in the Voice Of Authority " WE DO NOT HIT" and take him and put him in his room and tell him he can come out when he's going to not hit anyone anymore. When he comes out, fix him with a firm glare and ask if he's ready to quit hitting and be pleasant. He'll say yes, most likely.
We are doing the first part of this now. I grab his hands and tell him we do not hit very firmly, then remove him from the situation, but don't put him in his room. It's more of a re-direct type tactic.
Whatever we decide to do, we are going to have to tell both sets of grandparents and daycare so that we are all reinforcing the same things with him in regards to hitting.
I have compassion fatigue. How do you combat feeling like this when bad things keep happening to one person and the other just handles the fall out?
I am tired
I hate compassion fatigue. It usually arises in me when I secretly feel that the person to whom the shit keeps happening has some role in generating their own shitstorms.
Thank you for responding.
What you said is likely true. Dh could not have prevented the great shitshow of 2013, but he could have taken steps to actively deal with the aftermath. There is a tiny little window in the victim mentality where I can have the ctj talk without feeling like kicking him when he's down. I missed it again tonight.
DH put his head on my stomach earlier and the baby kicked him right in the ear. He thought it was so cool.
My MIL is hosting a "surprise" baby shower for us tomorrow (we found out from H's cousin by accident during thanksgiving dinner). I'm excited and so grateful. I'm also really hoping I don't cry.
My dh and I had a huge blowout yesterday on thanksgiving. I hate our relationship right now and I really dislike the person my husband has become. I never thought that my life could turn out this way. We used to be so happy. My husband Is away and I'm seriously contemplating discussing separation with him.
My dh and I had a huge blowout yesterday on thanksgiving. I hate our relationship right now and I really dislike the person my husband has become. I never thought that my life could turn out this way. We used to be so happy. My husband Is away and I'm seriously contemplating discussing separation with him.
@cse1960 The TV is mine! DH said he will install the wall mount and TV sometime this coming week after I have everything put away (so he can actually get to the spot I want it hung up - there is currently crap all over the floor).
Now I just have to get Chromecast or some other internet app enabler since it doesn't have built in WiFi. (goes to hunt for upcoming Cyber Monday deals...)