So far, but DD2 is only 3 weeks old, lol. She's been an incredible sleeper though (knock on wood) and I think my confidence in nursing a second time around had made that easier too.
Post by dcrunnergirl on Nov 30, 2014 22:05:47 GMT -5
This was true for the first year....DS2 was so easy. But since he's become somewhat mobile, he's much harder, whinier, and more difficult to entertain than my other two were combined.
Post by redpenmama on Nov 30, 2014 22:07:41 GMT -5
My second was a much easier newborn than my first, who was/is high needs. DS is definitely not an easy baby, but he is easier than DD, so that's something.
My second has been 100 times easier than my first but that was definitely not the case with me and my sister so it's not a guarantee. I am the youngest and I didn't sleep through the night until I was 3. I was sick all the time and required a ton of attention. My mom swears that if I would have come first they would have never had another child.
Post by curbsideprophet on Nov 30, 2014 22:52:44 GMT -5
For us, so far, yes the second baby has been easier. I did not really enjoy the newborn stage with DD and was worried about how it would with DS. DS is a different baby and we are more experienced. I loved the newborn stage with him! He will be six months soon and I realize things could change, but I am more open to the idea of a third now than before he was born.
As babies my second and third were easier for the most part, mostly because I knew what I was doing and was more chill. As toddlers/older kids they aren't necessarily easier, but I'm pretty breezy now so it's fine.
Post by statlerwaldorf on Nov 30, 2014 23:08:06 GMT -5
My second has been a lot more difficult, but that's just his temperament. He was colicky and it was really hard. Now that he's a little older, he loves watching his older sister and she loves giving him attention which does make it a little easier.
Ugh, do not let this factor into your decision. What if your kid is the exception? Send him or her back?
haha! Nope I am not going to let this be a factor because apparently it's not always the case At least I won't be holding a lot of hope that the 2nd baby (when we do have one) will be less clingy and more independent than DS. He/she will just be whatever she wants to be
Post by dulcemariamar on Dec 1, 2014 2:20:53 GMT -5
I think it is better to look at the big picture. You have to be with the kid for at least 18 years. If you get an easy baby it doesn't mean that you are set for the next 18 years. I am sure that each kid has a horrible stage. Some just start off that way but it doesn't mean you are doomed for life.
Not at all. DS2 sleeps like crap. DS1's sleep habits were also pretty shitty, but he would at least go 4-5 hours at night. DS2 is every 1-2. Ugh. DS2 has mspi which is awful when he has an excema flare up and scratches like crazy. During the day DS1 is able to occupy him for a few minutes, but then he always wants to be held.
Post by asoctoberfalls on Dec 1, 2014 6:34:31 GMT -5
Just wanted to say we are in the exact same boat. Before we had kids, we thought we wanted 2-3. DS is 3 now, and parenting has been way more difficult than we expected. We are considering being OAD. I want another, because I recognize that this is only a short phase and they won't be this needy forever. DH would be OAD but is willing to have another because he knows I want to. But some days, I think i would be ok being OAD. Those are the bad days.
Parenting is way harder than either of us expected.
In my case yes, baby 2 is 100% easier and more independent, pretty much from birth! For one thing, we know much better what we're doing and what to expect. But even temperament-wise, ds2 is extremely content to just be on his own. It was much easier to adjust to life with 2 kids than it was going from child free to parents.
Post by formerlyllizzyb on Dec 1, 2014 8:31:32 GMT -5
I'm hopeful #2 will be an easier baby. But I'm also planning on shit hitting the fan once she's mobile. DS wasn't and still isn't the "into everything type" and he never put stuff in his mouth. I'm sure I'm doomed.
DD has been a breeze of a baby and DS was a pretty good baby for the most part. I think the fact that you have experience makes second babies easier in general.